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THOUGHTS ON FORGIVENESS

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SOME THOUGHTS ON CHRISTIAN FORGIVENESS

There appears to be personal forgiveness and administrative forgiveness on man's part in the Word of God. The first refers to offenses against us by others, which we might forgive. The administrative forgiveness seems to be that which is done before God when we cancel the debt. The Christian assembly also does that when judging the matter of an offending believer, seeing repentance, and then effecting restoration to the fellowship (Matt.18:18). We can then all accept that, and it is not now saying it is good, rather putting it away and refuse to regard it.

The word "forgiveness" is difficult at best. The dictionary says forgiveness is to grant pardon or cancel debt, and is to cease to feel resentment. It is often full or uttermost giving before merited. Are we in a position to cancel a debt or pardon? Are we able to stop feeling resentment? Is there a reason or justification for it? The reason might be mercy on some to see them free from judgment to change for good, and to win them to God, or because there is reasonable doubt whether the offense was intentional or not. Some considerations are as follows:
1. God forgives individual sinners who repent so we can be saved; and our Lord on the cross forgave all mankind for the crucifixion, saying: "they know not what they do". He canceled the debt for the world, lest God should destroy all men;

2. Individuals need to seek forgiveness and accept God's sacrifice for their own sinfulness ---own the sin and the mercy. Men might choose to receive the gift of forgiveness or not. The gift is not theirs until they desire it and receive it.

3. In the Gospels Jesus tells the Jews that they need to forgive their enemies and not hold to "an eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth" (revenge). The Lord tells them they need to be rid of that attitude and be willing to forgive ---give understanding of what sin is, and overlook their enemies' behavior...not kill them. That is administrative forgiveness in cancelling the debt. In a sense this is the same as saying "they know not what they do"; and are acting in flesh and a sense of self-righteousness.

4. A faithful servant of God should emulate the Lord Jesus in not retaliating. One should not pursue vengeance ---"vengeance is Mine; I will repay, saith the Lord" (Rom. 12:17-21). Certainly a child of God can leave it with his Father, and minister good for a witness. In this, one forgives in a practical way and ceases to feel resentment.

5. The Christian should realize that the evil received was from the sinful nature of man, or by the fleshly act of another believer, and know that "but for the grace of God, there go I". Certainly we can always pray for one's soul. A Christian has a new nature, though always has the flesh which likes to act. We see also that God forgives and restores a believer who sins, when he humbles himself and confesses it (I Jn.1:9), for God knows the result of sin in man.

6. We need to consider the heart and know the power and ugliness of sin, and leave all evil and failures against us with the Lord rather than take actions. If the offender asks forgiveness--well; if not, it is of no profit to dwell on the matter One can avoid or minimize contact with the offender thereafter if it is defiling or unprofitable, as we do with all people everywhere.

7. It is important also to understand that a believer cannot forgive one for offenses to another; only the victim can do that. Our responsibility concerns ourselves, and we might say: I am not the avenger.

8. Personal forgiveness is a general term, which might be looked at in at least four aspects, and remembered as a ROAD of forgiveness:

A. Forgiveness in RESTORING relationship for one who repents and begs mercy and recovery.

B. Forgiveness in OVERLOOKING a certain matter, as inconsequential and only man's flesh, which we all have (see Col.3:13). It then remains only a matter between the offender and God;

C. Forgiveness in ABSOLVING an offender, by disregarding the loss which one may not be able to pay (Matt.18:26-27). It is grace and often a practical matter, and God can make up the difference;

D. Forgiveness in DEFERRING to God and others, and getting on with life. God will then heal and take care of His own children.

Will we walk this ROAD? - R. L. DeWitt, 11/05
 

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Forgiveness is a way of walking out the truth that John the Baptist proclaimed in saying, behold the lamb of God who taketh away the sin of the world (which is just as relevant to us as it is to those we walk in this way towards), not to mention what a great company of angels had proclaimed at Christ's birth) how fitting that he was laid in a manger).
 
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SOME THOUGHTS ON CHRISTIAN FORGIVENESS

There appears to be personal forgiveness and administrative forgiveness on man's part in the Word of God. The first refers to offenses against us by others, which we might forgive. The administrative forgiveness seems to be that which is done before God when we cancel the debt. The Christian assembly also does that when judging the matter of an offending believer, seeing repentance, and then effecting restoration to the fellowship (Matt.18:18). We can then all accept that, and it is not now saying it is good, rather putting it away and refuse to regard it.

