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Brian Schwertley has a great book on Calvinism available for free download on reformedonline.com. He lays out the 5 points in an easy to understand manner, similar to this post.

In any event, total depravity is the foundation of Biblical theology. Our wickedness and total inability to see the good of God are foundational. To deny this is first to deny scripture but also denies our need for a savior. If there is good in our hearts, perfection remains possible. Scripture says this is not so.
 
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That being said, It isnt in my intention to offend my fellow Protestant (or Christian) brothers and sisters. Its merely to discuss theology.

I'm not in the least offended. I was merely posing the question If you believe certain people are irrevocably lost, wouldn't it be kinder not to tell them? A question your reply didn't address btw.
 
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I feel like I need to ask this question again just by itself because I feel that it has been overlooked.

Is Jezebel capable of repentance?

“But I have this against you, that you tolerate the woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess, and she teaches and leads My bond-servants astray so that they commit acts of immorality and eat things sacrificed to idols. I gave her time to repent, and she does not want to repent of her immorality.”
‭‭Revelation‬ ‭2:20-21‬ ‭NASB‬‬
 
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We are to call men to repentance ..if they refuse then they are responsible

Perhaps I'm misinterpreting what the term Totally Depraved means. I find it a dehumaising expression because, to me, to be Totally Depraved means to be Totally Lost (how can possibly repent if you are 100% depraved?) and I don't believe anyone is totally lost. Everyone has the capacity to repent no matter how depraved they are.
 
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For God to wait patiently for people to repent who are incapable of repentance is quite unbelievable in my opinion.
Thank you for making yourself clear and being civil about it

God's word does say God "is longsuffering toward us, not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance." (in 2 Peter 3:9)

So, clearly this scripture can be understood to mean that God is waiting for ones to repent, and therefore it is up to them to get themselves to decide to repent, and therefore they have the ability to repent . . . like I think you are saying is the meaning of this.

I do think . . . though . . . of how God's word also says we were saved "through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit," in Titus 3:5. Repenting, of salvation, includes a change in a person > "change of mind" is one way people put it. I see how a person's character is changed, or else he or she has not truly repented. And this needs to be done by the Holy Spirit who renews someone to the repentance meant by God's word. So, this is not what an evil person can do to one's own self.

Ones might believe that this changing is a change of thinking; and so they could make a gesture of thinking differently, but one's character needs to change in order for someone to become no longer evil. And I offered Jeremiah 17:9, about this. I do not trust that a deceitful and evil heart will change itself to repent. There needs to be the changing of the person's character.

So, possibly > @Neostarwcc > part of this discussion needs to be about what true repentance means. Because there are people who change their minds to think differently and do gestures which are said to mean they have gotten saved. They can say a prayer, they can get baptized, even reform their lives. But deeply, have we in our character truly changed from sin to Jesus???? Have we been turned "from the power of Satan to God"? (Acts 26:18)

Repenting includes being changed from Satan's kingdom to God's kingdom > "into His marvelous light." (in 1 Peter 2:9) There is a major spiritual change in us, in the process of this.

"But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him." (1 Corinthians 6:17)

Ones who become saved have become one spirit with Jesus Himself. They are no longer in slavery to "the spirit who now works in the sons of disobedience." (in Ephesians 2:2) A human in slavery to sin does not get one's own self to get free of this evil and selfish spirit. God does this, in changing a person from sin to God.
 
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If you believe certain people are irrevocably lost, wouldn't it be kinder not to tell them?
Well, Jesus did tell certain people that they would die in their sins > John 8:24. And Jesus knew.

And He wept for people He knew would refuse Him all the way. So, though He knew they would not want Him, still He loved them and cared for them. Indeed, God was not willing that they perish, but He knew they will.

What I have learned is, Jesus died on the cross with hope for any evil person, at all. He so loved people, even though He knew they would not repent. Still He made such a sacrifice for evil people who would never change to trust in Jesus.

