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There must be something wrong with me...
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I feel a little different. I feel I would have loved and would still love high school, if only I had less hours so that I could enjoy studying.
It's true I miss friends. I always knew I'd miss them.
But I can't say I like college, I'm not there yet. I have 'till october if I get accepted at all.
I think you will get used to it all, why don't you have more, new friends?
It's true I miss friends. I always knew I'd miss them.
But I can't say I like college, I'm not there yet. I have 'till october if I get accepted at all.
I think you will get used to it all, why don't you have more, new friends?
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i totally understand tina.. i feel that way too. it's especially true for me, becuase i came from a super tiny high school, where everybody knew you and your family. i absolutely hated high school.. i was soo bored. but now it's just weird to be just a number amongst thousands.. nobody knows you, or cares. so no, there's nothing wrong with you. i totally understand about the not having any friends thing.. i only have two right now.. if you need somone to talk to, feel free to pm me
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"Something's lost but something's gained in living every day"
That's from the song Both Sides Now, if you didn't know.
That's from the song Both Sides Now, if you didn't know
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Leaving everything behind can be sad, but looking at the adventure, opportunity, and the unknown that awaits you out weighs the sadness. It did for me anyway. Remember the good times and go make some more!! College should be one of the best experiences in life, don't let it pass you by because you're stuck in the past! And girl, soon enough, you'll have lots of friends.
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I felt EXACTLY the same way as you, but don't worry it will pass. Of course it takes a while, longer than I would have liked, but eventually you make awesome college friends and the idea of only having three tests for a class is great.~*~tina~*~ said:
Just don't be too hard on yourself, it takes a while to get used to the changes. And I know right now you're not believing me and that you will like college, but you will
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Man oh man...I know precisely how you feel. It's a deep-seated feeling of sheer helplessness, and you feel as if you can't do anything to make it better.
Are you involved in any Christian youth groups on campus? How are they treating you?
Are you involved in any Christian youth groups on campus? How are they treating you?
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check into it, Tina. Sometimes they really are there, you just have to dig to find them! On the flip side, check out some churches that are close to your campus. Most of them will have some of the students from your university there and it's a great way to meet new friends while growing in your faith!
For groups on campus, look for InterVarsity Christian Fellowship (IVCF), Campus Crusade for Christ (CCC), Navigators, Young Life, Baptist Student Union, Fellowship of Christian Athletes (if you've ever played sports), etc.
I felt the same way as you my freshman year. I went to a super small high school. We had the largest graduating class in history, and still hold the record at 32. My first class in college was twice the size of my entire high school. It was quite a culture shock. I knew my roommate when I moved it...or at least I thought I did. She was a sophomore, which meant for me to live with her, I had to live in the upper-class dorm. Everyone already knew each other and were much more interesting in going out and getting drunk than wanting to be friends with a lowly freshman. (I learned soon enough this wasn't the attitude of all upperclassmen, just a select few) My roommate ended up moving out just after Christmas. I was glad that she was moving out (I could give you some roommate horror stories from living with her!), but at the same time, I was so depressed that I was going to be living alone...and at that point, I still had not made very many friends. After spending several nights alone in my room, crying myself to sleep, missing home, my old school, all of my friends, it finally hit me that I WASN'T alone. Even when it seemed like everyone was gone and I had no one, God was still there, waiting for me to turn to Him and let Him be the best friend that I was longing for. It was a real turning point for me. About 3 weeks into the spring semester, I got involved in InterVarsity and made some WONDERFUL, lifelong friends. I still talk to these guys on a regular basis and we are scattered all over the country (and world!) today. Just hang in there and don't give up. Email your old friends...keep the lines of communication open. I still talk to and see my old high school friends quite often because we have all kept in touch through email and IM...granted, when we get together, it is usually some sort of celebration (wedding, birth of a baby, someone is moving, etc), but it doesn't matter to us what the reason is, as long as we can spend some time with each other and catch up on what has been going on in each other's lives since the last time we saw each other.
Give it some time, and get involved in some things...you will meet friends, I promise! And don't forget that you are in an awesome mission field and have an amazing opportunity to witness to those around you!
For groups on campus, look for InterVarsity Christian Fellowship (IVCF), Campus Crusade for Christ (CCC), Navigators, Young Life, Baptist Student Union, Fellowship of Christian Athletes (if you've ever played sports), etc.
