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Trying something new

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Anyone really stretch themselves and try something totally out of character?

Since my husband died, I have been trying to learn who I am without him. I have returned to school out of necessity but have picked a career goal that fits me. Step one.

I have about 8 months to just get my life in order before the RN program begins. My son needs to lose a bit of weight (or grow a couple inches) before this summer to go on a big backpacking trip with Boy Scouts. I have teamed up with him and we are working on losing weight together. I am finding it easier to commit when my commitment is to him...if I cheat, it feels like I've betrayed him...so this is good. I have also registered us all in a couple water exercise classes at the Y. Good life habits modeled for my family. Step two.

I have always had a million kids in my life and I have recently started volunteering with a new Cub Scout pack that needs experienced leadership. I also am going to teach a couple weekly classes for homeschoolers on American history. (I homeschool my kids). I am starting to use my God-given talents again. Step three.

Today in church, our pastor challenged us to join him in the Chicago marathon. He wants 200 people to run with him and we will be raising money to build fresh water wells in Kenya. I have never been fond of runners...I've known too many people who have let it consume their lives at the expense of those that they should value. However, I feel strangely drawn to trying this. The church is encouraging complete beginners to do this and will help us by giving emotional support and a guide in how to do this. I am so "not a runner" but for the only time in my life, I find I do have time to prepare for this one race. I hate to run...but find myself now living in a real family oriented town where you see runners of very size and shape just running through the neighborhoods. The icing on the cake was when I saw that the race takes place on my birthday.

I have had to prove that I am more capable than anyone imagined over the last few years. For some absolutely crazy reason, I almost feel the need to run this 27 mile race to prove that I can do this...and because it would also raise money to help people who really are in need, this would be running with a real purpose. My son doesn't want to run the race but said he would train with me. I am thinking about getting my daughter to join us.

Has anyone else tried something that was a real stretch and found that it was worth it? Anyone else had something that they have wanted to do but just are afraid to try? I feel the need to fill my life with things that help me not feel my singleness so much and bring me back out into the community I live in. I think this one absolutely crazy thing might be a good thing. However, it scares me to death...
 

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I went to another forum I am on (for widows) and someone just commented to a post I made a while ago. The post was about remembering how focusing on the future can be overwhelming and to remember to keep my thoughts more on the here and now. The race is in 9 months. I CAN focus on 9 months without the panic setting in.

I not ready to commit yet...but I think I might try the training schedule this week and think about it. It only calls for a 20 min run/walk each day ( 2 min run...1 min walk)...and I CAN do that if I focus on one minute at a time. (Hmmm...I think I may already be seeing where my lesson from God might be taking me...how much can get done if the focus is only one minute at a time.)
 
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Black ... very impressive. Good to see you going after what you want and need in your life.

I don't know that I'm doing much that is a big stretch for me. Tho I have taken a job 16 months ago that is having me learn a lot more about what I've done for the last 25 years.

With my divorce I moved into a rented room for 4 yrs. Love it there. Didn't plan to own a home again. But I had to move with the job and with home prizes being so low, it seemed like a good investment to buy another home. As with my pervious homes, it needs work and has an apartment I rent. So quite a bit of responcibility.

So, while nothing is really new, its not a relaxing time either!
 
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getting a second job was a stretch for me.

letting a teenager friend of my son's move in was a stretch for me. (Thankfully he has moved out now)

joining my 3rd Bible study with mostly couples was again a stretch for me.

I think you should go for it!
 
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Anyone really stretch themselves and try something totally out of character?

Since my husband died, I have been trying to learn who I am without him. I have returned to school out of necessity but have picked a career goal that fits me. Step one.

I have about 8 months to just get my life in order before the RN program begins. My son needs to lose a bit of weight (or grow a couple inches) before this summer to go on a big backpacking trip with Boy Scouts. I have teamed up with him and we are working on losing weight together. I am finding it easier to commit when my commitment is to him...if I cheat, it feels like I've betrayed him...so this is good. I have also registered us all in a couple water exercise classes at the Y. Good life habits modeled for my family. Step two.

