To woo...

[dluvs2trvl]

A discussion in another thread prompted me to start this one...

woo (w

)
v. wooed, woo·ing, woos

1. To seek the affection of with intent to romance.
2. To seek to achieve; try to gain. To tempt or invite.
3. To entreat, solicit, or importune.
v.intr. To court a woman.

If you're a woman - do you want to be wooed by a guy? Do you want to be romanced and pursued by him? If you had already expressed to him that you're not interested would you be flattered if he persisted in wooing you or would you be turned off?

If you're a man - do you want to woo a woman? Do you want to pursue a woman or do you want her to show you that she is interested right away? If a woman told you that she wasn't interested would you be persistent in trying to capture her heart or would you respect her wishes and back off?

 

[traingosorry]

I love being pursued when it's appropriate and I like the guy, but when I have explicitly stated I am not interested and he continues to try to sway me it irritates me because not only is he not concerned about the way I feel, he is not listening to me, he doesn't respect me and my boundaries and he also thinks I am dumb enough to be convinced with gifts for me or my family.

boo to that.

 

[Tinkerbell33]

If you're a woman - do you want to be wooed by a guy? Yes

Do you want to be romanced and pursued by him? Yes

If you had already expressed to him that you're not interested would you be flattered if he persisted in wooing you or would you be turned off? I would maybe like it at first, but after a while it would irritate me. (Just being honest....sorry).

 

[mina]

wooing is awesome woohoo

 

[SonicBOOM]

If you're a man - do you want to woo a woman? Do you want to pursue a woman or do you want her to show you that she is interested right away? If a woman told you that she wasn't interested would you be persistent in trying to capture her heart or would you respect her wishes and back off?

I used to... but not so much anymore. To me it feels one-sided. If I presued a woman she would get offended and often accuse me of being "to close". If I didn't pursue her she would accuse me of neglecting her. I'm not really sure what girls want and I'm not sure they relize that guys try really really hard. I feel a girl who's waiting to be presued has a very old-fashioned mindset and is looking for love in the wrong way. After-all... wether if your a guy or girl, if you wait for someone else to move, your gonna be alone.

 

[Tinkerbell33]

I used to... but not so much anymore. To me it feels one-sided. If I presued a woman she would get offended and often accuse me of being "to close". If I didn't pursue her she would accuse me of neglecting her. I'm not really sure what girls want and I'm not sure they relize that guys try really really hard. I feel a girl who's waiting to be presued has a very old-fashioned mindset and is looking for love in the wrong way. After-all... wether if your a guy or girl, if you wait for someone else to move, your gonna be alone.

true, I think I should have been alive in the 19th century, lol.

 

[Im_A]

A discussion in another thread prompted me to start this one...



If you're a woman - do you want to be wooed by a guy? Do you want to be romanced and pursued by him? If you had already expressed to him that you're not interested would you be flattered if he persisted in wooing you or would you be turned off?

If you're a man - do you want to woo a woman? Do you want to pursue a woman or do you want her to show you that she is interested right away? If a woman told you that she wasn't interested would you be persistent in trying to capture her heart or would you respect her wishes and back off?

i don't do the "wooing" thing. the way i want it is, both sides showing equally(meaning equally attempting their best) that we like each other and that whatever we do for one another is to not "woo" one another but to just do something for each other. i find it better to show appreciation whether it be a friendship or a romantic pursuit, by just being honest, instead of concocting something to woo the other side with.

woo=lieing in my opinion. so will i woo a woman? no. but will tell the truth, and take the risk they will feel special, be it a friend, or a romantic pursuit, you bet i will.

 

[Tinkerbell33]

Yeah I do think it is a two way street. But wooing is nice.

 

[Mark2010]

If you're a man - do you want to woo a woman? Do you want to pursue a woman or do you want her to show you that she is interested right away? If a woman told you that she wasn't interested would you be persistent in trying to capture her heart or would you respect her wishes and back off?

For me, there's a balance. If someone is not initially interested, I respect that. But if I really like her (more than normal), I may not just immediately fade into the background forever. I've heard plenty of stories that began with "When I first met him, I didn't really like him....". So I understand that feelings can and do change, for better or worse.

I've heard other guys say "no really means yes" (never did understand that one) and "No means I want to be chased for a while before being caught" and "no means I'm not an easy score, but if I see you're willing to invest some time and energy, I'm available."

It also depends whether or not the person is involved with someone else. I have a long-distance friend who constantly moans about being single and never having any dates, yet regularly turns down guys when she does get asked. What kind of message is THAT sending? I'm NOT saying a woman has to accept every invitation that comes along, but she should realize EVERY guy has his flaws and if you can't accept that, get used to being single! Why not try to see the good in the other person?

I enjoy the "pursuit", if that is the best term. Although I admit that as I have gotten older, I don't do it anywhere near as often. Cause I've gotten tired of the emotional roller-coaster.

I wonder what it would be like to be "wooed". If we (men and women) could spend a week in each other's shoes, I suspect we would learn a lot. (Like how the heck can you walk in those heels?)

 

[Tamara224]

A discussion in another thread prompted me to start this one...