The word "forgiveness" is difficult at best. The dictionary says forgiveness is to grant pardon or cancel debt, and is to cease to feel resentment. It is often full or uttermost giving before merited. Are we in a position to cancel a debt or pardon? Are we able to stop feeling resentment? Is there a reason or justification for it? The reason might be mercy on some to see them free from judgment to change for good, and to win them to God, or because there is reasonable doubt whether the offense was intentional or not. Some considerations are as follows:
1. God forgives individual sinners who repent so we can be saved; and our Lord on the cross forgave all mankind for the crucifixion, saying: "they know not what they do". He canceled the debt for the world, lest God should destroy all men;

2. Individuals need to seek forgiveness and accept God's sacrifice for their own sinfulness ---own the sin and the mercy. Men might choose to receive the gift of forgiveness or not. The gift is not theirs until they desire it and receive it.

3. In the Gospels Jesus tells the Jews that they need to forgive their enemies and not hold to "an eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth" (revenge). The Lord tells them they need to be rid of that attitude and be willing to forgive ---give understanding of what sin is, and overlook their enemies' behavior...not kill them. That is administrative forgiveness in cancelling the debt. In a sense this is the same as saying "they know not what they do"; and are acting in flesh and a sense of self-righteousness.

4. A faithful servant of God should emulate the Lord Jesus in not retaliating. One should not pursue vengeance ---"vengeance is Mine; I will repay, saith the Lord" (Rom. 12:17-21). Certainly a child of God can leave it with his Father, and minister good for a witness. In this, one forgives in a practical way and ceases to feel resentment.

5. The Christian should realize that the evil received was from the sinful nature of man, or by the fleshly act of another believer, and know that "but for the grace of God, there go I". Certainly we can always pray for one's soul. A Christian has a new nature, though always has the flesh which likes to act. We see also that God forgives and restores a believer who sins, when he humbles himself and confesses it (I Jn.1:9), for God knows the result of sin in man.

6. We need to consider the heart and know the power and ugliness of sin, and leave all evil and failures against us with the Lord rather than take actions. If the offender asks forgiveness--well; if not, it is of no profit to dwell on the matter One can avoid or minimize contact with the offender thereafter if it is defiling or unprofitable, as we do with all people everywhere.

7. It is important also to understand that a believer cannot forgive one for offenses to another; only the victim can do that. Our responsibility concerns ourselves, and we might say: I am not the avenger.

8. Personal forgiveness is a general term, which might be looked at in at least four aspects, and remembered as a ROAD of forgiveness:

A. Forgiveness in RESTORING relationship for one who repents and begs mercy and recovery.

B. Forgiveness in OVERLOOKING a certain matter, as inconsequential and only man's flesh, which we all have (see Col.3:13). It then remains only a matter between the offender and God;

C. Forgiveness in ABSOLVING an offender, by disregarding the loss which one may not be able to pay (Matt.18:26-27). It is grace and often a practical matter, and God can make up the difference;

D. Forgiveness in DEFERRING to God and others, and getting on with life. God will then heal and take care of His own children.

Will we walk this ROAD? - R. L. DeWitt, 11/05

It is true that unforgiveness can lead to hate or bitterness and defilement. But it doesn't have to. The problem is in the confusion between justice and revenge. For this, James writes "mercy triumphs over judgment." We can plan to pre-forgive anyone of offensive action, but such is not always the case, and we cannot try to force every situation under a blanket forgiveness. Forgiveness is the first step to reconciliation, and reconciliation might not be possible ("How can two walk together unless they agree"). Jesus in one place said "If your brother sins against you, then speak to him in private about the matter, and if he repents, forgive him." If he repents is clear criteria for forgiveness in this situation, and it implies that if he doesn't repent, then don't forgive - the natural response is implied. If people will not repent, or if you see clearly that they plan to continue the offensive behavior even after they are told it is not acceptable, then it is time to decide on two directions: (1) tolerate the behavior, or (2) sever the relationship. In either case, move forward or move on. It would not be good to get stuck in a bitter feud. Therefore, each situation that involves unrepentant people has to be evaluated to this important question: Is this issue something that can be overlooked, or is it something I cannot live with and must require a parting? Whichever it is, let it be peaceful.
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Something to meditate on:

