too young?

[Snowhite]

I believe I read quite carefully, in fact, these are YOUR quotes that I based my post on:

"I am interested in her physically, and she has a good personality. If we were to go on a few dates, I think it would be good for her. Most dates I have are astounded that I say "please" and "thank you", that I pray before meals, and how I don't cuss. I think it's a learning experience for some people. You can be cool without doing bad things. I want this girl to know that because she seems like she could be a really cool Christian!"
"I feel myself attracted to this young lady. She is extremely attractive too. I think "hot" is the word."

"She acts like a typical high school girl, full of energy and stories, but she also hangs out with kind of the wrong crowd. She has had experiences with drugs and drinking"

"should I use my good looks and charm to help this young lady "

If you didn't want negetive feedback, maybe you shouldn't have started a thread. I try to be honest, and if that a flaming, I must have missed something... Anyhow, alot of people posted who feel the same way...cf seems to be just full of flamers...

 

[Living4Him03]

I agree with Snow, those were YOUR words. Could it be that you want a pretty girl to hang on your arm? A lot of guys want that at one time or another, and sometimes I don't think they take the time to realize it.

 

[jay_swift]

Ok, lets look at your previous post:

Ok, so your only interest in her personally is physical?

I said:

In this case however, I feel myself attracted to this young lady. She is extremely attractive too.

Why would I say that she is physically attractive twice? Well I didn't. The first time I used the word attracted meaning I found things about her that I liked. I went on to say that I thought she was physically attractive by using the word attractive. So the first time I must have been talking about something else, thus I am interested in her in more than a physical way.

Other than that it would give ya warm fuzzies to be a good Christian example to her?

This just seems to be a personal attack on me. You're saying the only reason I want to help this girl is so I feel good about myself.

[...]other than that her character is poor[...]

All I said:

She acts like a typical high school girl, full of energy and stories, but she also hangs out with kind of the wrong crowd.

I didn't mention her character.

Your post has a very harsh tone to it, and I didn't come her to get flamed. Everyone elses posts were not flames since they posted useful comments instead of an ad hominem argument of me and her.

Living4Him03, I am not interested in having a trophy girlfriend. I've had ample opprotunity in the past to aquire one of those, but I look for more in a relationship.

 

[Out of the Flames]

jay_swift, you seem to be taking a lot of the feedback you were given very defensively. You asked for feedback and it was given. It may feel as though you were being attacked, but that was not the intention of any of the posters at all, I'm sure. It's all a matter of perception and you seem to perceive something completely different from everyone else.

Perhaps you would be better off taking the advice you've acquired and doing with it what you like rather than "defending yourself" to everyone. You got what you came for so you should have no problems now putting it to good use.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Ok seems like everyone is against it. Thanks for all the input CF members! You can continue giving it, but it looks like I know what to do now.

Well, the girl I'm currently scheeming on is 19, I'm 27.

(iklepac13 ducks as chair flies past his head)

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

...cf seems to be just full of flamers...

you said "flamers".

 

[Snowhite]

jay_swift, you seem to be taking a lot of the feedback you were given very defensively. You asked for feedback and it was given. It may feel as though you were being attacked, but that was not the intention of any of the posters at all, I'm sure. It's all a matter of perception and you seem to perceive something completely different from everyone else.

Perhaps you would be better off taking the advice you've acquired and doing with it what you like rather than "defending yourself" to everyone. You got what you came for so you should have no problems now putting it to good use.

A very excellent post! I am not going to continue posting here, jay_swift, you're not even talking about you situation anymore, you're only interest seems to be in defending your character at this point. Good luck, and please consider her as a person with emotions and a heart and not just an opportunity to do good.

 

[jay_swift]

It was just a rebuttal of your fallacy. I should be allowed to defend my character when called into question. Thanks for bowing out.

 

[wvmtnkid]

Thread closed at request of OP.