Tired of my own sexuality

[Infinitas1985]

Hello, like the title says I`m tired of my own sexuality, I`m a singer you know and I try to build up a certain mood for it if you understand and it feels great when I do it, but it`s always sneaking up on me sexuality and ruin the mood a little, I know I can`t really supress it but is there a way to get rid of it perhap the desires?

 

[com7fy8]

Well, it is good to love people and not mainly want to use them for pleasure.

Ones have a preference, really, for pleasure.

But in Christianity, ones say we need to deny our selves, die to our self, so we can love people and not mainly or only live for pleasure. And God's love satisfies us so this is easier and easier. But this is not only about a better feeling, but first we need to desire to please God our Father, by being gentle and humble and quiet in His way of love.

So, what you could be talking about is what is not quiet > dominating, distracting, uninvited feelings and emotions are included in what we call "lusts". These are not love, but nagging for pleasure and often for experiences which we don't want. And it can be how enough is never enough!!

So, there is no method to make this go away, but it is personal . . . how God changes us to be like His Son Jesus, more and more, then so we are busy with loving and caring so it is easier to keep our minds better with personal and tender loving, instead of how we can just use someone.

So, welcome to Christian Forums; God bless you

 

[Infinitas1985]

Well, it is good to love people and not mainly want to use them for pleasure.

Ones have a preference, really, for pleasure.

But in Christianity, ones say we need to deny our selves, die to our self, so we can love people and not mainly or only live for pleasure. And God's love satisfies us so this is easier and easier. But this is not only about a better feeling, but first we need to desire to please God our Father, by being gentle and humble and quiet in His way of love.

So, what you could be talking about is what is not quiet > dominating, distracting, uninvited feelings and emotions are included in what we call "lusts". These are not love, but nagging for pleasure and often for experiences which we don't want. And it can be how enough is never enough!!

So, there is no method to make this go away, but it is personal . . . how God changes us to be like His Son Jesus, more and more, then so we are busy with loving and caring so it is easier to keep our minds better with personal and tender loving, instead of how we can just use someone.

So, welcome to Christian Forums; God bless you

thanks

 

[Messerve]

Hello, like the title says I`m tired of my own sexuality, I`m a singer you know and I try to build up a certain mood for it if you understand and it feels great when I do it, but it`s always sneaking up on me sexuality and ruin the mood a little, I know I can`t really supress it but is there a way to get rid of it perhap the desires?

I actually know exactly what you mean. It seems contrary to what the world teaches, bu the deepest relationships are really those that aren't focused on getting sex from each other. Sex is often a shallow way to show love (though not always) and in certain situations simply produces shame or feelings of dirtiness or fear of being found out. Love outside of sex expresses itself in more personal deeper ways which really reveal your true selves to each other and ties your hearts through seeking to understand and grow together.

As com7fy8 pointed out, there really isn't any way to get the desire to go away aside from perhaps a lobotomy or something! But don't do that. If you give your life to Jesus, however, I do believe you will be given help to deal with the desire better and perhaps not find yourself as pre-occupied with it and wearied by it. You really should give Jesus a chance, even if you don't believe Gd is real. You must have come here for a reason, since you could have gone to any other forums. There's nothing to lose when it's a private decision you make. And if you discover Jesus is real and giving your life to Him is the change you needed all along, well, you're an infinite times better off for it.

 

[Blade]

Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

The mind is the devils play ground. If we dont take hold of some THOUGHTS...if we play with them.. then we give IT the right to keep on going.. and soon.. we become what that SIN is. We ALL get some kind of thoughts desires what not.. whats GODS words say? Feelings come and go and are all over the place.

No matter what this flesh wants.. I bow to CHRIST.. I DONT Play with those thoughts. We are FREE... and if its SIN... the reward for sin is death in this world.

See no one controls us..no one. We resist the devil and he HAS to flee. What ever that thought desire is..does GODS words speak about it? Say fear... what does Gods word say? Then thats what I speak if fear comes..if its all over me.. NO!.. God has not given me the spirit of fear but of power and love and a sound mind.. the JOY of the lord is my strength..if I am sad..

HOW and WHAT we do in this life .. we made the choice...there is no middle ground... OT says.. if we just CALL on His name.. He WILL not maybe .. but WILL DECEIVER US!

 

[basilbear76]

Hello, like the title says I`m tired of my own sexuality, I`m a singer you know and I try to build up a certain mood for it if you understand and it feels great when I do it, but it`s always sneaking up on me sexuality and ruin the mood a little, I know I can`t really supress it but is there a way to get rid of it perhap the desires?

Our sexuality is an intrinsic part of our humanity.

 

[com7fy8]

thanks

You are certainly welcome

It seems contrary to what the world teaches, bu the deepest relationships are really those that aren't focused on getting sex from each other.

Oh, WOW!!! Sex is not love and sex is not intimacy. Actually, it has a job to do. Sexual has to do with reproduction. Of course, as Messerve has said, sex can be included in very intimate sharing.

