trauma how to fix...

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trauma how to fix...

I was hard to out of this trauma once i talk to guys.....i often feel something bad will happen. i need some advices/ the guy i dated long years r emotionally and physcilaly,
like one is emotionally dominating and controlling, if i ever not agreed with him on something and made him depressed, he threatened with suicide or try to travel around the country with a bicycle
or use other words to control my minds. another guy did rough sex when my body with a serious disease and bleeding, he did not care , and it lasted too long time cuz of some reasons.and he is even a christian caring other people
those rough sex made my body totaly empty finally , even now still no strength, cuz of despair and nightmare, and those bad sex mixed with other verbal abusement
so now, i do not know what to do, i feel so dry, i need love and care but i feel nobody will touch my heart anymore
cuz the heart is in a strange air already
and too depressed, i do not think medical can heal this

 

[FallingWaters]

I am so sorry. My heart aches for you. I had an intimate friend who I always had to agree with or else I would get emotionally blackmailed. Finally, she agreed to get out of my life. I felt so free afterward.

My daughter has a boyfriend who threatened to commit suicide the last time she wanted to break up with him. He called her and told her he took some pills. She was crying so loud she woke me up (3 AM) I had to call Emergency.

Also, I was molested as a child. It stole my innocence, and made me feel degraded and dirty. It took a long time and hard work for me to heal, and it was only by the grace of God.

I feel that my experiences help me understand what you are trying to say about how you feel. You have been deeply violated. You need a counselor who specializes in sexual abuse cases to help you walk through the healing process.

The good news is: God can fix you. God is the only one who can heal your broken heart.

1- face the pain you suffered- cry about it, get angry about it, express all your feelings about it to God

2- grieve what you lost- go through the grieving process

3- When you have fully gone through the grieving process, you will be able to fully forgive everyone who has hurt you. You can do this because God has forgiven you (Matthew 18:22-35) Forgiveness is the key to being set free.

Lean on God each step of the way. That is what He wants from you.

Father God, I pray for this tender broken one who has come here for help. I pray Father that You would carry her through to the places she needs to go for healing. I pray that You would keep her out of bad relationships in the meantime, and that You would provide a safe place for her to heal. I pray that You would lead her to the counselor who can help her the most and the best. I pray that You would heal this young woman and deliver her from the destruction that has been poured out into her life. I pray that You would make Yourself real to her, and that You would cause her to trust in You and You alone for her healing.

Dear Sweet Jesus, I pray that You would give this precious one a glimpse of Your Unconditional Love for her, that You would set her feet upon a good foundation and cause her to grow in Your light.