The Authenticism you mention is at the very core of what is going wrong.
I don't know about 'padlocking the gate', I spent years looking for it but never found it.
The chaplain said 'after you are born you still need to grow, read the Bible every day, pray and meet with other Christians and you will grow in Christ'.
I eventually wrote to Campus Crusade for Christ and got the answer, that I was now born into Christ's family and that was his plan for my life.
So there was no individual plan and no actual end product either.
The chaplain's 'it takes time' really means keep on attending and keep putting money in the collection.
Well....... I find your final paragraph indicates a lack of insight into what it means to become an authentic Christian. I think you are close enough at this point to embrace the following:
Here is the status of those who are not "Spiritually Birthed.": Romans 3:10.
Here is the Biblical, Spiritual insight into the Spiritually Birthed experience: John 10:28-30. John 3:16-17. John 5:24. Romans 8:1. Ephesians 2:8-9.
As you can see, eternal security in Jesus Christ is guaranteed, and forever.
So how does one get there? Here it is, no rules, no regulations, no policies, no procedures, no performance standard:
Romans 10:8-13.
That's it. Believe it, receive it, walk in it rejoicing.
So what's the catch? There is none. Confess it, and you belong to Him, forever.
Scope out a simple, straight-forward assembly of Christians. Meet with them. Grow with them. Have your Bible at the ready. Smile. Shake hands. Thank God. Rest assured you'll see me and a lot of other folks in Heaven.
You can contact me through the conversation option if you want insight into the various denominations.
Be blessed!