To Cuddle or Not to Cuddle

[exitstageright]

There are those who feel,and or think,that if it feels good.Then,it must be a sin.As an analogy,eating ice cream feels good.But,eating ice cream is not a sin. However, gluttony is a sin.
After being dumped this week,in order to make me feel better,I will be going to a Meet-Up
Cuddle Party. What is a Cuddle Party?
Well,here is the info.

"Cuddle Party is a 3.5-hour communication workshop that focuses on personal boundaries and touch, in which participants have an opportunity to practice these skills by cuddling (or not). It’s a great opportunity to practice asking for what you want, saying no to what you don’t want and meeting new people. Cuddle Party is a strictly non-sexual event.

Here's what you can expect at a cuddle party: At 2:30pm there will be a welcome circle which orients guests to the rules of cuddle party and has exercises to help practice the rules. Following the welcome circle are a few hours for free-style cuddling, eating snacks, or just hanging out. The event ends with a short closing circle."

Now,please believe me. I have been to several Cuddle Parties.Everyone had their clothes on.And,there was no sexual activity,whatsoever.Everyone played by the rules.
I leave these parties feeling better about myself.I feel accepted,attractive,peaceful,and contented. At dances,and at other social events,I often go home disappointed,and lonely.Because,I often fail to connect with someone.I guess that happens because,even though women tell me that I am a nice guy.I do not have the "chemistry" in order for them to feel anything for me. By the way,the touch of a hand,on my arm,for example,feels the same way,whether or not if it belongs to a friend,or to a stranger. Well, at least after talking with some newly found acquaintance.
So,are there any ideas on this subject? When I ask a woman,"May I cuddle with you?"
To my surprise,most women,at these Cuddle Parties,tell me,"YES!"I guess that women love to be held. And, men love to be held. We all need human touch in our lives,for our emotional health.

Ah......that"YES!" feels so good to hear.And,no one is committing fornication. Because there is no sexual activity going on.

 

[Lucian Hodoboc]

It sounds weird to me and, personally, I would never go to a party like those you described, but if it's non-sexual and doesn't bring any temptations that will later on lead to sinning, then I guess you could attend this cuddle party...

To be honest, I don't really see how touching random people non-sexually could benefit you in your walk with God considering that the tactile sense is one of the primary senses when it comes to creating sexual arousal.

 

[exitstageright]

It sounds weird to me and, personally, I would never go to a party like those you described, but if it's non-sexual and doesn't bring any temptations that will later on lead to sinning, then I guess you could attend this cuddle party...

To be honest, I don't really see how touching random people non-sexually could benefit you in your walk with God considering that the tactile sense is one of the primary senses when it comes to creating sexual arousal.

I respect your opinion.The point I was trying to make is,that human beings need touch for their emotional health. For example,nurses in a NICU,(Neonatal Intensive Care Unit),have found that the pre-mature babies,that are being held,have a higher survival rate,than the pre-mature babies that are not being held.

I would love to have a significant other to cuddle with. But,you see.I am not the type of man that most women want. Well,it is better than me going out drinking,or getting high,in order for me to drown my sorrow of being dumped.There have been quite a few nights,that I have cried myself to sleep.

By the way,I live in California. I do admit that many things, that we do here in California,may and do seem weird to the rest of the country.

 

[Ajflyguy7]

There are those who feel,and or think,that if it feels good.Then,it must be a sin.As an analogy,eating ice cream feels good.But,eating ice cream is not a sin. However, gluttony is a sin.
After being dumped this week,in order to make me feel better,I will be going to a Meet-Up
Cuddle Party. What is a Cuddle Party?
Well,here is the info.

"Cuddle Party is a 3.5-hour communication workshop that focuses on personal boundaries and touch, in which participants have an opportunity to practice these skills by cuddling (or not). It’s a great opportunity to practice asking for what you want, saying no to what you don’t want and meeting new people. Cuddle Party is a strictly non-sexual event.

Here's what you can expect at a cuddle party: At 2:30pm there will be a welcome circle which orients guests to the rules of cuddle party and has exercises to help practice the rules. Following the welcome circle are a few hours for free-style cuddling, eating snacks, or just hanging out. The event ends with a short closing circle."

Now,please believe me. I have been to several Cuddle Parties.Everyone had their clothes on.And,the was no sexual activity,whatsoever.Everyone played by the rules.
I leave these parties feeling better about myself.I feel accepted,attractive,peaceful,and contented. At dances,and at other social events,I often go home disappointed,and lonely.Because,I often fail to connect with someone.I guess that happens because,even though women tell me that I am a nice guy.I do not have the "chemistry" in order for them to feel anything for me. By the way,the touch of a hand,on my arm,for example,feels the same way,whether or not if it belongs to a friend,or to a stranger. Well, at least after talking with some newly found acquaintance.
So,are there any ideas on this subject? When I ask a woman,"May I cuddle with you?"
To my surprise,most women,at these Cuddle Parties,tell me,"YES!"I guess that women love to be held. And, men love to be held. We all need human touch in our lives,for our emotional health.

Ah......that"YES!" feels so good to hear.And,no one is committing fornication. Because there is no sexual activity going on.

Go for it man, have fun! I have read the studies you are talking about. It seems like a healthy and enjoyable way to meet some people.

 

[Mydnyte]

Sounds like it could be really fun or really be a total, terrifying nightmare. Good luck.

 

[exitstageright]

Sounds like it could be really fun or really be a total, terrifying nightmare. Good luck.

Thanks!,As I said.I have been to several Cuddle Parties,and have walked away from them with no weird feelings. But,I have left those parties feeling better that I did when I first walked into the room.

 

[JAM2b]

Humans have a biological and psychologic need for touch. If you are a single adult, there's not a lot of options that are appropriate or healthy. I think these cuddle parties sound like a good idea. I was reading about people paying to be cuddled by "professional" cuddlers, and it didn't sound bad at all.

 

[dayhiker]

I've been to two cuddle parties, Enjoyed them both. Looking for the right time to get to another one. I'm even remodelling a bedroom that I hope to use to host cuddle parties in.

 

[Left]

I wouldn't do it for money.

 

[exitstageright]

I've been to two cuddle parties, Enjoyed them both. Looking for the right time to get to another one. I'm even remodelling a bedroom that I hope to use to host cuddle parties in.

I just returned home from one in San Francisco.There is another cuddle party in Berkeley that I plan to attend tomorrow.

 

[Sir Robbins]

I respect your opinion.The point I was trying to make is,that human beings need touch for their emotional health.

that's bad news for me... haven't even been hugged or anything in years last I recall. I shake hands with people when business is done. It's been so long I've come to fear touch from others... I've slowly become a cold person. Years of living alone and in the industry I work in, it's lonely too... 99% male workers, most are drinkers and drug abusers and during travelling gigs, they go to clubs and even strip joints. It's tough being in this industry

 

[dayhiker]

My heart goes out to you Sir Robbins .... but you are not along in not getting touch and the results of that. I'm with exitstageright on each of us needing touch. Clearly those with a long language of touch need a lot more. So I've intentional worked to get more physical human contact in my life. Not an easy thing to do but I am getting more since I have intentionally worked on it.

 

[JAM2b]

It's tough being in this industry

What industry do you work in? Just curious

 

[Sir Robbins]

What industry do you work in? Just curious

Audio/Video, entertainment

 

[JAM2b]

That's cool, Sir Robins. I'm sorry it's a difficult field though.