Thoughts

[McScribe]

I think that we Christians, when our marriages fail or threaten to fail, find that that almost more than anything except death or tragedy attacks our faith. It attacks our self worth and who we hope we are. We feel scared, wounded and damaged by the ruin of marriage.

I wonder if maybe we ought as people not to make it so important. If God says we are made in His image, if we are reborn in Christ, then why does our sense of self depend so much on marriage? I'm not saying that rejection should not wound, because God s wounded by our rejection of Him, and not saying we should not try to do our best, for this is clearly biblical, but we need to remember we are worth much more than the appearance of our lives.

I used to try to make bargains, bad ones, to save my marriage, and I would feel that it was the most important thing for me to do. It wasn't. The most important thing was always to be like Christ and remember who I am in Christ.

 

[BigDaddy4]

McScribe,

I often wonder as well why I make my marriage so important. It seems to consume me day and night, to the point I sometimes don't sleep well at night. Will my wife ever be healed of her past issues? Will she ever find and accept Jesus' offer of forgiveness and restoration?

We are to trust in the Lord and lean not on our own understanding, but for me at least, I find it difficult to do and I keep asking God "WHY???"

I guess I keep going on because I made a covenant with God and want Him to decide our fate, not me.

 

[peacechild4]

Please tell me that when you do divorce there is some peace???

I am going looney letting go..

You posted this to someone else.. oh my gosh yes yes yes.. I DO NOT WANT this.. and few even have comfort for me and talk about it.. sigh..

"But since this is about divorce--- it happens because one partner wants the divorce and the other person doesn't."

 

[McScribe]

I'm not going to lie to you. It's going to be hard. It makes it all the more important to spend time with God and seek His comfort. The peace that passes all understanding is vital at a time like this.

 

[dayhiker]

I really enjoyed my marriage. But I've also had some great times since I was divorced. One has to go get what they want in life. Its even easier as a single to go get what one wants in this world. More time in church or more time hiking the mtns. Go get it and thank God for it.

 

[peacechild4]

I'm not going to lie to you. It's going to be hard. It makes it all the more important to spend time with God and seek His comfort. The peace that passes all understanding is vital at a time like this.

Thank you for not lying.. that is what I want..

Absolutely agree with you that I cannot do this without GOD.. peace is my name on here.. LOL.. and because I know HIS peace.. you are one of the people here.. one main person.. that has been honest.. and a few times posted things that showed me the way like no other..

Please tell me something though ok... that there are men out there that will stay by a womans side.. some good ones.. I was talking to a sis-in-law last night who is also divorced and she said she would not ever have another man while her kids were in the house.. they are all.. not nice words..