I have always had a million kids in my life and I have recently started volunteering with a new Cub Scout pack that needs experienced leadership. I also am going to teach a couple weekly classes for homeschoolers on American history. (I homeschool my kids). I am starting to use my God-given talents again. Step three.

Today in church, our pastor challenged us to join him in the Chicago marathon. He wants 200 people to run with him and we will be raising money to build fresh water wells in Kenya. I have never been fond of runners...I've known too many people who have let it consume their lives at the expense of those that they should value. However, I feel strangely drawn to trying this. The church is encouraging complete beginners to do this and will help us by giving emotional support and a guide in how to do this. I am so "not a runner" but for the only time in my life, I find I do have time to prepare for this one race. I hate to run...but find myself now living in a real family oriented town where you see runners of very size and shape just running through the neighborhoods. The icing on the cake was when I saw that the race takes place on my birthday.

I have had to prove that I am more capable than anyone imagined over the last few years. For some absolutely crazy reason, I almost feel the need to run this 27 mile race to prove that I can do this...and because it would also raise money to help people who really are in need, this would be running with a real purpose. My son doesn't want to run the race but said he would train with me. I am thinking about getting my daughter to join us.

Has anyone else tried something that was a real stretch and found that it was worth it? Anyone else had something that they have wanted to do but just are afraid to try? I feel the need to fill my life with things that help me not feel my singleness so much and bring me back out into the community I live in. I think this one absolutely crazy thing might be a good thing. However, it scares me to death...
Honey, if you feel you can do it, then I say more power to you!! Go for it girlfriend! kudos to you! :thumbsup::clap:
 
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oh and "stretches" are the norm anymore for me..lol. I started school again 4 years ago. I am a Bible major/with Christian Counseling as a minor..

I think though I may try to learn to play tennis..

Also, am beginning to work out this week or next at Planet Fitness with my daughter.
 
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Honey, if you feel you can do it, then I say more power to you!! Go for it girlfriend! kudos to you! :thumbsup::clap:

You know, there is something in me that says I can do anything that I need to do. (Okay, I couldn't shoot the cat to put it out of its misery after I hit it with my car...but I did discontinue treatment and allow the love of my life to escape his damaged body so that he could go to Jesus without me.)

And as silly as this sounds, this race is one of the first things that put a little fear in my heart. 27 miles is a long way...even to walk. And I hate running. However, I do feel like this is something I am supposed to do. I am starting to believe that this is going to be a lesson in "yes, I can do anything through Christ who strengthens me" and "learning to lean on God in every task in my day".

This is also not about me. I don't want cheers. I'd rather stand behind the curtain and let someone else take the credit. However, as I run around life with a water bottle in my hands just because it is more convenient than using a fountain, by running this race I can help build water wells in Kenya so someone else can just have some fresh water. I don't ever see myself getting the opportunity to go to Kenya in person but I can make a difference by doing this one relatively little thing.

My mom is normally the person who tells me why I shouldn't do something. When I told her I was thinking about this, she said that she thought I should and she would fly in to be with the kids and watch me race. I think I have my answer to what I am supposed to do. Now I get to ache my way to the lessons that God wants me to learn.
 
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Trust and obey....it's the only way! You will probably be blessed in ways you cannot even think or fathom. Yes dear, you have your answer. It still may not seem like it even after the race is over, so keep your expectations on feelings low, but your expectations on blessings, whether for you or other people high.
 
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Trust and obey....it's the only way! You will probably be blessed in ways you cannot even think or fathom. Yes dear, you have your answer. It still may not seem like it even after the race is over, so keep your expectations on feelings low, but your expectations on blessings, whether for you or other people high.

How are you today Michelle ? :hug:
 
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