I felt the same way as you my freshman year. I went to a super small high school. We had the largest graduating class in history, and still hold the record at 32. My first class in college was twice the size of my entire high school. It was quite a culture shock. I knew my roommate when I moved it...or at least I thought I did. She was a sophomore, which meant for me to live with her, I had to live in the upper-class dorm. Everyone already knew each other and were much more interesting in going out and getting drunk than wanting to be friends with a lowly freshman. (I learned soon enough this wasn't the attitude of all upperclassmen, just a select few) My roommate ended up moving out just after Christmas. I was glad that she was moving out (I could give you some roommate horror stories from living with her!), but at the same time, I was so depressed that I was going to be living alone...and at that point, I still had not made very many friends. After spending several nights alone in my room, crying myself to sleep, missing home, my old school, all of my friends, it finally hit me that I WASN'T alone. Even when it seemed like everyone was gone and I had no one, God was still there, waiting for me to turn to Him and let Him be the best friend that I was longing for. It was a real turning point for me. About 3 weeks into the spring semester, I got involved in InterVarsity and made some WONDERFUL, lifelong friends. I still talk to these guys on a regular basis and we are scattered all over the country (and world!) today. Just hang in there and don't give up. Email your old friends...keep the lines of communication open. I still talk to and see my old high school friends quite often because we have all kept in touch through email and IM...granted, when we get together, it is usually some sort of celebration (wedding, birth of a baby, someone is moving, etc), but it doesn't matter to us what the reason is, as long as we can spend some time with each other and catch up on what has been going on in each other's lives since the last time we saw each other.
Give it some time, and get involved in some things...you will meet friends, I promise! And don't forget that you are in an awesome mission field and have an amazing opportunity to witness to those around you!
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Yeah I feel that way sometimes too. Its a large change going from high school to wherever you go. The magnitude of this change was never really impressed upon me until it actually happened. You go from doing what others tell you to making your own decisions. The sudden freedom and listlessness can be depressing. That is when you have to decide what you will do with the rest of your life which you now fully control. People who fail to find direction at this time in their lives are often the ones who end up working crummy jobs and always try to relive the past.
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DogBluff
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Tina! I am so glad that you posted about missing high school! I thought that I was the only one who really felt that way! Grant it, I loved high school while I was there also! I'm in my Sophmore year in college now, and I can tell you, it gets better. After you return to school from Christmas break, you'll probably realize just how many new friends you really have made at school. Probably a lot more that you think. I still don't like college as well as high school, don't think that I ever will, but really...one day you'll be thinking back on a high school memory and all of a sudden think, "Wow, glad I don't have to go through that again!" And if you're like me, to tend to only miss the thought of something rather than the actual thing itself. Like maybe you're remembering high school better than what it really was. But anyhow, I hope you find a great group of Christians to hang out with and that you feel better about college soon!
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I'm not actually at school yet, I don't leave for a week and a half, so I'm there yet. I don't really miss high school, because my high school is the strictest one in the county, if not the state. I am a bit lonely at times, but it isn't so much lonelyness as it is boredom, there is no one here and so I have nothing to do most of the tieme. I do have a good friend who wants to drop out, but doesn't dare with out her mothers permission (which she'll never get) because she hates it so much. So I think a lot of it depends on the person.
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i just made the transition from high school to college. i am going to a huge university and it's kind of frustrating. you spent 4 years of high school trying to make your way to the top, and once you got there, you were knocked off your pedestal and had to start all over in college. the frustrating part is that in the midst of 20,000 people, i don't know a single person yet. i have only been there 2 weeks but have already started intramural sports and am thinking of joining some christian clubs and some clubs for my business major. that's what i'm doing to cope but i absolutely do remember this feeling of "Uh-Oh, What am i going to do now". For the last couple weeks of high school and a couple weeks after i was in a state of shock. i thought life was over. but i've discovered that there is life after high school. my best piece of advice would be: remember the past but don't dwell on it, live in the present but don't get carried away with it, and plan for the future but don't neglect the present. also, as others recommended i would highly advise joining clubs. it's hard sometimes, especially at a big university like mine to just expect to make friends in classes in the first few days. i think clubs are a great way to get involved and learn to enjoy the present. and i'm sure you've heard people say "high school was the time of my life" or "college was the time of my life". instead of assuming they're right like i once did, try not to live someone else's experience. don't expect college to be anything and i think you'll come away positively surprised.
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tinkerbell
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I know exactly how you feel. I am feeling much the same way myself. It is a hard transition to make. Actually, just this morning, I was thinking - I wish I could go back to high school again. I don't mind the grades and stuff so much, and the teachers at my college are really nice - one calls everyone who misses his class to make sure they're okay - but it's just so differant. I don't like it as much.
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