The Rip Vanwinkle Effect

[angelsword]

Maybe the reason alot of thirty somethings have not gotten married yet is, not because they can't find the right person, but perhaps they are suffering from what I call the Rip Vanwinkle Effect.

It is like a jumping off place where all you know is when you last left off you were in your teens or twenties, you were swamped with issues, or some other problem of gargantuan magnitude, then one day when you turned around, bang! You were in your thirties.

I know a lady who was in foreign language class with me that said she got married when she was 19, her husband took sick, a family member moved in and when she took time to look around she was 56.

This happened to me, but gradually, I'm getting some of the stuff I missed out on back into my life! I'm finding myself and taking a new lease on life where I refuse to take anything on too much where I can't watch myself grow. God is helping me and it is working.

 

[edenvegan]

I totally agree with this. Especially in the Christian Community people get married young. Many divorce--I know it's negative, but true. And people don't really know what they're getting into because I feel marriage is a secret society that only married can know about. So singles go into it unprepared. That's part of the reason why I'm happily single, but not opposed to marriage.

I work with kids and am constantly taking care of somebody. Why would I wanna jump into marriage and start taking care of someone else? I just want to take care of myself right now--while I still can.

 

[angelsword]

I totally agree with this. Especially in the Christian Community people get married young. Many divorce--I know it's negative, but true. And people don't really know what they're getting into because I feel marriage is a secret society that only married can know about. So singles go into it unprepared. That's part of the reason why I'm happily single, but not opposed to marriage.

I work with kids and am constantly taking care of somebody. Why would I wanna jump into marriage and start taking care of someone else? I just want to take care of myself right now--while I still can.

I think alot of the pressure to get married young comes from Chrisitan society to steer young people from making bad decisons concerning sex. The mind set is so wrong! Parents are responsible for their children's spiritual, intellectual and social growth. There is so much to explore.

Why push the sex issue when their are so many other opportunities out there? I am having so much fun discovering new things! I have more opportunities now than when I was in my 20's and I am taking them!