Sex is often a shallow way to show love (though not always) and in certain situations simply produces shame or feelings of dirtiness or fear of being found out.

Uh-huh . . . I can be eyeballing women in church or the super market, and I then can get worried if someone looks at me, because I don't want people to know I am going that. So, even without the sex, there can be worry and shame about being found out. Deep-down, I know it isn't loving. The quality of spirit in me during eyeballing is not like love. And I find that God has had mercy on me and has been correcting me, including having me get more into loving and caring for any woman I see, instead of using her to look at her or imagine with her.

So, Infinitis . . . in case I am a real Christian, this does not mean I am no longer a human . . . like you. But we are guaranteed correction by God. Also, our reason changes > for Jesus, we do not seek correction, only in order to keep a problem from messing with the way we want to live, but we need to seek God for real correction because we want to love and please Him and learn how to love more and more maturely.

And in His love is rest > "you will find rest for your souls," Jesus guarantees, in Matthew 11:28-30.

But it is practical, too, to get over certain stuff. Because weakness for pleasure can help keep me weak so I can suffer pain, later. Also, my mind can stay available for trouble stuff of paranoia, after I have entertained myself with immoral pleasure stuff. And the pain and paranoia can help keep me broken or weak so later I keep giving in to the pleasure stuff which does not love me and does not make me strong and real for close relating.

I think . . . you have seen how ones using each other for pleasure can get into some pretty nasty fights. The weakness of one can feed the weakness for the other.

Love is totally different.

 

[Messerve]

Oh, by the way, I'm a singer too! Though I just record privately and share the songs later... I haven't performed in public except one time years ago. It's true to make a song as good as you want it, you have to get into the emotions and not simply sing the word. If the emotions don't quite line up with what you actually feel, I could see how that would be wearying aside from dealing with the desire itself.

I have begun writing songs which I felt an emotional connection with at the time I started writing, and then a week or two later I no longer felt that way and I had to really force myself to finish the song. Because emotions and desires are always coming and going... They're deceptive and unreliable. You can't base your whole life on them or it will be a roller coaster. You need a foundation for your decisions and your life, and for me that's Jesus. I think He's the only truly reliable foundation to stand on.

 

[Sparagmos]

Hello, like the title says I`m tired of my own sexuality, I`m a singer you know and I try to build up a certain mood for it if you understand and it feels great when I do it, but it`s always sneaking up on me sexuality and ruin the mood a little, I know I can`t really supress it but is there a way to get rid of it perhap the desires?

Sex and sexual desire is a gift from god. The creative drive manifests itself in many ways, one of them being sexual. You can channel that desire into other creative acts if you are currently celibate.

 

[Kenny'sID]

Hello, like the title says I`m tired of my own sexuality, I`m a singer you know and I try to build up a certain mood for it if you understand and it feels great when I do it, but it`s always sneaking up on me sexuality and ruin the mood a little, I know I can`t really supress it but is there a way to get rid of it perhap the desires?

I could suggest a complete life makeover with Christ, something that should result in a change of priorities that tend to fix a lot of things, but since you may have no interest in such extreme measures, all I can really suggest is psychiatric help. They may be able to help you sort things out.

 

[Infinitas1985]

I could suggest a complete life makeover with Christ, something that should result in a change of priorities that tend to fix a lot of things, but since you may have no interest in such extreme measures, all I can really suggest is psychiatric help. They may be able to help you sort things out.

Ah, I don`t believe in those people

 

[Sanoy]

Perhaps you are getting into something that is actually getting into you instead.

 

[BioLeap]

Hello, like the title says I`m tired of my own sexuality, I`m a singer you know and I try to build up a certain mood for it if you understand and it feels great when I do it, but it`s always sneaking up on me sexuality and ruin the mood a little, I know I can`t really supress it but is there a way to get rid of it perhap the desires?

Some more information would be helpful.

 

[Kenny'sID]

Ah, I don`t believe in those people

Psychiatrists or Christians?

 

[Infinitas1985]

Psychiatrists or Christians?

Psychiatrists

 

[Kenny'sID]

Psychiatrists

I understand.

Then maybe a lot of what you re already doing...keep asking around. Wish I had more to offer.

 

[Sketcher]

Hello, like the title says I`m tired of my own sexuality, I`m a singer you know and I try to build up a certain mood for it if you understand and it feels great when I do it, but it`s always sneaking up on me sexuality and ruin the mood a little, I know I can`t really supress it but is there a way to get rid of it perhap the desires?

I couldn't tell you how to do that.

 

[Albion]

Had you intended to put your thread on the "Exploring Christianity" forum?? If yes, lets get to that part.

 

[Temirlan]

Hello, like the title says I`m tired of my own sexuality, I`m a singer you know and I try to build up a certain mood for it if you understand and it feels great when I do it, but it`s always sneaking up on me sexuality and ruin the mood a little, I know I can`t really supress it but is there a way to get rid of it perhap the desires?

I find yoga as a great great develppment tool to train yourself better control of self. Not phys ed type of uoga, of course, but the real deal. Research Inner Engineering, great stuff. Worked for me.