Love "hopes all things" > in 1 Corinthians 13:7. To me, this means God's love has us having hope for any and all people . . . even though God knows ones will never repent. And because Jesus so loved wrong people, and because we share with Jesus in this > blessing goes out to the people to do them some kind of good. And even if they refuse this grace, this grace does not quit but goes to someone else ! ! !

So we love, not willing that anyone should perish, and God has things arranged so this does not go to waste. He is not only waiting, but arranging so ones will be blessed, even though ones refuse Him.
 
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All them examples you gave seems to argue otherwise. God is the standard of what is just. He makes it clear people have a real choice. But according to the Scriptures someone not chosen will not make that choice. So you arguing with the wrong person.

Like Jesus said plainly, only those who God chooses will come to Jesus.

64“But there are some of you who do not believe.” For Jesus knew from the beginning who they were who did not believe, and who it was that would betray Him. 65And He was saying, “For this reason I have said to you, that no one can come to Me unless it has been granted him from the Father.

Notice what John 6:66 says. I don't think this is a mistake when we compare with the 666 of Revelation. Those who take the mark will seal their fate-it's their choice. We either believe what God plainly says or we don't. It's our choice.

66As a result of this many of His disciples withdrew and were not walking with Him
anymore.
 
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had to have their hearts regenerated by God before they could be saved or do anything Godly of the sort because of their fallen sin nature.
The Regeneration IS the Salvation, or concurrent with, for those who want to separate Regeneration from Redemption. The same God who had mercy on me and changed my heart, did not simply change it to enable me to "accept him into my heart". He (The Spirit of God) came into my heart, changing it, and that through no act of my own.

Of course, that means not only that I am a receptacle ("received him") but that I willingly and gratefully "accept" (if people still insist on that word), but is a result of my Salvation (i.e Regeneration) and not the cause of it.
 
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If we are Totally Depraved though and incapable of responding to God in anyway, what's the point of telling us that? Wouldn't it be kinder to say nothing at all?
We respond to God every day, as unregenerate, by rejection, whether we know it or not.
 
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That’s not what total depravity teaches. Total depravity teaches that ALL MEN are totally deprived until God’s grace has been bestowed upon them. No one is born a believer, except for JTB perhaps.
"Depraved", I expect you mean. But I suppose the point could be made that they are, except for the Elect, deprived of God's particular mercy of Regeneration.
 
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Amen my friend I agree but I would like to politely point out that this may be true for some but there are probably several other situations that may not fall into this category. Like for example a person who actually has actually been born again and has become a new creation for several years and later doubts his faith becoming either agnostic or even atheist all together. Then there are some who’ve been born again and years later possibly after a tragic event have developed a hatred for God. These kind of scenarios exist in real life. Jesus said that some will not abide in Him and only those who endure to the end will be saved. Some people will quote 1 John 2:19 but that doesn’t necessarily pertain to everyone who loses faith. 1 John 2:19 is referring to a particular group and does not specifically say that this is the situation for anyone who turns from grace. Galatians 5 Paul says you have been severed from Christ you have fallen from grace. But no one can come to Christ unless he is granted by The Father. You can’t be severed from Christ if you have never been joined to Him. You can’t fall from grace if grace was never granted to you. It’s one thing to say THEY went out from us but THEY were not of us. The word THEY is referring to a particular group of individuals not everyone who would ever fall from grace, be severed from Christ, or fail to remain in Christ. So 1 John 2:19 is not always the answer to why a person might turn from God. I know you didn’t mention 1 John 2:19 I just wanted to include this into this explanation as a preemptive rebuttal because it’s very often used to explain why a person turns away from God.
 
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I suppose you have heard something like this, but it bears repeating: "Total depravity doesn't mean that the unsaved are as depraved as a human can become, but that with everything they do, think and are, they are at enmity with God, striving against God, whether they know it or not".
 
