Thought/Question

[GettinWork]

This may be somewhat long. But anyway, to say the least I'm not much of a ladies man, just about everyone of my friends has had multiple girlfriends, and I've had exactly zero official relationships, multiple "things" that never amounted to more than about hanging out twice at max. They have girls at their disposal (not to say anything negative about my close friends but sometimes they do things they shouldn't with them, we'll leave it at that for a description, use your imagination) and usually when we hang out on the weekends or whenever really, they've got a female companion generally. What I don't get is, I'm a hard working, educated, good looking (trying not to be arrogant in the least bit), easy going guy that loves to enjoy life. I constantly hear about and/or see posts on facebook of friends that are girls complaining of their bf/ex bf or friends bf/ex bf and how big of an ass he is and I just sit there and think, [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]? I'd treat just about any girl like a queen pretty much as long as the respect was mutual I've got nothing. My question is, is this God's way of saying to just wait it out and rather than being in numerous relationships with girls that lead to failure (I'd say any relationship that doesnt lead to marriage is a failure) that the right one will come along eventually and we'll be made for eachother? The times when I'm alone ie., after a long day of working and I'm at home just watching tv, a movie, or w/e or with my friends and they have their gf's along with, I think the absolute best thing would be to have a girl to be with and having that companionship. Just want some insight.

 

[elenore]

we tend to reap what we sow. you play the field and you'll be left with less when you marry. you wait too long and don't make much effort and the right girls might pass you by.
what do you want out of life? if it is a girl who you'll respect and who will respect you in return, don't do things to risk damaging that. sometimes people wade about in a rip, and their friend, who can't swim gets so sick of missing out on all the 'fun' that they follow them in and get pulled out to sea.

don't compromise and be smart about it is my advice.

 

[LivetoLove]

I think the same way a lot, "God, how come they all have boyfriends? I'm smart! I'm not hideous! I'm fairly fun to be around!" But God's constant word to me has been "Patience..."

I had an insight last week, when my friend broke up with her millionth boyfriend, that I'm really glad I haven't dated anyone yet. I don't want to date someone just for the sake of it or because everyone else is doing it - I want to make sure God's opinion is my number one priority. When it's God's timing, I believe I'll find a good, respectful guy and I won't have a whole tonne of baggage from other relationships...

I don't know if you can relate this to your own situation, but I hope you can

 

[GettinWork]

Yeah I can somewhat relate it, the problem is I have zero patience haha.

 

[OnAQuestForTruth]

You'll find someone right for you when you stop looking. It happens to me every time. If I just go out with my mates and tell myself I am not going to interest myself in any women tonight, I usually end up meeting a real great lady along the way.

Just wait it out buddy, it'll so be worth it!

 

[GettinWork]

You'll find someone right for you when you stop looking. It happens to me every time. If I just go out with my mates and tell myself I am not going to interest myself in any women tonight, I usually end up meeting a real great lady along the way.

Just wait it out buddy, it'll so be worth it!

Thanks a lot man, that means a lot!
I did actually meet a girl, shes one of my best friends cousins and we met a couple nights ago, she is crazy about me but I'm kind of hesitant and am not sure about her. Nothing against her at all but I just don't feel the connection, even though shes extremely nice and we get along great. Been hanging out with her a lot these past few days, but man idk....it was yhe exact situation where I didnt interest myself and we met and i thank the lord every night for blessing her into my life but I just don't have the feelings for her....

 

[HK9]

I don't find the allure in constantly going for different girls until you actually land one. Some of my friends are like this, and it can be annoying, especially when they comment that my more reserved ways are stupid.

Ultimately, I'll only settle for the best, regardless of what anyone else says ;P

 

[GettinWork]

I don't find the allure in constantly going for different girls until you actually land one. Some of my friends are like this, and it can be annoying, especially when they comment that my more reserved ways are stupid.

Ultimately, I'll only settle for the best, regardless of what anyone else says ;P

I'm the same way, I want nothing but the best for myself. With this current girl I'm not feeling it and I can just feel she's not what I want.