Things you need to know about them..

[KGirl]

What are some good questions to ask the person you are dating that would be good to know for future reference??
I can't seem to think of anything. I know so far that he and I are on the same path with the same goal of living by the word and seeking to learn more truth from the Bible. I know what he wants to do for a living and his thoughts on where he would like to live in his future, things like that.
So any possible questions would be appreciated.

 

[PandC]

ask him where he sees his life in 10 yrs
what does he want to get out of life?
ask him how he has fun, his hobbies, his view of different events in the world
many things to ask - just keep asking

 

[aunt_kelly]

my boyfriend and I have talked about EVERYTHING! (or so it seems) lol, for example, the other day he asked if I roll my towels or if I fold them.

An important topic, especially if you plan on marrying this person, is finances. Does he like to spend money when he feels like it, or does he save it? Does he have a credit card and is building credit? Does he have good credit? Does he believe that all money is shared in a marriage?

Ask him about his job, as in his career. Does he like his job? Does he want to stay at his job for a while? Is it what he wants to do with his life? Does he have one specific career that he'd like to have?

Talk about food. What kind of food does he/doesn't he like? Does he like to cook, or does he like frozen stuff? Does he get a lot of take-out or eat out a lot?

Talk about anything and everything! If you're going to get married, you'd probably like to know everything, that way there are no surprises later on! lol.

Have fun talking!

 

[dawnsday]

how does he fight/express emotion - that one just caused a huge rift with me and my guy (we fixed it though!) but if we would have talked about it before it would have been easier.

how does he view money?

 

[KGirl]

Wow I suppose I know alot about him. I know everything mentioned except I haven't asked him how he thinks arguments should be handled. I do know so far he is pretty calm and discusses things.

 

[dawnsday]

Wow I suppose I know alot about him. I know everything mentioned except I haven't asked him how he thinks arguments should be handled. I do know so far he is pretty calm and discusses things.

so was mine --- then i found out he was a bottler --- you know just doesn't say anything until BOOM!

so am i --- two bottlers = big boom! i wish i would have known before so i was prepared.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Does he want kids? How many? What about discipline?
Tithing?

 

[K9_Trainer]

All of the above.

Where does he want to live some day?
How organized (or disorganized) is he?
Is he a spender or a saver?
What does he expect in a wife? This is a huge one....Things like, is he going to want you to cook for him? Is he going to cook? Are you going to do it together? Would he mind you having a job too? If you have kids, does he expect you to be a SAHM? Is cleaning your business?
Does he want to travel? If so, where?

 

[puddleoffaith]

Keep in mind how long you have been dating/how serious it is. Most guys do not want to be asked about how many children they want/discipline styles/names if they are 23 and you've been dating for couple of months. This may SCARE him, even if he does want to marry you in a few years.

 

[BeanMak]

watch how does he treat his family- his parents and siblings- this is a good clue of what might be in store for the future.

 

[HisLittleHazelnut]

Not sure if these are applicable for your situation but they are applicable to many situations and someone might read this thread wanting to know questions to ask.

So the questions:

How many relationships has he been in, how serious did they get? Were they physically involved and to what extent? Is he sorry he was in those relationships? If not sorry for the relationships is he sorry for whatever level of physical involvement he got into?

 

[k450ofu3k-gh-5ipe]

-loves Jesus more than me (puts him first)
-strong-willed and stubborn (like my mom and my sisters)
-intellectually compatible (can challenge one another intellectually and "as iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.")
-physically attractive and sexy to me
-compassionate heart (she must truly care about those around her and those that are hurt and suffering)
-has goals and a mission in life
-organized with administrative skills (because I am not organized, and I cower in fear at W-2 forms :'(; yes, I'm ashamed to admit it, but I need help on my taxes)
-similar views about children, finances, sex, married life, etc.
-there are a few more, but to make this quick, I'll stop there.



Bonuses:
-not easily offended
-similar sex drive as me