hey, my names Jt and i am bi...my parents dont know...and i dont want to tell them, cuz they might disown me..What should i do?
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I don't know what you should do. It sounds like a scary and overwhelming thing for you to be facing. As a parent, I hope that I stay connected enough to my children that I will know such things about them before they do. It is a parents responsibility to initiate conversations about these things -- and to create and environment where it feels safe for children to broach these subjects. It sounds like the responsibility has fallen on your shoulders instead, and it really isn't fair. I wish they would give you the opportunity to bring this up.
What if you were to go to them and ask for advice -- instead of outright making a declaration. Ask them general questions about relationships and sex, and feel them out somewhat. If they love you, they will want to be involved in your life and help you through this.
You will be in my thoughts.
What if you were to go to them and ask for advice -- instead of outright making a declaration. Ask them general questions about relationships and sex, and feel them out somewhat. If they love you, they will want to be involved in your life and help you through this.
You will be in my thoughts.
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joelbarrutia
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This is some advice I KNOW you wont want to hear, but I also know its something you need to....
Being Bi-sexual is a sin. That is a fact according to the Bible.
But you also need to remember that God will not disown ANYONE for their sin, all you need is Christ to clean your heart, then God will move into your heart and will never leave.
Every single Christian still sins! But the difference is after accepting Christ God says we are no longer bound to sin, but we have the choice.
A sin is a sin, and God has told us that there is no sin that is has power over us. People are NOT born gay, its a choice (whether they really think about it or not, its not a "hey, I think I will be gay (or bi) today!". Its a slow growth of desire in our hearts for impure things. This growth masks it's self as being "natural" and normal, this sin wants you to think you were born with these feelings. But the Bible clearly states we are not (Romans 1:26,27).
so my advice is the same for anyone involved in ANY KIND of sexual sin, seek spiritual help, seek God and he will free you from this sin! (if you dont think you could tell anyone in person at least try this program http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/door_hope/# )
But for right now, this very second I ask that you pray to God, that you pray for forgiveness of sins and for him to install a hatred of sin in your heart (all of us need to do this). We are all (at least most of us...) here to help you, please post here more and we can talk about ways to combat sin in each one of our lives!
As for telling your parents, I believe the key would be to do it with TOTAL humility. Dont go into the conversation with pride and set in your ways. Come to them not to tell them, but to seek their help and guidance. Ask them to help you defeat this sin, ask them to arrange meetings with a local pastor you can trust.
I really do think that you should tell your parents and make sure you do it with a humble spirit!
Being Bi-sexual is a sin. That is a fact according to the Bible.
But you also need to remember that God will not disown ANYONE for their sin, all you need is Christ to clean your heart, then God will move into your heart and will never leave.
Every single Christian still sins! But the difference is after accepting Christ God says we are no longer bound to sin, but we have the choice.
A sin is a sin, and God has told us that there is no sin that is has power over us. People are NOT born gay, its a choice (whether they really think about it or not, its not a "hey, I think I will be gay (or bi) today!". Its a slow growth of desire in our hearts for impure things. This growth masks it's self as being "natural" and normal, this sin wants you to think you were born with these feelings. But the Bible clearly states we are not (Romans 1:26,27).
so my advice is the same for anyone involved in ANY KIND of sexual sin, seek spiritual help, seek God and he will free you from this sin! (if you dont think you could tell anyone in person at least try this program http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/door_hope/# )
But for right now, this very second I ask that you pray to God, that you pray for forgiveness of sins and for him to install a hatred of sin in your heart (all of us need to do this). We are all (at least most of us...) here to help you, please post here more and we can talk about ways to combat sin in each one of our lives!
As for telling your parents, I believe the key would be to do it with TOTAL humility. Dont go into the conversation with pride and set in your ways. Come to them not to tell them, but to seek their help and guidance. Ask them to help you defeat this sin, ask them to arrange meetings with a local pastor you can trust.
I really do think that you should tell your parents and make sure you do it with a humble spirit!
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I agree with Joel, sweetie. I agree that praying about it and even talking to your parents would be helpful. I checked out that website and I think you should too. I know this isn't what you want to hear. Just know that we are saying this in love. No matter what the world today says, the Bible says it is a sin. Sin is fun; we all know that. But it is destructive. I'll be saying a prayer for you.
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Loki
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Not to make light of bisexuality, but I noted from your age that you're still young, and probably figuring things out. And please forgive me if I respond inappropriately. Many people your age are what some call "bi-curious." They think about, maybe fantasize about it, think they would act on it. Sometimes it subsides in time; when I was 15, I really thought I was bisexual, but later on, the thoughts and urges and curiosity subsided. I'm still not really sure why, but apparently, from talking to friends, it's not wholly uncommon.
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The Bible may say that certain actions are sins; it doesn't say that having certain tendencies is sinful.
"Being bisexual" doesn't mean you're having sex with anyone; it means that the part of your brain which responds sexually doesn't show a strong gender preference. The sin is not in having a certain body, but in how you choose to act on the impulses you have. All of us, straight or otherwise, have the option of sinning in the way we deal with our sexual impulses; all of us have the option of not sinning in that. The impulses themselves are not under your control, and there is no sin without volition.
"Being bisexual" doesn't mean you're having sex with anyone; it means that the part of your brain which responds sexually doesn't show a strong gender preference. The sin is not in having a certain body, but in how you choose to act on the impulses you have. All of us, straight or otherwise, have the option of sinning in the way we deal with our sexual impulses; all of us have the option of not sinning in that. The impulses themselves are not under your control, and there is no sin without volition.
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I agree with Loki here. Your body is going through a very hectic time right now and I wouldn't make any judgments on your sexuality. I would just ride it out and see what turns up. There's so many hormones and things mixing around in your body that you can't really come to trust it. I'm sure you've noticed at some points that you've done things out of character and you don't know why. This is normal; don't worry about it. It's not entirely uncommon for people your age to go through this. Don't beat yourself up about it.
In a couple of years it should be pretty evident whether you are hetero, bi, or homosexual. You can't help what your body tells you to like.
In a couple of years it should be pretty evident whether you are hetero, bi, or homosexual. You can't help what your body tells you to like.
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Jt, I just wanted to say that if I were your parent I would want to know if you have these thoughts about being bi sexual. I have been involved with alot of young people how told me they were "bi" I told them they are/were too young to really know what that would mean, some have changed, others I don't know but it seems all these young ones are kids who can't or won't talk to their parents, thats sad. I haven't always liked everything my sons have told me but I certainly wouldn't disown them. I will keep you in my prayers, and think about talking to them, it may help, and who knows they may already suspect, remember parents are usually pretty observent, they may be waiting for you to talk to them.
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Loki
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FWIW, my bf and i have discussed this (Not this thread, but this topic), and he said that when he was high school aged, he thought he might be bi, too. I think it's probably a not-so-uncommon stage, and you've got some crazy hormonal things going on right now that make things even more muddled. Hang in there, and if you want to talk some more, go ahead and PM me.
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joelbarrutia said:
I agree totally. Homesexuality is a sin and you need to ask God to forgive you for your sins. It says in the bible Levitus 20:13 "If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them must be put to death. What they have done is perversion; their blood will be on their own heads." That means they will pay for their own sins, and that does not just apply to men but women also. Just think some more about it. God Bless
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