Trying to have a baby (warning: sexually oriented!)

[newguy]

[font=verdana, arial, helvetica]Hello,
My wife and i have been married for two years now. We have long wanted a child, but due to professional jobs and situations, we have been unable to start making one until now. Problem is, I can't seem to [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] during sex "all of a sudden." Over the last year, reaching [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] was really more common for my wife than for me... the sex has kind of lost its lustre. It seems more like a task now than a pleasure.
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[font=verdana, arial, helvetica]At any rate, i really want to have a baby. I am trying my hardest NOW to reach where i have to be. When we first started, please note i wasn't trying this hard. After over a week of sex sometimes twice a day, and never being able to reach [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] once, my wife has gotten very irritated with me as if its my fault. To top off not helping our having a child scenario, this is putting undue stress on the marriage.
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[font=verdana, arial, helvetica]I am only 26 and she is 23. We are both attractive young professionals, and she is an ex-model.... so i'd like to think its not an attraction thing... i seem to have lost my entire sex drive, and this worries me. This is especially important as we are trying to have a baby.

If you have any help or advice i would greatly appreciate it. [/font][font=verdana, arial, helvetica]

-newguy[/font]

(for anyone that was offended, i apologize. This is a real situational problem i am having and i need a serious answer.)

 

[InnerPhyre]

Have you gone to see a doctor?

 

[JillLars]

See a doctor.

This could be stress related, the pressure of trying to create a baby could be ruining the mood for you. I guess I don't know for sure, but I have heard that anxiety/stress can be one of the greatest causes of erectile dysfunction.

 

[Tangnefedd]

See a doctor.

This could be stress related, the pressure of trying to create a baby could be ruining the mood for you. I guess I don't know for sure, but I have heard that anxiety/stress can be one of the greatest causes of erectile dysfunction.

I agree the harder you try for a baby the less likely you are going to get results. If all your sexual activity is geared to having a baby it is no wonder the earth doesn't move for you. Relaxation techniques might help, but i think you should seek professional help.

 

[Echoes Peak]

Maybe because now you're "trying" to have a baby, you've placed undue stress on yourself. Is it possible that your psychological is playing a factor? Maybe just trying to balance your work life, and your married life and your sex life, might make it harder to get it together in the bedroom. If you haven't been having sexual problems before, maybe you might just to need to relax, and thought think of each situation as possibly resulting in a pregnancy but rather just enjoy yourself.

 

[steelmagnolia]

you are TOO TOO TOO stressed over this! RELAX and be sexually intimate when the mood hits.

Story about me: I'm 35 now but when I was in my early 20's my husband and I were trying to conceive. We had to see a doctor and had to do artificial insemination. I was on clomid, I was on HCG AND I was having ultrasounds to tell me EXACTLY when I was ovulating and when the insemination proceedure had to be done. Look, I was going to doctors that knew their stuff! Still, with first baby it took 6 months and with second baby it took 4 months. I was in the words of the doctors "VERY fertile" and I had no fertility problems. Our situation was male based.

Before I got pg with baby number 1, I was SO upset and cried "I'm seeing the best doctors, nothing could be more pin point perfect." After the 5th month failed, I cried in my prayer "God, I can't do this anymore. I give it all to you now." And do you know I got pregnant with the 6th try/month.

What I'm saying is this, you and wife need to relax. It seems it is much easier to get pg in the back of a car at age 16. That fact was hard for me to accept too. Don't time your encounters. Just relax. And after 6 to 9 months of no pregnancy, then go see your doctor.

 

[Cright]

I suggest doing a search on WebMd.com

 

[watcher16]

[font=verdana, arial, helvetica]We have long wanted a child, but due to professional jobs and situations, we have been unable to start making one until now. Problem is, I can't seem to [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] during sex "all of a sudden." Over the last year, reaching [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] was really more common for my wife than for me... the sex has kind of lost its lustre. It seems more like a task now than a pleasure.[/font]

Hello newguy,

I would like to agree with steelmagnolia very much.

Have you thought about the possibility that your mind is subconsiously still saying "due to professional jobs and situations, we ARE unable to start making one"? Maybe in reality your mind doesn't think the situation right yet?

Also, do both of you really want the commitment of having a child? Do you really want her to be the mother of your children?

Tough questions, but you need to find out. Good luck.

 

[DO/JD]

Newguy you are suffering from anorgasmia

Reading your narration, I tend to believe you have actually overstrained your sex organs.

Having sex at the rate you are you must have practically depleted your neurotransmitters so that the climax is not easily reached.

I recommend you see a doctor for obvious reasons. However, it is also obvious that to continue in that trend you could cause yourself a mild temporary case of impotence.

I recommend you allow some resting periods, eat well, balanced, take supplements and when possible a weight gainer for energy. For [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] it is well documented to use Histadine an amino acid. Best regards.

 

[6xmeup]

try new things... different positions.. and... talk to your wife... take a break... and instead of "trying" just... be chill... and... find a point where ur happy with having sex again... sex shoudlnt be a chore but something beautiful between two people. . . in addition.. you dont want to have had to "try" to have this child.. and have it be a "task" or chore.. you want this baby to be a union of your everlasting love for one another and an expresson of that love thro love making... not.. a chore... so when youre up for it again... get you men ready and CHARGE!!!! love it when a man just dominates me... maybe try to cum the same time she [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]? so it opens up more ... *winK*

 

[desi]

I suggest a month long vacation with the cell phones off. Don't have sex unless you want to or if she is at the right time in her cycle. Eat lots of shellfish and raw vegetables, lay off of refined sugars like bread or soda.

 

[mibashful]

i have also heard try to have a different position and try to find a nice dr and just forget about having a babby and just enjoy each others company thats how my mom got pregnant with me she tried 1 day after her cycle and boom this was the end of the 6 yr wait. because here i am.

 

[Tuffguy]

LOL,,,i guess i can't really feel sorry for you. You're getting laid 2 times a day with a model wife. hahaha,,,ok,,all kidding aside.

Its in your head man. Whenever there is a problem look at what changed. It sounds like it was just the situation that changed. Take your time with your wife and TALK to her.