Thoughts on Defining My Sexuality

[HoneyBee]

This world has a way of confusing a lot of us sometimes. I have been wondering for years about what my "sexual orientation" is because of a lot of confusion in my life, but I think that I can safely say that my "sexual orientation" doesn't actually matter. I think that maybe that's a worldly sort of thought, at least in my case. The point, however, is that no matter what my attractions could be, God has set out certain rules and regulations that are to be obeyed by us. Whether I am heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual, it doesn't actually matter because, at the end of the day, I believe that God commands that only one man and one woman are to be together in the union of matrimony. So anything else that isn't that is something that I can just toss out the window. It doesn't have to be something that I struggle with.

This is just a matter of my own perspective. I know that for others things might not be this clear-cut or "easy", but for me, I think that maybe it's okay if I don't explicitly define my sexuality. In the end, GOD defines my sexuality, not me.

 

[dms1972]

I think you are on the right path. Have you ever read any of the books of Leanne Payne?

 

[HoneyBee]

I think you are on the right path. Have you ever read any of the books of Leanne Payne?

I actually haven't read any of her books. What does she write about?

 

[dms1972]

She was a pioneer in ministry for personal wholeness. Her early books such as The Broken Image addressed christian spiritual formation and sexual identity from a healing prayer perspective. Some of her other books are The Healing Presence and Restoring the Christian Soul.

 

[dms1972]

I just thought i'd mention them, in case there might be something there to help you at this point in your christian life. There was this quote in her book The Broken Image : "Sexuality and sexual behaviour are dimensions of humaness, but they do not constitute a person as a human being." (from Bishop Bennett J Sims). She also writes about the true feminine, true masculine, and how they are to be balanced in the psychic make up of each individual. Her thought is similiar in some respects to that of Karl Stern, and CS Lewis.

 

[Unqualified]

The worlds life is all about sex, sex, sex. Sexuality can be defined by attraction. But Gods says what is right and what is wrong on this topic. But do you think peoples sex drive is so strong that they can be so moved as to change their bodies? Confusion I think would dull the sense of it. I hope you are not living with a strong sex drive that you can’t fulfill. Ya know?