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  • CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.

This is a question for the Ladies

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I know you asked for ladies but may I? Over the years I have seen FAR MORE woman come to this path than men. The problem is, that while God might want you to observe Shabbat, eat clean, et. al., He also isn't very keen on divorce. In my situation, I saw this path before my wife did. But I also recognized that A. I might have been wrong and B. even if she is my wife, I have no right to "force" her against her will. So, I used her as a fleece. I asked the Lord in prayer if it would be HIM and not me that would open her eyes if all this was the direction He desired us to go.

During the first 2 years we went to a congregation a few times and to cut the story short, around the 2 year mark she finally asked, "Why aren't we going to Beit Minorah more often?" We rarely miss since then, that was over a decade ago. My point is, don't lose hope but also don't put unnecessary pressure on your husband either. I am not saying you are, I didn't read anything that suggests you are.... I am just saying to throw him out as a fleece and let God do what God does. Your marriage to your husband is as important to God as you keeping Shabbat.

Brakhot.
Ken
Thanks so much for your reply Ken. Its not divorce bad, I just have to remember to play my part as Peter writes:
1 Peter 3:1 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
And trust me, with my big ole personality, that is hard work!!
 
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