Trusting other people

[psycmajor]

Seems like I always trust the wrong people, and I get conned. And I look too deeply into the abyss sometimes.

Most recently, I revealed some things to a person in confidence, and then she turned around and twisted the things I said to make me look as crazy as she is. I think she was humiliating me because I showed some irritation towards her since I thought we were on good terms despite our differences, and then I find out how indiscriminately anti-Christian she was on her website. At that point, she starts ranting and raving. It's incredible how full of anger and poison she is. I just never thought she would use it on me.

I think it's because I [gently] told her that the things she practices in her free time, such as witchcraft and allegedly contacting spirits, may not be to her best interest. And there's this terrible superiority complex she has because she thinks she has this special comraderie with the dead. I don't think she's anyone particularly talented or gifted, just very misguided. Mind you, she has been homicidal (yes, you read correctly) in the past, and is a lesbian. She'll also go to great lengths, including impersonating other people online, just for the sake of revenge. This woman just oversimplifies the reasoning behind my reaction.

I opened up the book of Matthew, chapters 5 & 7, and thought about the things it said. It helped.

 

So, I guess we both need praying for.

Anyone have any similar stories?

 

[OneFish]

Hey There,

Uhm .... the way you describe her, why would you ever trust someone like that? Did you not know all these things before you trusted her? I'd recommend praying for discernment next time you get ready to trust someone. Building trust takes time, don't rush it.

God Bless you my sister,

 

[Didymus]

i too used to be very trusting and naive. or stupid if you want. God let me go pretty far before i realized what mistakes i was making. bbut He never left me.
i don t trust very many people anymore. especially Christains they have backstabbed me so many times.
for example my husband has been going to this church for two years now. I dont go there. Yesterday this man from the church asked him to his house tuesday night. my first reaction was suspicion--why ? I wouldn t have been like that a few years ago but i have found out tht when church members start being friendly to you they want you to do something. I mean two years and no one has even called to see where he was when he missed --which was very rare. and know this ?
i am sorry i just have to rant sometimes.

 

[psycmajor]

Well, I mainly was hoping that she would realize that not all Christians are quick to judge non-Christians. I try to see them eye-to-eye the best I can, yet it seems that all too often, their preconceived notions about Christians seem to get in the way.

It's okay to rant sometimes, Didymus.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Not near that bad, but I had a dude in class who I though was cool, but when Christianity came around he didn't think much of me. The dude freaked out, even blaming me for the Crusades.
I wasn't even trying to argue with him. It was completely irrational.
Well,
*hugs steph*
I'm sorry you have to deal with something that nutty.

 

[HesMyAll]

I have to agree with OneFish.  I would not trust someone who is involved in the things that you described. 

We are to be as wise as serpents and as harmless as doves.

I'm sorry you had to experience this.

 

[Didymus]

live and learn i hope you learn faster then i did

 

[psycmajor]

I've come to a conclusion; I've considered this insight before, but haven't thought of it or applied it to anything for a while.

Anyway, I think that she would rather be the first to hurt, rather than to be hurt and then left in the dust. I think she's a broken soul who has experienced a lot of pain in the past.

I don't consider myself as gullible. I just like to give people a chance before I make a snap judgment of them.

Not all people in certain groups are carbon copies, nor are all of them particularly nasty.

I've said this before and I'll say it again: Remember, at one time, you were also lost.

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2Co 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?

 

[reeann]

Just remember this, you will suffer because of your love for Jesus. Suffer in the way that people will just not like you because of it. It comes down to, who are you trying to please man or God?

Remember, when dealing with the unsaved, remember:
1 Cor 2:14
A person who does not have the Spirit does not accept the truths that come from the Spirit of God. That person thinks they are foolish and cannot understand them, because they can only be judged to be true by the Spirit.

Regarding Didymus, you know that God means for you to be in fellowship with other Christians. Your trust; however, is misplaced in Christians, it should be in Christ.

Blessings,

Reeann

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I'm still not down on the guy really. I just wonder why he felt he had to freak out. And it was in a class on Judaism of all things. He took a shot at me and another girl in there simply because of what we believe. He went out of his way to do it.
It's just a weird feeling.

 

[BritEngbrecht]

*names have been changed (I am not one of them)

I know a girl named Ellen and she was friends with this girl names Carrie for 3 years.

Ellen is a really unblanced person. She even wanted to become a prayer leader here at school, but they turned her down. She is convinced that God wants her to go into fulltime ministry, but she does very insane things. Like cutting herself, being rude to people, freezing up, crying excessivly, ignoring people when they talk to her (even her roommates), and she also abuses other people through hitting.

