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Too young?

Manna

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I don't think a person can say what the "right age" is for marriage. It's a person-to-person decision. I was married at 18 (am only 19 now), and it was definitely God's will for my life. My husband, however, is 23, and when he was 18 would NOT have been ready for marriage. It just depends on the person. In our situation, God plopped us into each other's lives and almost instantly told us to marry each other. It was wonderful, and I wouldn't change it for the world. But marriage is a BIG step. This is forever! Be sure to spend the next 4 years (since that seems to be the time frame you're dealing with) in total honesty with God so that you can do His Will. For me, nothing is more terrifying than taking that first step out of His Will! =)

Just keep praying...He'll tell you what to do! Besides, there's no rush, you have time!

Anna
 
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Tyler582

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K man, I have a freind that told me a month or two ago all about his life and how he had it planned out... he was 17... he wanted to marry this person too. Youre 14... when I was 14 I worried if anyone would ever want to marry me. Im 17 now and have been with a girl for over a year, while it is something I think about and I also tend to plan around it in my head, I still am realisitic in knowing so much can happen. Being 14 and plannin a marriage in 4 years is silly... Unless its been going for a while and you are over inflatuation... then there is always a chance. But even with that, I wouldnt worry about that right now.
 
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cutekid 4 Jesus

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i dont think its wrong exactly but i think only in rare cases would God tell someone to marry at 18,there so many opportunities out there for us nowadays,christian missions,travel etc,and most importantly becoming confident in God as opposed to relying on some guy or girl which i think is the issue in a lot of these young couples,i guess sum peeps are super spiritually mature at that age,but most people are still not fit for marriage,why in this day and age when we live so long n stuff would u get married so early anyway,I wanna travel,do christian mission,enjoy being single for a while first,there are ways in which u can totally go for God as a result of being single that u cant do in the same way when ur married,the married life can wait in my opinion.u r young free and single-enjoy it!
 
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LadyBird

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Well stiger7797...do you think it's wrong. Do you feel you will be able to get married at only 18? Some people can get married at that age because they are ready...mentally and spiritually but most people aren't ready to get married that young. It just depends for each person...pray and talk to your family.

If the guy you are with is "the one" then waiting until you are 20 or 21 wont change that. I know a couple who dated for 8 years before getting married.
 
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PASHOK

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Stiger,

Put your life in the hands of the Lord, have faith in Him and He will do it.
Ps. 37:5

Remmember if you trust your life unto the Lord, He will take care of everything. His mind is way above ours and He sees our future and has different plan for every person. Talk to me about any matter, even though He knows already everything Lord want us to tell Him and ask Him for things.

I married when I was 23 my wife was 17, my other cousin married @16 and his wife turned 15 on the wedding date. Most of My friends maried between 16-19, My concern was That I would be able to support my family and not run back crying to my parents. :o
 
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Let me add...when I was 14, my boyfriend, my "first love," was living with me, in his own room. My mother had no problem with that. I thouhgt we'd get married. He was 6 years older than I. Then he left me and my world fell apart. I was devestated. I was 15. I should have been being a normal teenager, not so focused on one man. God got him out of my life, thankfully, I can now say. I married the true love of my life at age 18. He was 20. Though we've had our share of problems, I love him so much and couldn't imagine life without him. So, why is it that you're already thinking about marriage? Unless it's an arranged marriage, forget about it. At least until you've graduated high school.
 
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