this time of year

[Lily76_]

Hi am Asphyxia ,
I am finding this time of year really hard ...mainly because of abuse .
all of us in fact are feeling really scared the little ones especially .
We have a meeting with our pastor on Halloween...we would normally not see anyone during Halloween but i think its important to see him.
The abuse was a long time ago but its still feels like it happened only yesterday .
We are still trying to heal from it

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

I used to have a difficult time this time of year, but it has gotten better over the years. A couple years ago I even went to a program with my church friends... though I haven't the last two years because health wise I haven't been up to it. Sometimes it rears it's ugly head, but much easier to handle now.

I'm sorry it's a rough time of year for you, but I'm glad you have your pastor to go and talk to.

 

[Catherineanne]

Hi am Asphyxia ,
I am finding this time of year really hard ...mainly because of abuse .
all of us in fact are feeling really scared the little ones especially .
We have a meeting with our pastor on Halloween...we would normally not see anyone during Halloween but i think its important to see him.
The abuse was a long time ago but its still feels like it happened only yesterday .
We are still trying to heal from it

Can you suggest to the Pastor that you change the date of the meeting so that you can stay at home?

 

[Lily76_]

We would have normally cancel, but we don't know when we will be able to make another appointment as Ella's mum is getting cancer treatment and she needs us there .

 

[Catherineanne]

We would have normally cancel, but we don't know when we will be able to make another appointment as Ella's mum is getting cancer treatment and she needs us there .

I am really sorry to hear about your mum. Well done for being there for her.

Have you decided what to do about the meeting? Would it be possible to have it at your home, or perhaps somewhere nearer to home, such as a neighbour's house? Failing that, have you something to take with you to keep you safe; a toy or something that reminds you of safety? I have to do this; I wear a rosary whenever I have to go out, because it isn't safe out there.

I have DID.

 

[Lily76_]

We can take something with us that we feel is safe .
We take a stress ball with us where ever we go out.
we could also have a toy as well .

I think there is a few people here with DID ,Sorry about what you have been through
Asphyxia

 

[Catherineanne]

We can take something with us that we feel is safe .
We take a stress ball with us where ever we go out.
we could also have a toy as well .

I think there is a few people here with DID ,Sorry about what you have been through
Asphyxia

Thank you. I don't really know what it is that I went through; I know some of it but not all. I also don't know yet how many, or who they are; although I know there are at least three, and I know some of the names. It is very early days for me on this diagnosis, and I am still coming to terms with it. However, enough about me.

The stress ball sounds a good idea, and a toy may help. I do hope so. Anniversaries are very difficult. Does your pastor know about you? Is he understanding about it?

 

[Lily76_]

He knows about the abuse but not about us all .
He knows that we cant go to church because of the abuse as crosses really trigger us so we have to be careful.
he is understanding .