This Silver Ring Thing.

[seebs]

I don't think there are any more emotions for me to feel that I haven't already felt. To be a little clinical, for me it's all about choosing which emotions I want most, and jumping through the right hoops to get them.

Here you run into the problem that some combinations of emotional states are mutually exclusive, or that some emotions have major qualitative shifts under some circumstances.

With the possible exception of having a child (and I'd still dispute this) I don't think there are any more emotional surprises to be had.

There are always more emotional surprises to be had. The main one is usually strength of feeling, but there are others.

 

[Kira Faye]

I think Dr Phil said it best, "When ur havign good sex it matters abotu 2% to ur relationship, but if ur having bad sex, it matters more like 80% to the relationship. I have no problem with people choosing not to have or to have sex, we are all different. However, I find it alarming the facts about abstinance programs and birth rates. I htink Australia is pretty good about all of this, I think peopel have hang ups about sex before marriage and sex generaly are makign more roblems because they are creatign such an issue about it. If u choose not have have sex before mariage, great thast ur personnal choice and it matters to no one else. If we had a good sex ed prgram at school that helps with precautiosn etc....and good PARENTING, alot of hang ups woudl eb gone and things would settle down, thats my $0.02 at midnight. I'll think of more eloqant tings and think things out better later, so forgive me for my rushed analogy and logic. Don't be harsh, I'm sleepy!

 

[shastajade]

Or kill them. Dead kids don't....fornicate.

That's a little sick...

 

[Kira Faye]

but it is true in a morbid way.....

 

[Risen Tree]

Hmm.

Okay, now you've got me wondering about an interesting question.

Are there Briggs-Meyers type differences, statistically, between people who would be happy waiting until marriage, and people who would rather "practice" first?

Yes. Definitely. SPs are all about experimenting, whether in sex or anything else in life; SJs are much less prone to do so. NTs set their own standards, and NFs may experiment, although sex is far more likely to be an act of childlike innocence than a hedonic affair.

 

[seebs]

Yes. Definitely. SPs are all about experimenting, whether in sex or anything else in life; SJs are much less prone to do so. NTs set their own standards, and NFs may experiment, although sex is far more likely to be an act of childlike innocence than a hedonic affair.

I seem to recall that NFs are vulnerable to the "grass is greener on the other side of the fence" problem - not just in sex, but in general. My wife has always argued strenuously that you can't possibly make an informed decision to get married until you've had a lot of relationships. I think she's crazy... And hey, I picked her out in 7th grade.

 

[Risen Tree]

I seem to recall that NFs are vulnerable to the "grass is greener on the other side of the fence" problem - not just in sex, but in general. My wife has always argued strenuously that you can't possibly make an informed decision to get married until you've had a lot of relationships. I think she's crazy... And hey, I picked her out in 7th grade.

Sometimes, yes. But NFs are just as capable of falling in love once and for a lifetime, and channeling their innate single-mindedness into an innate tendency to explore their lover to an infinite degree.