Too young?

[stiger77797]

Ok I am 14... and I am gonna be married at 18..... is this wrong....

 

[stiger77797]

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[stiger77797]

ANY ONE?????

 

[Rocki]

Ok I am 14... and I am gonna be married at 18..... is this wrong....

no this is not wrong... i know lots of ppl that were married at 18-19... but will you be ready for the commitment?

 

[JOYfulbeliever]

I'm totally confused! What do you mean you will be married at 18? How do you know that? Trust me, hon. A LOT changes in the 4 years before you turn 18. And a LOT changes from 18 to 19, from 19 to 20, etc. Don't rush things!!! Enjoy being yourself.

But for the record, no, I don't think it's *wrong* to get married at 18. I have several friends that have. However, MANY 18 year olds are not ready for that type of committment. My only suggestion would be to MAKE SURE!

 

[Jenndiggy]

Don't settle for less than the best. By saying you *will* be married at 18, you may have to settle to have that fulfilled since you have to take another person into account of your plans.

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

Ditto to the above posts.

You change A LOT from 14 to 18. Don't rush into it. Be patient and let God call you.

 

[JahRawks]

I agree with everyone here, don't rush it, I didn't start having my first relationship until I was 17, and at 18 right now, and after a year of dating, I know that she's the one I want to be with for the rest of my life, it takes time, and commitment, that I wasn't ready for or even realized at 14 years old, just don't rush things, but like everyone else, in answer to your post, no it's not wrong to get married at 18, some people have the commitment needed at 18, but for me, and for most that I know, 18 is too early, you're just getting your adult life started, and you need time to adjust before you decide to get into a relationship that'll last for a long time. Just do your best to follow God's lead. God Bless-
Nathan

 

[IslandBreeze]

I got married at 19, but I didn't meet my husband until I was 18. You just never know what will happen-or in what amount of time it will happen. Pray about it, and if you want to be married young, I believe God will honor that. He did for me.

 

[middo]

Yeah all i can say is being married at 18 isnt too young but i wouldnt be thinking about it now, at 14. Are u asking because you have a girlfriend now that you want to marry asap? Things change dramatically between age 14 and 18. Age 14 and Age 18 are miles apart, with the committments and things in life at 18 being far more complex than it is for a 14 year old, and relationships change too. Hope that helps

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

Oops... I didn't respond to the rest of the post... hehe

Is 18 too young? I think it depends on the individual. For some, yes, for others, no. 18 is too young for me. I want to be 19/20 at least.

 

[Katty]

*raises hand quietly* I thought the same thing. I was with a guy for 4 years. I was 14 and a month before I turned 18, we broke up. You change a lot in those 4 years. Those are your highschool years and you're s'posed to find out a little of what your strengths and weaknesses are... you also find your pre-identity before you get out into the real world. Let me tell you, its extremely hard to keep your identity of self when you're 14-18 yrs old and dating seriously. When we broke up, it was a true battle for me to try to identify myself as someone other than "so-and-so's girlfriend." You lose who you are and it makes things really tough. Even half way through my first year in college and almost of year of being single, I'm still struggling to figure out who I am. Know for sure what you want in a relationship. I'm just starting to realize what I truly want in a guy and an overall relationship. Age is just a number but maturity level plays a BIG part in that. Through those vital 4 years of your teen life, you grow whether you want to or not. Don't be in such a rush to grow up because once its here, you can't relive yesterday. Don't settle for less than the best of the best. Figure out who you are aside from "so-and-so's girlfriend/boyfriend." That'll do wonders for you and also your future mate. You won't regret the fact that you are who you are apart from a relationship. (pssst--- it also makes you less "clingy" hehehe its true!) Almost a year of singleness and I'm loving it. One day I have no doubt that I'll have a lasting relationship, but for now, God's creating a lady in waiting inside of me. My man won't regret me holding out for him.


~Katty~

.... :o did I just ramble on or did that actually make sense?.... :o

 

[christianchick_m727]

I don't think it is "wrong" to get married at 18. That is my plan. I'm engaged right now and I'm 16. But, if you're only getting married to have the sexual part of the relationship then maybe you need to slow down a bit w/ things. Set boundaries and talk about how you feel. Don't rush into anything. And definitely pray about it, and if God wants you married at 18 then he will send you the perfect person.

 

[Hewitt]

I don't think it's wrong to get married at 18 but coming from a guy's perspective, I couldn't pull it off. For me, I want to be able to provide for my wife. And entering my first year of college is far from what I would consider adequate situations. I think a lot of factors come into play but most importantly are your motives and your relationship with Christ. If God's the center of the relationship, what could possibly bring it down?

 

[PegasusOnFire]

I met my fiancee when I was 12, we didn't go on our first date until I was 20. I love him to peices, but at 18 I was just going into college and he was going into the NAVY. That would have been no way to have started off a marriage. but for you, I would have to say, do what GOD is leading you to do. Not what you are leading yourself to do.

 

[Adam_for_Christ]

Nice advice admitably.

 

[Kaylynn]

As all the others have said...I wouldn't rush it...my parents were married when my dad was 18 and have been married for 30 years almost...so it CAN work and last. But a LOT changes from the time you are 14 to 18. Like for instance...you'll be getting your license, you'll come of age to vote and become an "adult". A lot can change in four years. All you have to do, is just follow God wherever He leads you. He will show you what is right for your life and He will direct your paths if you just ask Him to and then trust and follow.

I'll be praying for you.

 

[*Miau*]

Yeah all i can say is being married at 18 isnt too young but i wouldnt be thinking about it now, at 14. Are u asking because you have a girlfriend now that you want to marry asap? Things change dramatically between age 14 and 18. Age 14 and Age 18 are miles apart, with the committments and things in life at 18 being far more complex than it is for a 14 year old, and relationships change too. Hope that helps

I agree.
I've met the guy I want to marry sometime in the future, but I think it's too early yet.
But it's individual.
However, when you are 14 you've barely started your teenageyears - enjoy them, you'll grow up soon enough!

 

[angelstarlette]

Hey,

I would also like to say that 18 is not too young. I am also wondering why you are thinking seriously about marriage at this point. I know it is possible to find someone but these days it is very rare to find someone at your young age and stay with them for the rest of your life. You are still changing and growing. I wonder why you want to think about marriage at your age. If you are looking for someone to make you feel complete then trust me it does not work, and it is not a good foot to start off a marriage on. I would focus on your identity instead of worrying who you are going to marry. It is good to have an idea of what you want in a marriage partner, but it is also important to develop your self identity first. It is also a good idea to have many experiences before you get married in order to guard yourself from unhealthy marriage partners.

angelstarlette

 

[chris320]

Ok I am 14... and I am gonna be married at 18..... is this wrong....

Not if you stick with the marriage once the novelty has worn off and you maintain the sober realization that you are committed FOR LIFE. The lust will wear off after awhile, so make sure you focus on walking in divine love for each other, and not just selfish love. If you continue to focus on his needs more than your own, this will keep you from straying when you begin to get bored with the relationship.

-Chris320