If you're a woman - do you want to be wooed by a guy? Do you want to be romanced and pursued by him? If you had already expressed to him that you're not interested would you be flattered if he persisted in wooing you or would you be turned off?

Yes, I would like to be wooed, romanced and pursued. Such things would indicate to me that the guy thought I was worth some effort.

If I had already expressed to a guy that I'm not interested, I would probably be annoyed if he kept it up but it would greatly depend on his manner of going about it.

 

[Blank123]

A discussion in another thread prompted me to start this one...



If you're a woman - do you want to be wooed by a guy? Do you want to be romanced and pursued by him? If you had already expressed to him that you're not interested would you be flattered if he persisted in wooing you or would you be turned off?

If you're a man - do you want to woo a woman? Do you want to pursue a woman or do you want her to show you that she is interested right away? If a woman told you that she wasn't interested would you be persistent in trying to capture her heart or would you respect her wishes and back off?

being wooed = very good though i do agree with the other posters that say its a two way street and i don't think its necessarily something that should stop once the couple is together. showing eachother interest as long as they're together is extremely important.

being wooed after its been made perfectly clear there's no interest there to pursue anything on a romantic level = major turnoff.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I only want to be wooed by someone I also like. If I have made it clear I have no interest, then I would be majorly turned off because it would be apparent that my feelings didn't matter to him. Unfortunately I have never been wooed even by people I liked . Well there's always tomorrow...or next V-day, or ???

 

[Axcelcius]

I find it hard to want to woo if a lady has no shown an interest at all. I don't want to invest where my efforts will be in vain or if I don't know the person's character.

 

[GuacaMolly]

I love to be wooed, courted, whatever you want to call it.

When it is un-wanted wooing, it's a little irritating, but it mostly just makes me feel bad. I lost a friendship over this, and I had never given the guy any encouragement! He literally will not talk to me, acts like he doesn't know who I am. I think that sometimes guys think I'm playing hard to get, when I'm just.......not........interested

The male ego can be a delicate thing....

 

[Carrye]

I've heard plenty of stories that began with "When I first met him, I didn't really like him....". So I understand that feelings can and do change, for better or worse.

That has been my experience. There have been guys that I've liked from the start, and those feelings faded. There have been others that I thought were simply great people, and was interested in only friendship when in time stronger feelings developed.

I agree with tattedschmoe. I think that both people need to show interest. I'm not all about the game-playing. I want to know that I am special, and I am very willing to do what I can to make him feel the same.

 

[ido]

I want to be wooed. But, I don't want it to be overboard. I want it to be something that will be low-key and last a long time, not OTT and fizzle out after a short time.

I love to do little romantic things in return, so I completely agree with the two way street concept.

If I have made it clear that I don't want to be wooed, I would not appreciate continued attempts.

 

[penNpaper]

A discussion in another thread prompted me to start this one...

If you're a woman - do you want to be wooed by a guy? Do you want to be romanced and pursued by him? If you had already expressed to him that you're not interested would you be flattered if he persisted in wooing you or would you be turned off?

If you're a man - do you want to woo a woman? Do you want to pursue a woman or do you want her to show you that she is interested right away? If a woman told you that she wasn't interested would you be persistent in trying to capture her heart or would you respect her wishes and back off?

Boy, hmmm is the window open or did it get really really hot in here

*looks for septemberskies* I'm safe for now

From a honest gentlemen I will admit I luv being romantic. I mean heck I luv taking time to write something special to see her smile. Writing poety. Being straight up honest. But sadly my heart gotten broken into a million pieces before. I even broke up with a gurl once too. I gotten hurt soo much that I would luv to see a woman do something special a little to show sum interested into me a little. But being the man that I am and a shy one at time it is kind-a hard to tell someone 'I like you' for fear of rejection once again. It hurts me too much soo I try to hide it a lot beneath my smile at times.

So many people has told me you make a great husband, father, man, but it seems I'm never the right guy for the oens that I chosen. I allow the Lord to have my heart for now pretty much He knows the right gal for me to be honest. I trust His opinion over mine.

But it shows that I'm a nice timid shy outgoing gentlemen. And I love women and respect them all in general. I can't give it but to give a positive outlook in the many lives that I have impacted in real life as well as on this website

God Bless,
Drew

 

[penNpaper]

I also believe that the romance isn't over when you say I do it is only the beginning

 

[RosaVernal]

Every situation with a female is a potential wooing/seduction.

Then again, I'm also a natural flirt and if a woman can't take some good-natured confirmation that she's attractive, sod her. XD

 

[GuacaMolly]

I still stand by my love of the woo ( ), but I did want to add that I'm certainly very clear as to whether it's appreciated or not--- I either bloom and start talking a lot, smiling, laughing, etc. or give a polite smile and appear distant. As a whole, I would say that I certainly don't always expect it, but, call me old fashioned, I do think that it is part of the guy's role to pursue, even if just a little bit. THAT said, I love making people (even my friends) feel special by surprises, and once I'm blossoming into a real 'like' with someone, I certainly do my part to make them feel special and wanted too.


doh: Sheesh, I sure am the queen of comma splices.....)