to be married or stay single?

[laceyintulsa]

does god want us to find someone to marry??? or would he rather we stay single?????

 

[redblue22]

I don't know, but I hope He likes my choice.

 

[Blank123]

live your life. If you meet someone who, Biblically speaking, would be a good spouse (does his/her character/beliefs fall in line with what the Bible demands of believers?) and you both want to marry, then you should marry.

If you never meet that person, then you shouldn't.

 

[Grace51]

well, i think the "single option" is really reserves for those with special callings.

but personally i think when it comes to marriage, the saying "grass is not always greener on the other isde" seem to sum up many people exp in that one.

 

[Humble Pie]

well, i think the "single option" is really reserves for those with special callings.

Well said! Enough of this single nonsense for me

 

[AnonymousBlesser]

i once read a quote "man proposes, but God disposes". i think if you live ur life the way God wants u too then if he wants you to get married then he'll make it happen.

 

[JC4Life12]

Paul was never married and he advocated that for those who could accept it

When you're single you're able to think more independently

There are many temptations out there, so unless someone blows you away... I suggest staying single

 

[mindfulness]

Well said! Enough of this single nonsense for me

Amen!

I used to wonder about this "gift of singleness" trope that gets spewed from certain pulpits now-a-days, but upon further investigation, I'd say the chances of God forcefully demanding it of someone that He gave an earnest desire to get married, is pretty slim. God's not like that, despite what some people may claim.

 

[Skyguy9999]

does god want us to find someone to marry??? or would he rather we stay single?????

The answer I've come to, personally, is to just let things be as they may, and if God wants to bless me with a wife, then so be it. What I have said is that if it takes me away from walking with Jesus then I don't want it. Nor to do it outside of the normal course of wisdom, because especially with this he doesn't want us to cast wisdom aside.

 

[Blank123]

Paul was never married and he advocated that for those who could accept it

When you're single you're able to think more independently

There are many temptations out there, so unless someone blows you away... I suggest staying single

actually... there's a good reason to believe that Paul *was* married. At some point at least. He was a pharisee, and marriage was a requirement. I suspect he was widowed when he wrote about being single.

not to deflate your argument. I think singleness can be something used by God for the very reasons Paul stated and argued. But its by no means a command. I think its something that needs to be worked out between the individual and God.

(interesting reading: The termination of Paul's marriage? (Was: 1 Corinthians 7:27-28))

 

[JC4Life12]

actually... there's a good reason to believe that Paul *was* married. At some point at least. He was a pharisee, and marriage was a requirement. I suspect he was widowed when he wrote about being single.

not to deflate your argument. I think singleness can be something used by God for the very reasons Paul stated and argued. But its by no means a command. I think its something that needs to be worked out between the individual and God.

Impressive.

I never saw it that way. You're saying Paul and the law of his people required marriage.

I get that and I respect your take

 

[mindfulness]

The Jews saw a man who never married and got children as slaying his posterity and violating one of the 613 mitvot (be fruitful and multiply was a command, not advice), so naturally Paul had to have been married unless you think he was lying about who he said he was.

 

[bocannes]

does god want us to find someone to marry??? or would he rather we stay single?????

You have access to God, same as us. So, you tell me.

I know God wants me to get married.

 

[redblue22]

marriage doesn't last forever. so, I think we blow it way out of proportion.

 

[bocannes]

marriage doesn't last forever. so, I think we blow it way out of proportion.

Meh. This entire world doesn't last forever.

 

[redblue22]

quite a perspective isn't it.

 

[leothelioness]

Basically what Paul said, if you can stay single it's best to. Most divorces are probably the product of people who should have stayed single.

 

[bocannes]

Basically what Paul said, if you can stay single it's best to. Most divorces are probably the product of people who should have stayed single.

That's ridiculous. Most divorces are the result of our selfish natures, our society's quick-fix, self-centered way of life, and the horrible "no fault" approach to divorce.

Most people don't treat marriage as a life-long commitment and that is the biggest problem.

 

[mindfulness]

That's ridiculous. Most divorces are the result of our selfish natures, our society's quick-fix, self-centered way of life, and the horrible "no fault" approach to divorce.

Most people don't treat marriage as a life-long commitment and that is the biggest problem.

This is correct!

 

[leothelioness]

That's ridiculous. Most divorces are the result of our selfish natures, our society's quick-fix, self-centered way of life, and the horrible "no fault" approach to divorce.

Most people don't treat marriage as a life-long commitment and that is the biggest problem.

That's pretty much my point. The people who are that way are better off staying single. They're not fit to be married. I know myself that I'm not fit for marriage. I would be terrible at it.