trust

[mocchacino]

Hello all!

I have a question to ask you all, who realises they have trust issues with your other half? IF you do have that, how did you overcome it (if you have overcome it)? And if not how are you dealing with it right now?



i trust my bf to a certain extent, but there are just some things that i get absolutely paranoid over and it's ruining the relationship, but i don't know how to help myself other than to pray... so if anyone has any suggestions, i'm all up for it! thanx in advance!

 

[DaveKerwin]

why don't you trust him?

did you know he was not trustworthy before you started dating?

I know my girlfriend would put her life in my hands, she trusts me completely. I have vowed to be fair with her, and open and honest. She does the same for me. Trust is key.

 

[enslow]

My first question for you, Mocchacion, might be what does your boyfriend do as a part of his lifestyle that goes against what you think is a perfectly wholesome? I'm not saying this is right or wrong, just that it might be the root to your feelings.

I was married before, and I had big issues with trust with my former wife. I didn't agree with everying about her lifestyle. However, I thought that this was just part of the 'progressive woman' of the 90's and I had to accept it. It turns out that my concerns with trust and jealousy were not unfounded and was part of the recepie that led to our divorce.

I'm now dating a wonderful christian woman whom I trust completely. In fact I'm probably more worried about myself!

Enslow

 

[mocchacino]

well, my dad wasn't one of the greatest role model in terms of being trustworthy, but i am absolutely tired of blaming him... i want to get over this..
i also had another experience with a guy who did wrong.. my bf now did some things in the past, not during our r/ship but previously and didn't tell me..

for me, i know i have issues, both being insecure about myself and being jealous of others... although i really have no reason to be... and is against bible teachings.. especially about jealousy... but how do you get over such things????

 

[LadyBird]

well for me when i get jealous of other girls and him...which is very rare now...i just think...oh big deal they get to work with him...i get to kiss him and snuggle with him and he's my boyfriend and thinks the world of me. also, i think of all the reasons why i can trust him...he's a christian, has high morals, loves me to pieces and would never cheat on me...the list goes on. oh and of course i pray about it. i used to have a problem with trust but then i realized that i just assumed like he was like other guys...which was bad of me to do so and that just because other guys lie and cheat to their gf's or wives it does not mean that my bf would do that to me because he is a different person.

 

[slimfish]

In my opinion trust is a funny thing. We want our S.O. to trust us completely and we get upset when they don't, yet often we don't completely trust them. I think you are on the right track, keep on praying, ask for wisdom, and always guard your heart. Remember you belong to Jesus, not this guy. In my personal experience people give you reasons to trust or not trust them. Examine your relationship and act accordingly. Godbless.

 

[Dawn Marie]

My boyfriend is the only person I really trust...

But even so, sometimes I get jealous and I worry about certain stuff even though I know it's stupid.

I'm the most jealous person you'll ever meet. (Well, maybe.)

It's something I do struggle with; jealousy and worry. I always worry he's going to find someone else... someone better than me...

Then deep down I know we're meant for eachother and he'd never hurt me. He tells me often that he loves me more than anything... and that he couldn't imagine life without me.

Still, the worry is always there. I am so incredibly insecure about some things.

 

[mocchacino]

oh angel, i know exactly how you feel...

the toughest thing right now though is that we are trying to get back on track after a break up because of various things, he also said he doesn't love me as much as he use to but is willing to try to get back the feelings because of our past and because of how much i am willing to try... so now i am terrified that he will find other female friends of his much more appealing than i... it's killing me to think this ! it is so hard for me to pray, i feel like God has abandoned me, even though deep down i know he hasn't, just that it is so difficult to seek Him in times like this..

i want everything to be the way they were in the past, the happiness and love that we once shared... but instead of conentrating on being me i have started to worry so much about what happens if he tells me one day in the near future that it isn't working out, this worrying has become extremely ridiculous, and hence making things much harder for the two of us than it should be! i need to trust God that things will work out fine and cast all my worries upon Him but it is soooooooo hard!

!!!!!! i do not usually ask to be prayed over but i hope that anyone who reads this will for me that things will work out between us, and that we will share with each other the love that God has given us... or anything else... thank you