Touchy question...

[Manna]

I know that this may be a touchy subject to some of us, but I want to ask a general question. Have any of you entered a relationship with a member of the opposite sex since the passing of your spouse? Not necessarily a serious romantic relationship, but even just a simple date? This is something that I'm open to for in the future, but I'm simply not interested in this point and time. I think that emotionally I'm ready for something simple and innocent (would not be ready for a serious commitment right now), but it's not something I desire. I don't have the time and energy!! But I know that one day I will, and I'll take that step.

However, for the time being, have any of you made this venture back into the dating scene? How did it go for you? What was the best part and the hardest part?

 

[CountryLady]

Hello Manna, Nope I haven't went on that first date yet. I'm putting everything I have in the raising of my son, visiting my daughter and grandson. I'm not ready to go down that path. Good question! Keep them coming.

 

[Bevlina]

No, not me either. I don't live where I could meet anyone nice. I live in a small country town in Australia where all the men drink beer and swear alot. If someone nice asked me, yes, I'd go. But I can't see that happening around here.
So no, I haven't yet.

 

[robert adams]

Manna,

I am useless on this topic as I have several issues that prohibit me from being able to chase babes.


Bevlina,

I saw a sign one time that read "BEER, the beverage that enables white guys to dance since 1842." Now, is it possible to get them to dance without swearing?

Bob

 

[Bevlina]

LOL Rob! Not where I live! None of them would recognise beautiful writings, the beauty of the sunset or the dawn, the magnificence of the stars or be able to read an intelligent book!

 

[Bevlina]

It does hurt though to know I will never be loved and appreciated by someone special again. It's lonely and I'm going to admit something. My animals keep me going on. Often I walk through the bush just sobbing. I'ts tough - very tough at times if we allow ourselves to dwell on the past.

 

[robert adams]

Bevlina,

I think I know how you feel. I often walk over to the store and break down sobbing. I think I am so calm, cool, and "together" and then fall apart and admit to myself that I am just existing.

Bob

 

[Bevlina]

Yep ... that can happen Rob. When it's all boiled down, single folk like us really do just go on existing, placing our efforts into making life as bearable as possible. And, the older we get, the less wanted we feel. Here's Christmas almost with us and I haven't even given it a thought.

 

[BeanMak]

Even after 10 years, I am just not that interested. I have lots of friends, and I have family to keep me really busy. Not to mention, that I haven't met a single man that sparked me in all this time.
I LOVE my life at this time. I have interesting work, the kids are in their early twenties and it is interesting to see which paths they are taking. I have great friends to travel with. I have friends to go out to dinner with. I don't have a problem with dining out, or going to a movie alone.

My life is in my Lord's hands. He will provide as I need.

 

[Bevlina]

I would never dine out alone, and I'd never go to a movie alone. I have wonderful friends and can travel anywhere. I know all our lives are in God's Hands, married or single Praise God!

 

[BeanMak]

For me, the movies are especially easy- I figure that you don't talk to someone once the movie starts anyway- might as well enjoy a film that I want to see and not have to wait for when someone else can make it. Makes the evenings go by!

 

[Manna]

It really intrigues me how different personalities operate! For me, I would LOVE the chance to go to a movie or out to eat by myself!! A little alone time is such a sanity break for me! I'm lusting after just the idea right now...lol. But I know that there are many people that don't find the idea appealing at all. It's simply not enjoyable for them.

 

[Mmurph]

Even after 10 years, I am just not that interested. I have lots of friends, and I have family to keep me really busy. Not to mention, that I haven't met a single man that sparked me in all this time.
I LOVE my life at this time. I have interesting work, the kids are in their early twenties and it is interesting to see which paths they are taking. I have great friends to travel with. I have friends to go out to dinner with. I don't have a problem with dining out, or going to a movie alone.

My life is in my Lord's hands. He will provide as I need.

Wow, that's almost exactly like me, except it's been almost 20 years. I've thought that maybe I'm just an oddball...it's so great to see that I'm not alone!

 

[soblessed53]

Tried it a few times and have now sworn off it,LOL! I am still in love with my husband. I have not met a single man who I feel is even good friend potential,let alone husband potential! Sorry but as one lady cop who is a widow told me,today they all want SEX,a NURSE or a PURSE! The ones I have met I think want all 3! And the lies and games,Oh don't let me get started. Like a married man telling me he was divorced!
My husband did not believe in a woman working,especially not a mother, unless she was head of the house. These men today want you to support THEM!
My friends and my church keep my social life full, and it doesn't bother me a bit to go to movies or restuarants alone. Course I love when a friend can join me and I do sometimes miss that sharing with a special someone,but I would rather be alone and free than in a miserable relationship,so I guess God would have to drop one out of a tree in front of me now,to get my attention.

 

[CountryLady]

I'm sure it will be a very long time before I get involved with anyone. I like being able to cook when I want, eat what I want. And certainly do what I want, when I want. I just don't think I could be bossed around by any man again. I like my independence. Does that sound mean?

 

[soblessed53]

I'm sure it will be a very long time before I get involved with anyone. I like being able to cook when I want, eat what I want. And certainly do what I want, when I want. I just don't think I could be bossed around by any man again. I like my independence. Does that sound mean?

What can I say,except a HUGE AMEN! Even when your spouse was not really bossy and really easy to feed,it is still different when you never have to worry about meals or laundry for anyone but yourself and no curfew either,LOL! Can stay up all night reading or watching tv if you want as well. I think it is very easy to get selfish with singleness,but I figure I put in 30 years. I got this freedom I did not ask for,but I thank God for opening my eyes to the benefits,that I do appreciate them,and am not in any hurry to do away with them. Sure is great to just eat a peanut butter & jelly sandwich if I don't feel like cooking. Actually single,I don't have to do ANYTHING that I don't want to,how cool is that? Well except clean snow off my car in winter,but I had to do that when I was married too. I really do not think such a man exists to make me give that up,LOL,since I think I am past being "conned",LOL!

 

[Honibee]

The idea of 'dating', per se, sounds alittle unnatural for me. If in the course of my life, a man 'naturally' is involved with me through a common purpose, I might think about an option like that...

 

[Bevlina]

Been giving alot of thought to this. Yes, if a nice man asked me on a date, I'd accept.

 

[c1ners]

I thought I was doing my daughter good by getting remarried and giving her a "daddy". NOT! He'll never be able to take the place of my late husband. Not in either of our hearts. My daughter was just a little over a year her daddy was killed. She's now going on twenty. She is getting married in a few months and we are both having a difficult time of deciding on who should walk her down the aisle. She definitely does not want her stepfather. He's a good man, he just can't take the place of my late husband.

 

[Bevlina]

I thought I was doing my daughter good by getting remarried and giving her a "daddy". NOT! He'll never be able to take the place of my late husband. Not in either of our hearts. My daughter was just a little over a year her daddy was killed. She's now going on twenty. She is getting married in a few months and we are both having a difficult time of deciding on who should walk her down the aisle. She definitely does not want her stepfather. He's a good man, he just can't take the place of my late husband.

Is that fair to him? If he's a good man, why? I'm a bit baffled here?