The Words "I'm pregnant"

[Beth1231]

First of all, please forgive me. I don't usually write semi-depressing thread starters Second of all, I'm not TTC (Don't I wish!!!!). Hubby and I are biting the bullet and waiting at least a year; probabaly more (money issues)
ANYWAY......

How does it make you feel when you read the words or worse, hear the words "Guess what? I'm pregnant?" I smile, I'm happy for them (truly) but at the same time I feel the same sort of pain that I experience when my Husband says something really insensitive or harsh (which is rare, by the way). It literally hurts. Am I alone in this? Is it my fault since I think about being a mother so much?
If I wasn't a nanny I think I would be mildly depressed.
Okay, again please forgive me for the semi-depressing thread. Can anyone relate to the painful feelings when they hear those two words you yourself desperately want to be saying? *cry*

 

[Linnis]

Friends ours just had their second child, another son. They weren't trying and they got pregnant, while we're going into month 11. It feels rather unfair considering they are living in His mom's attic, with a porto potty from a trailor as a bathroom.

I know everything is in God's time and I pray and pray but if does get difficult. I want to be saying those words. I would be more than happy to spend 4+ hours putting together a crib, not complaining about it.

Yeah, I so understand what you are talking about.

 

[Beth1231]

cybernet implant sporting princess???!!!! I just happened to let my mouse sit on your CF doll and saw this. Thanks for the smile

I just got back from a trip to the Single's Corner of CF. It made me feel guilty. I am VERY happily married and I just don't know what I would do without my Husband. I felt guilty for feeling so sad that we can't have a child yet when at least I am not lonely and longing for someone to share my life with. I don't know if this will help you or not, Linnis....me hopes so. Meanwhile, we will wait together, Sis *hug

 

[Linnis]

I had to put that because I got asked about 10 times a day what was over my eye or my CF character''s eye I mean and it's like fine I'll put it there. The princess part is from when I was sporting a gown and a Bat'Leth.

 

[Leanna]

I do know how you feel. There was a time earlier in my marriage that I really had the baby bug, but I had to wait. Everyone around me was getting pregnant and it was really hard for me. The newly married girl in my small group got pregnant and she was so cute. I couldn't wait to have a tummy. Couple years later, the day I heard my SIL was pregnant I was very upset..... that's a story in itself though. A week later I found out I was already pregnant.

 

[FaithAlone]

Yeah I just found out that two of our couple friends are pregnant on the same day. I was extremely happy for them but at the same time really upset that it wasn't me.

 

[~Nikki~]

Boy, well I'm sorry for any distress I've caused to you guys...

Truly I am...

I'll try and keep my mouth shut...

 

[Singin4Him]

Yeah I'm right there with you all! If I read another thread stating someone is preggers I think I might just scream lol . Seriously though it is very disappointing getting the BFN month after month. I found out recently that because I have a tilted uterus it can make things more difficult for me, that is tough because other than surgery there is nothing I can do about it. Many women get pregnant with a tilted uterus but it is just a little tougher.

I really think we need a support group for those of us who are struggling TTC.

 

[Linnis]

Boy, well I'm sorry for any distress I've caused to you guys...

Truly I am...

I'll try and keep my mouth shut...

Oh we know that you are just being happy not rubbing our faces in it.

I'm very happy for you.


We are going into our 10th month of TTC so it gets hard, very hard even more so when so many people just get pregnant. Even more so when we know we have problems which may be the reason why we're not getting pregnant.

 

[~Nikki~]

Oh we know that you are just being happy not rubbing our faces in it.

I'm very happy for you.


We are going into our 10th month of TTC so it gets hard, very hard even more so when so many people just get pregnant. Even more so when we know we have problems which may be the reason why we're not getting pregnant.

It took 7 months for us and I was starting to believe that we might not be able to conceive naturally, and the last few months I was swallowing back the disappointment each month...so I can *kind of* understand and I should have been a bit more thoughtful of you...

