Hi, I'm an 18 year old senior. I was dating this guy for almost 3 years and recently we have broken up. I allowed myself to open up with him.. and also trust again. We used to talk about our future together and our goals in life. Even though he wasn't in the church.. i still prayed for him everyday that he would allow God in his life again. We were highschool sweethearts and he went to college for his first year in august. Recently, i found out he was cheating on me. Yet still i took him back. Last week, he broke up with me for good, and told me not to contact him anymore. He says he still has feelings for me but he treats me so harshly. He talks to me with this bitterness in his tone. And he is still communicating with the girl he cheated on me with.. and many others. I found myself mad at the girl more than him because she knew about me. And i know it shouldn't be like that. Even still.. i find myself wanting him in my life.. wanting to call him and work things out. I used to pray to God for answers.. that he would show me if this is what I need in my life.. if he is the person for me. Time and time again.. God would show me.. to leave him alone to let it go. I was so hard headed.. I just brushed it off.. as it being nothing. I let this guy consume my every being that I didn't even know myself. I would preach to him about going to church.. getting to know god.. but yet i was having sex.. and i'm not married. I feel so betrayed, confused, and guilty. I feel like if I ask God for help.. he won't help me. More or less like an "I told you so way". I'm trying so hard to be humble and take it as a lesson learned. I dont know what to do anymore. -JS-
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Try to see that God is not punishing your, but freeing you from a relationship which did not honor Him. A really good book to read is "The Purpose Driven Life." It will give you a fresh perspective on your life.
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Try not to be so hard on yourself dear, the only thing you can do is learn from this experience. Judging from the behavior of the guy you were with, I would say that's it a good thing he's no longer in your life. You don't deserve to be treated harshly, you did nothing wrong.
I wish I had some better advice to give, but dear I would say just try to move on with your life, you deserve better.
I wish I had some better advice to give, but dear I would say just try to move on with your life, you deserve better.
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Hey there,
Thank God that He's not like us!
If you have truly repented from this whole situation and have asked for forgiveness then you can be sure that God has been waiting to hear from you. He wants to heal you.... it's easy to see why He told you to steer clear of this guy (Someone really loves you & only wants what is best for His child!!!). -- sounds like the bad guy is trying to keep you from God.... God will not belittle you or say "I told you so!"
Think about Peter....he denied Christ. Jesus knew exactly what Peter would do but Jesus still accepted Peter afterwards and told to him (Peter) to take care of his lambs & sheep. Jesus showed love, acceptance and trust in Peter.
Thank God that He's not like us!
If you have truly repented from this whole situation and have asked for forgiveness then you can be sure that God has been waiting to hear from you. He wants to heal you.... it's easy to see why He told you to steer clear of this guy (Someone really loves you & only wants what is best for His child!!!). -- sounds like the bad guy is trying to keep you from God.... God will not belittle you or say "I told you so!" Think about Peter....he denied Christ. Jesus knew exactly what Peter would do but Jesus still accepted Peter afterwards and told to him (Peter) to take care of his lambs & sheep. Jesus showed love, acceptance and trust in Peter.
"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says The LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart."
Jeremiah 29:11 & 12
Shalom
iannassah
Jeremiah 29:11 & 12
Shalom
iannassah
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