SOME THOUGHTS ON CHRISTIAN FORGIVENESS

There appears to be personal forgiveness and administrative forgiveness on man's part in the Word of God. The first refers to offenses against us by others, which we might forgive. The administrative forgiveness seems to be that which is done before God when we cancel the debt. The Christian assembly also does that when judging the matter of an offending believer, seeing repentance, and then effecting restoration to the fellowship (Matt.18:18). We can then all accept that, and it is not now saying it is good, rather putting it away and refuse to regard it.

The word "forgiveness" is difficult at best. The dictionary says forgiveness is to grant pardon or cancel debt, and is to cease to feel resentment. It is often full or uttermost giving before merited. Are we in a position to cancel a debt or pardon? Are we able to stop feeling resentment? Is there a reason or justification for it? The reason might be mercy on some to see them free from judgment to change for good, and to win them to God, or because there is reasonable doubt whether the offense was intentional or not. Some considerations are as follows:
1. God forgives individual sinners who repent so we can be saved; and our Lord on the cross forgave all mankind for the crucifixion, saying: "they know not what they do". He canceled the debt for the world, lest God should destroy all men;

2. Individuals need to seek forgiveness and accept God's sacrifice for their own sinfulness ---own the sin and the mercy. Men might choose to receive the gift of forgiveness or not. The gift is not theirs until they desire it and receive it.

3. In the Gospels Jesus tells the Jews that they need to forgive their enemies and not hold to "an eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth" (revenge). The Lord tells them they need to be rid of that attitude and be willing to forgive ---give understanding of what sin is, and overlook their enemies' behavior...not kill them. That is administrative forgiveness in cancelling the debt. In a sense this is the same as saying "they know not what they do"; and are acting in flesh and a sense of self-righteousness.

4. A faithful servant of God should emulate the Lord Jesus in not retaliating. One should not pursue vengeance ---"vengeance is Mine; I will repay, saith the Lord" (Rom. 12:17-21). Certainly a child of God can leave it with his Father, and minister good for a witness. In this, one forgives in a practical way and ceases to feel resentment.

5. The Christian should realize that the evil received was from the sinful nature of man, or by the fleshly act of another believer, and know that "but for the grace of God, there go I". Certainly we can always pray for one's soul. A Christian has a new nature, though always has the flesh which likes to act. We see also that God forgives and restores a believer who sins, when he humbles himself and confesses it (I Jn.1:9), for God knows the result of sin in man.

6. We need to consider the heart and know the power and ugliness of sin, and leave all evil and failures against us with the Lord rather than take actions. If the offender asks forgiveness--well; if not, it is of no profit to dwell on the matter One can avoid or minimize contact with the offender thereafter if it is defiling or unprofitable, as we do with all people everywhere.

7. It is important also to understand that a believer cannot forgive one for offenses to another; only the victim can do that. Our responsibility concerns ourselves, and we might say: I am not the avenger.

8. Personal forgiveness is a general term, which might be looked at in at least four aspects, and remembered as a ROAD of forgiveness:

A. Forgiveness in RESTORING relationship for one who repents and begs mercy and recovery.

B. Forgiveness in OVERLOOKING a certain matter, as inconsequential and only man's flesh, which we all have (see Col.3:13). It then remains only a matter between the offender and God;

C. Forgiveness in ABSOLVING an offender, by disregarding the loss which one may not be able to pay (Matt.18:26-27). It is grace and often a practical matter, and God can make up the difference;

D. Forgiveness in DEFERRING to God and others, and getting on with life. God will then heal and take care of His own children.

Will we walk this ROAD? - R. L. DeWitt, 11/05

Excellent thoughts and teaching on "forgiveness", which is one of the most difficult if not sometimes excruciatingly painful to do. It is by God's own grace that it's at all possible. For me, perhaps the stickler was holding real tight to my own will, vs laying it down at His feet and bowing to HIS will, while letting go of mine.

God's reeeeally diggin' with a shovel with this one...

cuz it's...

DEEP.

It's like surgery.

And in the surgery He digs out our "cannot's" and replaces it with His strength to do what only He can do, and that is to:

Forgive.

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