 

[rakkoon]

Oh yeah I know how that feels. For the first 3 years of our marriage, my husband didn't want to have another child. I have a 15 y/o now from a previous relationship, which he was fine with and very happy at the time b/c she is older we don't have to worry about childcare. My 2 best friends at the time popped 4 kids out during that period. I felt depressed b/c I didn't know if he would every be ready to have a baby of our own. It seemed like everyone was pregnant, every where I went there was a pregnant tummy.
Well then on 12/19/2003 we found out I was pregnant with our first child. We weren't TTC at all. My husband was so happy, now he wants a huge family. Now he says he feels complete.
Its all in Gods timing.

 

[ButterflyHollers]

I am with yall but slightly feeling guilty about being down about not getting Preg because I do have one and he is 5 but I always wanted 2 I was an only child and didn't want him to be. I had him before my hubby and I was married 3 months and I was preg now we have been trying for a year and a half and nothing... when that time of the month comes even if I try not to get excited and say maybe I do and then I start and then I am soooo sad... and I usually just cry... since coming off of marina birth control my period is later and later every month and so it makes me think maybe I am preg but .....

 

[daughterofzion]

First of all, please forgive me. I don't usually write semi-depressing thread starters Second of all, I'm not TTC (Don't I wish!!!!). Hubby and I are biting the bullet and waiting at least a year; probabaly more (money issues)
ANYWAY......

How does it make you feel when you read the words or worse, hear the words "Guess what? I'm pregnant?" I smile, I'm happy for them (truly) but at the same time I feel the same sort of pain that I experience when my Husband says something really insensitive or harsh (which is rare, by the way). It literally hurts. Am I alone in this? Is it my fault since I think about being a mother so much?
If I wasn't a nanny I think I would be mildly depressed.
Okay, again please forgive me for the semi-depressing thread. Can anyone relate to the painful feelings when they hear those two words you yourself desperately want to be saying? *cry*

Hello, thank you for your honest post. I understand exactly how you feel. Sometimes its so embarresing to when some people you know get pregnant and they know you want to have a baby, even though I am genuinly rejoicing with them, it can feel awkard. And ofcourse I think when will it be my turn sometimes. I just wrote up my ongoing testimony in this area if you would like to read it.
http://www.christianforums.com/t2511395-i-am-fruitful-and-i-multiply.html#post21331787

Much love.

 

[twopeasinapod077]

I have been there too!

My husband and I need to go a different route to have children. I can't carry my own. We are thinking on either going through surrogacy or adoption.

My sister in law has 2 girls and they are 6 and 8. Whenever we go over to my husband's grandparents for Thanksgiving and Christmas, my husband plays with them and I wish he was playing with one of our own!!

I'm 28 years old and yes, it's been a long wait. Who knows, next year or next after that will be a good year for you

 

[Jillymac]

I'm glad i've found this thread, i dont get depressed when someone tells me they're pregnant - which, by the way, has been an awful over the past while! Many of my friends have had a baby recently or are pregnant.

I know we want to wait a year and a bit (the goal was 2 years, its decreased somewhat), but we both want a baby so i cant help feeling that teeny bit envious at the same time as being overjoyed for my friends that tell me they're pregnant! i posted on the womens forum - how do i stop feeling so broody when i have quite a while to wait?

does anyone have an answer?

 

[Singin4Him]

 

[Leanna]

I was thinking of you today when reading some things.... your time will come

 

[ShiningSonBeam]

I'm noticing many of you are still in your twenties. Praise the Lord there is time!! He KNOWS your desire, believe me. I gave birth to our son at 34. He will turn 1 in a few weeks and I'll be 35 in June. I do wonder about his life and how long I will be a part of it. I also would like a second child but wonder about the medical complications of being older. If it is to be, then God will make it so. Trust in Him with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding... acknowledge Him in all your ways, and He will direct your path.

With love,
Marcy

 

[Linnis]

I think the hardest thing for me is that 15 year old girl in church who makes comments like she wished her mother would have allowed her to abort. He's such a sweetheart her son.

 

[Lexi]

Ahh, Linnis, I don't think I could take someone saying that around me. I'd just want to gather up their wee bairn and take 'em home with me. *laugh*

I'm not married yet so I have a while to go before I can TTC but it still pains me to hear about other people who are pregnant. I can't wait until it's my turn!