Time to grow up

[SimplyComplex]

Im a few months away from 30, but I thought it was appropriate to post here.

This last year has been pretty tumultuous and Ive grown so much. Mostly my self confidence and my relationship with my DH and the Lord. We're still going through a time but are very thankful for everything that we've learned through the tough parts. We were talking recently about are attitudes when we first got married. We can laugh now about how young and spoiled I was and how unbalanced he was with his priorities. It got me thinking about how many times Ive let myself miss out on things in life from time to time because of my inability to stop making excuses for myself. If that makes sense. I feel when we are in dire situations we try to do all we can do make the best of it, but for some reason I feel like Im not doing enough. And trust me, Ive come along way from where I was in letting God take care of the crazy stuff. I dont try to fix every little thing, but I feel that if I can make a difference I should at least try. I guess my question is, when did you finally realize it was time to grow up? I feel like I still try to get away with dumb things, I mean Im almost 30 for crying out loud. Arent there things I should be doing without question? How can I get myself to stop making excuses for myself?

 

[hikingchick77]

For some people unfortunately that time never comes. My sisters are 42 and 43 respectively, and I am still waiting for that day with them. Always trying to get away with dumb things, so consider yourself Thanksful you are learning, and some people never do.

 

[BRISH]

I guess my question is, when did you finally realize it was time to grow up?
There was never a time that I thought this specifically. I just happened and it was an after-thought. It usually happens when you are forced to grow up. That can be at any given age or life phase depending on each individual.

I feel like I still try to get away with dumb things, I mean Im almost 30 for crying out loud.
Maturity is realizing that it's all a never ending process. (Also, there's "irresponsible" and "child like". The latter is good to keep in some ways. Thank goodness. It would be boring if we just suddenly "ripened" at a certain age.)

Arent there things I should be doing without question?
Yeah, like brusing your teeth and saying thank you. I guess you mean less or no moments of second guessing yourself on bigger issues? I would hope we all thought twice about most things or recognize a moment when we are in doubt and halt for a second. I don't think the focus should be on our reaction time to a decision. I think it should be about "how" you follow through. Is it with confidence, gusto, peace, and acceptance of your decision? That's the focus.


How can I get myself to stop making excuses for myself?
Decide that you're not going to repeat cycles you don't want repeated. Plain and simple.

 

[edwardfsmith]

I grew up a lot at 30
I think I have a more mature love for people.
I think I have learned to be humble.
Living with in ones means is a hard lesson sometimes.

Socially I am very immature but that is because I have no experience.
I am afraid I will die feeling like a kid in some aspects of my life.

It is very hard to take the risks needed to mature.
I think marriage is one of those risks. Commitment.

So I have no doubt you are doing well in some areas.

I find time passes.
No mater if I am growing or not.

Maybe everyone has there maturity strengths and weaknesses?