I HAVE A QUESTION FOR ALL PARENTS.
CAN YOU LOVE YOUR CHILDREN TOO MUCH?[COLOR=0]
IS IT POSSIBLE
CAN YOU LOVE YOUR CHILDREN TOO MUCH?[COLOR=0]
IS IT POSSIBLE
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Too Much Love?
- Thread starter brandie
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you cant really give a child to much love, but you can spoil them. I know my baby cousin was always used to being held untill he fell asleep now he WONT go to sleep unless he is being held. you have to try and avoid things like that.
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Unless of course, you love holding your sweet smelling little guy, and this is the sort of parent that you want to be.
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You can also be your child's friend instead of their parent.
There is a major difference..........
There is a major difference..........
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This is something Ive actually put a lot of thought into. On the one hand, it is not loving our children when we put their momentary happiness above their safety or their long-term well being. It not loving them to be their buddy when they need the security of knowing someone is in charge and in control of a given situation. And it is not loving them when we burden our children with adult anxieties and stress, or insist on demanding their friendship when they want space and need boundaries.
But in general, I see no reason that the roles of parent and friend need to be constantly mutually exclusive. Jesus gives us a good example of how to be a friend and a leader at the same time.
Ive known too many parents who draw such a distinct boundary between themselves and their children that they completely miss out on enjoying them. Worse, their children suffer because they need and deserve empathy, companionship, and understanding from their parents. A child needs to feel comfortable enough with his/her parents to go to them with problems and admit mistakes.
So, I think it is probably a matter of balance.
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Agreed. You can never give child to much love, but you can spoil a child with material things to try to replace "too much love." Everybody loves to be held and cuddled!
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NO, and Thank God, because then if there was no uncondtional love, the Son of God might not have been sacrificed for our sins
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It is all how you define a loving parent. My goal has been to make my girls as independent from me as possible phsically and emtionally so if I were to die tomorrow they would be able to carry on. I am not a huggie person. There are very few people I allow to touch me. Read the five languages of Love that may help.
do i love my girls yes but that love has changed as they have grown
do i love my girls yes but that love has changed as they have grown
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You can never love another person too much. You can however, convince yourself that what you do or don't do is because you love the child when it is in fact, because of your own selfishness. eg:
A parent may have a teen (or even an adult child) who has been arrested several times & bails them out everytime. When someone tells them that they should NOT bail them out the next time, they are shocked that would even be suggested because..."I love my child & could never leave them in jail! It would hurt me way too much!!"
REPEAT: It would hurt me way too much!!
I think we sometimes need to reevaluate our motives.
As in the examples above, we don't always realize that we are being selfish; although unintentionally.
I realize the last reply to this was in March but, I'd never noticed the 'Parenting' section until today! lol
God bless,
Lynn
A parent may have a teen (or even an adult child) who has been arrested several times & bails them out everytime. When someone tells them that they should NOT bail them out the next time, they are shocked that would even be suggested because..."I love my child & could never leave them in jail! It would hurt me way too much!!"
REPEAT: It would hurt me way too much!!
I think we sometimes need to reevaluate our motives.
As in the examples above, we don't always realize that we are being selfish; although unintentionally.
I realize the last reply to this was in March but, I'd never noticed the 'Parenting' section until today!
lolGod bless,
Lynn
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Didymus said:
Didymus......you sound just like my mom and I have to tell you that it really hurts my feelings when my mom starts to act like that. She feels sometimes like she needs to seperate herself from us (me and my sisters) when actually, I still need her in my life. It hurts my feelings when I feel like she isn't making an effort to be in my life or get to know my kids. I just hope you aren't doing this for you....seperating yourself so you don't get hurt when they grow up and live their own lives if they aren't already.
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I'm not a Parent.. I'm 20 years old and at university..
I just like to say that I know of alot of poeple that come out of good christian house holds but was so much forced into things. (Like going to church) that when they get the freedom they can't handle it! And in many cases totally reject everything there parents taught them..
(sorry for my spelling)
I just like to say that I know of alot of poeple that come out of good christian house holds but was so much forced into things. (Like going to church) that when they get the freedom they can't handle it! And in many cases totally reject everything there parents taught them..
(sorry for my spelling)
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