Thinking about artificial insemination,wondering about there feelings.

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

Thinking about artificial insemination,concerned about them wanting to find the bio,and can't,or feeling bad about,not having bio dad in there life.Any thoughts!

 

[epiclesis]

I follow my Church's teaching and fully believe that it is wrong.

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

From my understanding,God forgives everything,so who cares about that,after u seek forgiveness or what ever.I wondering about the kid not having a bio father,stuff like that.

 

[epiclesis]

From my understanding,God forgives everything,so who cares about that,after u seek forgiveness or what ever.I wondering about the kid not having a bio father,stuff like that.

God is not going to forgive for a situation that resembles "I know what I want to do is wrong, but God will forgive me because He is merciful, so I'm going to do it anyway!" - that is the sin of presumption! We are called to humility, and that is a far bit away from humility. You seek forgiveness when you are truly humble and contrite and show severe regret for the sin you have committed - there is no contrition when you commit the sin with a thought that God will forgive what you are doing, which is why you are okay with committing it in the first place.

To answer the latter part - I find parenting so so so incredibly hard, and we are a nuclear family. I am a stay at home mom with my kids because that is what we feel is right for us. I look forward to a break as soon as my husband gets home, because it's so hard doing it on your own. I would not want to send my kids to full time daycare, as I want to rear my own children and see them learn and grow.
I would not want to be in a situation that I had to financially support me and my child alone with no close moral support. I would not want to be in a situation that I did not have someone to co-parent my child, as long as I truly had the option otherwise.
I believe in a child having two parents in all possible and reasonable situations, as I believes it helps to establish what a healthy relationship looks to a child.

 

[BeautifulCanvas]

I think this is solely between you and God. If you feel at peace with it, feel that God will bless you through this and that it is His will for you, then go for it. It's not about what someone else's church or theology decides is sin. It's about what God is telling you is right or wrong.

 

[ex-pat]

Selfish, actually. It's not in the best interests of the child. If you are independently wealthy, and can stay home 24/7 with your child, it's still not in the child's best interests.(they need male and female role models) If you have to work, you'll need a daycare you can afford (good luck!) on a single salary, one that has extended hours so that you can commute to and from work. You'll need to pick up your child after a hard day at work and run errands...bank, grocery, etc. If you've never taken a hungry, tired child grocery shopping, borrow a friend's and make the effort to find out how much fun that is. And hope your job is flexible enough so that when the daycare calls to say your child just projectile-vomited, come get said child NOW and keep him home till he's been fever-free for 24 hours...AND you have to pay the cente anyway, even though you're not earning a cent...you don't risk losing your job.

Many people are single parents and do a great job. Most of them would not recommend choosing to parent singly. Mostly you'll have a child saying "so, why'd you have me, all you do is dump me in day care?"

A thought to consider: what if you have twins? Or a child with special needs? Even if you only have one healthy child, your time with that child will be so limited if you work. Having a child you know will struggle (for attention, for financial reasons, for lack of identity) because of your desire to please yourself is just wrong.

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

Selfish, actually. It's not in the best interests of the child. If you are independently wealthy, and can stay home 24/7 with your child, it's still not in the child's best interests.(they need male and female role models)

That's what families for.Alot of families end up single,because loser men.So I wouldn't count on a man in the first place.

 

[c1ners]

No, I don't think it would be right. If you were married and your husband could not have children it would be one thing, but to be artificaially inseminated when you aren't even married to me is a little selfish. God intended for man and woman to raise a child. Not man alone or woman alone.

 

[lillivanilli]

I'm glad to see somebody actually considering the child's feelings in this. As someone who grew up not knowing my biological roots, I can tell you that it is oftentimes painful and quite difficult to know know your roots. Regardless of how much you may be able to provide for that child, how much love you have, nothing can take the place of knowing who and where you come from.

If this is the route somebody chooses, I would advise KNOWING who that sperm came from and at very least allowing the child produced to know the full truth of their origins. Having "anonymous" as a father is just plain cruel. Every one of us should know our roots.

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

I'm glad to see somebody actually considering the child's feelings in this. As someone who grew up not knowing my biological roots, I can tell you that it is oftentimes painful and quite difficult to know know your roots. Regardless of how much you may be able to provide for that child, how much love you have, nothing can take the place of knowing who and where you come from.

This what I thought, I tried to tell people this,but knowbody seem to care,about the child not knowing there roots.