Hey Everyone,
So here is the deal...I was dating a guy about 6 months ago who was my friend for about 2 years before out relationship started. During the beginning of the relationship he told me that he only believed in courting, but proceeded to call a relationship anyways (don't ask me why I was very confused because he did not talk with me about). Well anyways as the relationship went on he grew increasingly distant from me and then finally broke it off. He said something about me not being "the one" for him. I did not really have a problem with him not seeing us as a couple, I had a problem with him never talking to me about his beliefs.
Now me personally I believe that you should be able to talk to others about your beliefs and develop a game plan. I was really put off by his method of using God to justify his actions (constant lying, not communicating, and treating me with disrespect). I know I am not the perfect Christian, but I believe that using God to justify one's actions is also wrong. Another thing that bugs me now is that he is suddenly reformed into a "good" Christian again. Now granted I can believe that someone can be reformed and change completely, but it just seems odd to me that it happened at just the right time for him to blow me off. Oh another thing that makes me wonder is that he said he was "talking" to 2 other woman (in a sort of relationship way).
Also he told me we cannot talk anymore because I am a woman and he is swearing off women for right now. Does any of this seems suspiscious to anyone else? Really at this point I just hate that he tries to justify his bad actions through Christianity and God. I seem to meet a lot of people who are hypocritical Christians and say that God wants them to treat others badly. I believe that God is loving and would want people to be understanding and truthful.
This guy really hurt me with his actions and I do not know how to deal with actions and justifications is what this comes down to. I put faith in him because he was a Godly and good person, but then he proceeded to tear me apart. It just seems ironic and sad to me. Maybe some people can offer some words of wisdom on the issue.
So here is the deal...I was dating a guy about 6 months ago who was my friend for about 2 years before out relationship started. During the beginning of the relationship he told me that he only believed in courting, but proceeded to call a relationship anyways (don't ask me why I was very confused because he did not talk with me about). Well anyways as the relationship went on he grew increasingly distant from me and then finally broke it off. He said something about me not being "the one" for him. I did not really have a problem with him not seeing us as a couple, I had a problem with him never talking to me about his beliefs.
Now me personally I believe that you should be able to talk to others about your beliefs and develop a game plan. I was really put off by his method of using God to justify his actions (constant lying, not communicating, and treating me with disrespect). I know I am not the perfect Christian, but I believe that using God to justify one's actions is also wrong. Another thing that bugs me now is that he is suddenly reformed into a "good" Christian again. Now granted I can believe that someone can be reformed and change completely, but it just seems odd to me that it happened at just the right time for him to blow me off. Oh another thing that makes me wonder is that he said he was "talking" to 2 other woman (in a sort of relationship way).
Also he told me we cannot talk anymore because I am a woman and he is swearing off women for right now. Does any of this seems suspiscious to anyone else? Really at this point I just hate that he tries to justify his bad actions through Christianity and God. I seem to meet a lot of people who are hypocritical Christians and say that God wants them to treat others badly. I believe that God is loving and would want people to be understanding and truthful.
This guy really hurt me with his actions and I do not know how to deal with actions and justifications is what this comes down to. I put faith in him because he was a Godly and good person, but then he proceeded to tear me apart. It just seems ironic and sad to me. Maybe some people can offer some words of wisdom on the issue.