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I'm not in the least offended. I was merely posing the question If you believe certain people are irrevocably lost, wouldn't it be kinder not to tell them? A question your reply didn't address btw.
How can anyone know any one person is irrevocably lost?
 
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Yes in the bread of life discourse Jesus’ intention wasn’t to separate the sheep from the goats. That’s why He pushed the idea of eating His flesh and drinking His blood and the more they grumbled about it the harder He pushed the idea. He said from the beginning that the people who followed Him to Capernaum didn’t follow Him because they actually believed Him. They followed Him because He gave them food. Maybe they were Filipino the scriptures actually don’t specify. Lol. Yes no one can come to Christ unless they are granted by The Father. Nevertheless Jesus said that some would not abide in Him. Paul said the Galatians had been severed from Christ and had fallen from grace. So evidently not everyone whom The Father grants to come to Christ will receive eternal life. And before you quote John 6:44 let me point out that Jesus has already explained in John 6:37 that those who presently and continuously come to Him will not be cast out. If you disagree I suggest looking up the word translated to comes or cometh in John 6:37 and you will see that this particular Greek word is only used in the present and imperfect tense. It does not mean that anyone who has ever came to Him will not be cast out and will be raised on the last day. Blessings to you friend in Jesus Christ. May God bless us all with understanding of His word the way He intended it.
 
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"Depraved", I expect you mean. But I suppose the point could be made that they are, except for the Elect, deprived of God's particular mercy of Regeneration.

Regeneration isn’t the key to salvation. The determining factor on our part is repentance not regeneration. The thief on the cross would be one example of this. Regeneration is a process a person can repent and be saved in a single moment.
 
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There are two kinds of repentance (kind of like there are two kinds of faith --common faith, and God-given salvific faith). In old English, 'repentance' was a common word, meaning to simply change your mind. And that can be attempted even for God's sake (so they think) and for their own salvation (so they think) whose hearts are not changed. They may behave on the surface better than many (if not most) Christians, but unwittingly they have not engaged the Gospel, but self-righteousness. "The bed is too short, the blanket too narrow". Their heart remains at enmity with God.

The second kind of repentance is the necessary result of (i.e. it logically follows) regeneration. When God (the Holy Spirit) takes up residence within, the heart WILL necessarily desire holiness --not just relief from guilt, but hatred of sin.

This second kind of repentance CANNOT happen, though God requires it of everyone, because they WILL NOT change, indeed they CANNOT change their heart so completely, on their own. "Without me, you can do nothing."
 
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Amen I couldn’t agree more, but what about the power of the gospel? Does the gospel not hold the power to lead people to repentance? Is the gospel not the calling of God?
 
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Regeneration isn’t the key to salvation. The determining factor on our part is repentance not regeneration. The thief on the cross would be one example of this. Regeneration is a process a person can repent and be saved in a single moment.
So you would, after all this, have the integrity of the decision of man as the hinge upon which his eternal destiny turns?

I think you are confusing Regeneration with Sanctification --just saying. Repentance necessarily follows Regeneration. (Literally, Regeneration means, "born again". That is not a process --it either is, or it is not. God does not always operate according to our time, so though it is an event, you can't necessarily pin it down to a particular moment --but it is an event nonetheless, and not a process).
 
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Can the gospel change someone’s heart? Also what about the type of repentance where a person’s heart is actually changed and they do become a new creation for years? You can’t say for certain that a person like this was not really changed that’s just, forgive me for saying this but, an excuse to patch up the holes in Calvin’s doctrines.
 
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Amen I couldn’t agree more, but what about the power of the gospel? Does the gospel not hold the power to lead people to repentance? Is the gospel not the calling of God?

The Gospel is a lot more than a little book with different colored pages and a narrative that goes with each one. The Gospel is Christ himself, and is Salvation, and is the mercy of God, and is wholly the Work of God --not of man.
 
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