Well, Carrie met Ellen when Carrie went with a ministry team to Ellen's church. They became friends and Ellen came to every college for a weekend our school puts on each year after that, until she became a student here. (That's two a semester and we have two semesters a year). These girls got really close and Carrie's family even treated Ellen as if she were their own daughter.

Ellen never had friends before and now her and Carrie are not friends anymore, because Ellen was cutting herself and Carrie tried to help her by taking the sharp objects she used to "do the deed".

Ellen got mad at Carrie for doing this an started abusing Carrie physically. So, Carrie ended it.

Now Ellen is talking about suicide and asking me how people kill themselves.

Carrie trusted Ellen, but Ellen hurt her. So, now it is hard for Carrie to go into relationships trusting others.

These girls are 4 years apart, but they were as close as sisters at one time.

I know Carrie has forgiven Ellen, but she will never allow herself to get hurt by Ellen again.

Trust is such a hard thing to give away and it is so easy to make the same mistakes, but God is good. Good ALL the time.

This is probably not something you were looking for and I dunno if it even applys to what you were originally posting, but it was just on my mind and had a little to do with trust.

 

 

[psycmajor]

Thanks, reann.


Brit,
You're on the right track.

Carrie has reason to be hurt. She tried to help someone, and they practically spit in her face. She also has reason to get out of that friendship, as it is damaging her.

Ellen is depressed, and the symptoms of that depression is what Carrie has experienced. It would be beneficial for Carrie to realize that since Ellen is an "unbalanced" person, meaning not psychologically "normal" (whatever that is), that Ellen was an exception. I think that Carrie's friendship would probably be treasured by most other people.

 

[reeann]

Right, that is why we need to be in fellowship with believers, and look to the unsaved as ministry, always trusting God. I don't want you all to think i'm discounting feelings. I have been discriminated against because of my beliefs and it hurts deeply, especially if your like me and you want everyone to like you. But the real trust should be in Jesus. THe only reason i type this is because this is an issue I struggle with and want to help other believers to avoid some of the pitfalls I experienced. Its awesome because God's mercy is so loving, but then you still have to deal with the debris of your non trust, which isn't pretty at all.

Blessings to you all


reeann

 

[psycmajor]

I've realized that no one can be liked by everyone. I just wish people would be more sincere and up-front, rather than putting on a show and/or denying any kind of emotional attachment at all.

 

[DaveKerwin]

I would not confide in a non-christian who behaves like that. I would be hesitant to confide in any non-christian, except in special circumstances, considering the character of the person involved.

This is not to say that you should not share things with non-chrsitians. Share with them, tell them your testimony, but keep other things on the surface. I share in a gernal way with non believers because I do not feel they can fully understand spiritual struggles or things of that nature. I share those things with my close christian brothers, who I have grown to trust. I didn't spill my guts to them when I first met them. I have been increasingly honest and open the longer I have known them, because they have been trustworthy with small things. If they are trustworthy with small things, then will in turn be trustworthy with much. Know what I mean?

 

[psycmajor]

Yup.

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I'm also suspecting that she's been called a psycho all of her life (some of that is justified), so to "sanitize" (new meaning to an old word   ) herself, she makes other people look crazy whenever she can find even a slight justification for her to do such things. Seems that she's really, really sensitive when she thinks her state of mind is being questioned. I would also bet that she's been publicly humiliated before, so that's one of her methods of revenge.

 

[psycmajor]

And, oh yeah. I also think she's bitter that I told her she can't use my research for her stupid book where she supposedly talks to dead killers. Seriously. Hahaha.

 

[rssllue]

We all trust to a degree, like that the guy coming down the road in his semi stays in his lane and does not pulverize our car, but to trust to a complete level is something that none of us do. It is so very hard to trust. I know for myself that I don't even trust God with all aspects of my life with any real consistency and I cannot trust my own reactions some times in certain situations, so it is very difficult for me to trust others to any high degree as well. Everyone we meet will hurt us in some way eventually because of the sin residing in all of us. The only One Who never will is God Himself! And in turn, we hurt everyone we know eventually as well. All we can do is continue to trust as Jesus wants us too but also to remember always what Jeremiah said in 17:9->"The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it?" We all give reasons for mistrust, but how someone responds after breaking trust shows their true character in Christ. Look for the repentance and give it ourselves and trust God most of all and things will be better than they are now. At least that's my take.