Those Little Things

[Chaplain David]

Speaking of little things, what do you think are some of the best ways of supporting a woman who works outside of the home in a high-stress, long houred job? I am talking about my wife. She also works in professional counseling where despite boundaries etc., there is quite a bit of emotion and a lot of giving that drains her.

 

[Kaitlyn]

Speaking of little things, what do you think are some of the best ways of supporting a woman who works outside of the home in a high-stress, long houred job? I am talking about my wife. She also works in professional counseling where despite boundaries etc., there is quite a bit of emotion and a lot of giving that drains her.

1.An I love you text or call during the work day.

2.We always talk to each other for the first five or ten minutes alone in our room. It started when our children were young and too small to reach the door handle so that we knew exactly how each others day had been. 20 years on they still know those 5-10 minutes are ours.


3.Preparing dinner or ordering food in this is not only a gift to me but our children as well. I find it very helpful when my husband does this. Even though I get home before him he will help me put the finishing touches to a meal which is nice too.

4.Making a cup of herbal tea or coffee.

5.Vacuuming the rug.

6.Walking the dog together.

 

[Sapphire Dragon]

I love that he's always so gentle and understanding, and that no matter what I talk to him about, we either have a great conversation about it or an equal understanding of it. It's so harmonizing. ~

 

[TipsyTopsy]

I love that he is compassionate.

 

[hijklmnop]

Speaking of little things, what do you think are some of the best ways of supporting a woman who works outside of the home in a high-stress, long houred job? I am talking about my wife. She also works in professional counseling where despite boundaries etc., there is quite a bit of emotion and a lot of giving that drains her.

It'd be best to ask your wife what SHE would find most supportive, IMO.

Some things that I love are:

-loving texts during the workday
-him taking care of dinner
-a backrub or footrub after a long day
-allowing me time to myself if I need it to decompress
-letting me vent

Most of those would be dittoed by my also FT-working husband, though, so it's a give and take.

One random thing I love about my h is he is the best backrub-giver ever!
Also his sense of humour. He cracks me up!

 

[JaneFW]

The venting thing is important, but it's also important to understand when a spouse doesn't want to vent, and just wants to be quiet and not get a ton of questions fired at them, ending with "are you in a bad mood?" because you don't want to "share". Yes, that bit was personal.

To me there isn't a one size fits all response to stress.

Massage is good tho'! I prefer professonal so we signed up for 12 months and get a discount on our massages and it's the best thing we've ever done. It's the only way we make sure that we go and do it once a month. Only thing, I get spoiled, and would like to go more like once a week.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

He kisses me goodbye every morning and kisses me hello when we see each other again in the evening. He snuggles up to me when we're getting ready to fall asleep and I usually fall asleep in his arms. He texts and emails during the day. He brings me random offerings of chocolate There's tons of other little things every day.

 

[anglozaxon]

I love the way she reaches out and puts her arms around me when i need a cuddle

 

[Chaplain David]

I just noticed that I never thanked anyone for responding to my post. Thank you very much. All the responses were fantastic. God bless.

 

[Niffer]

I love how after the alarm goes off in the morning, after the snooze button is smacked, he always cuddles with me until he has to get up to go to work.
It's a great way to start the day!

- Jenny