The word "date"

[wolfiswill]

When you say your going on a date what does that imply? Does it mean that you are interested in more than friends? Sorry if this sounds confusing but I hear it a lot and know that several people may use the same word but it may mean different things. What are your thoughts on this?

 

[goat37]

When I say that I am going out on a date -

I say that as I am going out with a female that I am trying to find out if there could be something more than friendship.
Means that we set aside a certian time, to go out and get to know each other better - see if we are compatible, and have fun...


I have plenty of female friends that are just 'friends' and when I go hang out with them, I never call it a 'date', usually I just say 'hanging out'.

 

[Brutus/HisCatalyst]

When I say date, I imply that I see something in the girl.

 

[the_man]

When you say your going on a date what does that imply? Does it mean that you are interested in more than friends? Sorry if this sounds confusing but I hear it a lot and know that several people may use the same word but it may mean different things. What are your thoughts on this?

Heh, I use the term losely. So it depends on the context. Example:

"I have a date with my Econ text book" (means that my econ text book and I will get to know each other more intimately)

"Mike is my date" (this one requires an explanation. Mike is a single buddy of mine in our college and career group. On most occasions we are the only two single guys in the midst of 4-8 married couples, all of whom are our friends. so we kid around and say we are on a date)

"I'm taking Lydia out on a date" (Lydia is a girl that i'm interested and (hopefully) is interested in me...we are going out to enjoy each others company and learn a bit more about each other)

"I'm taking Lydia out on a date" (If Lydia happens to be my wife (note: Lydia is a ficticious character) or my fiancee, then the date has little to do with learning each other (altho that happens, but that's not the purpose of the date), it is more to enjoy each others company).


You were probably more interested in the last two than the first, hehe.

 

[fishstix]

To me, going on a date implys that a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship exists or is being pursued unless the term is obviously being used tongue-in-cheek (eg. a man who says he has a date with his grandmother). The term I would use to avoid confusion if the people are not looking for more than a friendship would be 'hanging out'.

To say that someone is dating someone would mean to me that they are boyfriend/girlfriend. If they are not yet officially boyfriend/girlfriend, but are going on dates with each other in the hope of something more developing, then they would be 'seeing each other' and if they are not going on dates with anyone else then they would be 'seeing each other exclusively'. At least thats what I understood from the girls at university last year...

 

[sweetlambofgod]

Date= more than friends

 

[JPPT1974]

First I believe in dating casually as friends. Notice that I didn't say boyfriend nor girlfriend. But just friends at first. To get to know each other. But then leave it all up to God for him to guide the friendship ans see where he wants you to take it.

 

[fishstix]

First I believe in dating casually as friends. Notice that I didn't say boyfriend nor girlfriend. But just friends at first. To get to know each other. But then leave it all up to God for him to guide the friendship ans see where he wants you to take it.

I agree that people should be friends first and get to know each other before taking things further. I think that what I would differ from you on would be just what label I would put on that friendship - I'd call it hanging out rather than dating as to me the word 'dating' indicates that the relationship is moving or has moved beyond friendship.

A rose by any other name...

 

[Singing Bush]

Date? Isn't that a not-so-great tasting fruit?

 

[Fatolia]

Hmmmm....No dates are wonderful and tasty and nutritious!!

But I've used the term date before rather loosely as well. When I call a girl and invite her on a date, am I supposed to then proceed into a three-minute verbal disclaimer of precisely what my intentions are? Of course not! When I start being brutally straightforward like that it tends to tick girls off real quick. We don't need to take these things so seriously!

Actually, I think it's quite fun to wonder what the other person is thinking. Need not so much worrying.

 

[fishstix]

Hmmmm....No dates are wonderful and tasty and nutritious!!

But I've used the term date before rather loosely as well. When I call a girl and invite her on a date, am I supposed to then proceed into a three-minute verbal disclaimer of precisely what my intentions are? Of course not! When I start being brutally straightforward like that it tends to tick girls off real quick. We don't need to take these things so seriously!

Actually, I think it's quite fun to wonder what the other person is thinking. Need not so much worrying.

Actually, it's more like a 3 word verbal disclaimer rather than a 3 minute one. Say the words "just as friends" and that will make things clear. Personally, I think that it would be the wondering what the other person is thinking that would be the most worrying. Knowing for sure one way or the other and having my intentions out in the open is what would eliminate much of the worrying - for me anyway.

 

[wolfiswill]

I totally agree with you. I just don't use the word date loosely because for me it implies romantic intentions. If I'm gonna hang out with a friend who is a girl I call it just that. It doesn't lead the other person to wonder.

 

[Glorianna]

Well I've never really gone on a date before but I would say that I am going on a date because I want to see if things could possibly work out with a guy I'm interested in. Could this end up in marriage? That's what I'm trying to figure out on a date.

 

[Fatolia]

But when you go out with someone, what if you don't have intentions? What's this big deal with intentions? Why do I have to have intentions? What if there aren't intentions? I'm just going to be myself: to try to love like Jesus and forget about me (see? why the blue blazes am I talking about myself again!?). The differentiation between "friends" and "something more" is and always has been completely meaningless to me; I don't see what's the big deal.

Maybe THAT'S why I confuse girls!

 

[fishstix]

But when you go out with someone, what if you don't have intentions? What's this big deal with intentions? Why do I have to have intentions? What if there aren't intentions? I'm just going to be myself: to try to love like Jesus and forget about me (see? why the blue blazes am I talking about myself again!?). The differentiation between "friends" and "something more" is and always has been completely meaningless to me; I don't see what's the big deal.

Maybe THAT'S why I confuse girls!

If you don't have intentions then you're just hanging out and are just friends. If you don't have intentions, then that clearly differentiates between friends and something more.

 

[OhhJim]

Sometimes a date means that you enjoy a person's company, and like flirting with members of the opposite sex, but you both understand that nothing is going to happen. Or it's more enjoyable to attend a function with another person.