The problem of being too gifted

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I dun noe weather to put this question here or at the 'friendship' corner, but after some thinking, i decided to put this question here...it is a long problem of mine, and if you can understand my bad english, go ahead!

I have the musical gift of the 'perfect pitch' (i can hear what notes are being played just by hearing it once), although it is not a very common gift, it is not a very rare gift too! The problem is one friend of mine made use of this talent of mine for his own use...
He will always ask me to teach him how to play a particular 'romantic and popular' song (for example, F4, if you noe who they are) on a Chinese musical instrument...he plays the song and show off to the girls after i teach him how to play that song, leaving me with no credic(whatever the spelling). We enter a competion together but ends up in different team, and he use the songs i teach him to enter that competion without even saying thank you...what he just say is that i MUST teach him that song by that day...
I feel that i have no more true friends left in this world, everyone either make use of me or are too busy to bother about me...i dun flirt like other people and my face is not as thick as other people to talk to strangers. thus, i have very limited amount of friends, with everyone ignoring me, i have zero close friends left...
Another problem of my gift is that i think one more friend of mine is jealous and one to discredic me or compete with me...he force himself to learn/attain the gift of the 'perfect pitch'...

I may seems selfish trying not to share my gift, bu how would you feel if some other people make use of you to flirt and become popular, while you are being forgotten by them. How would you feel if your friend calls you for nothing except to WANT you to teach him a particular stupid song? How would you feel if you found out that you are the factor your friend becomes better than you?
Just becausee i dun flirt, girls dun give me any attention, but that is not important, the problem is i find myself very difficult to get a true friend. who can really understand me, not jealous at me for whatever reason, who can really listen to me and let me listen to him/her. Just because i dun really talk to people i m not familiar with, i get very little friends. Other people is always the one who starts a conversation, not me...i wish to know how to start a conversation, but i find myself really having nothing to say...what am i suppose to say? 'have you eatten', 'how is your day today'??

Oh man...i can't really understand what i m writing...but if you noe what i m talking (or writing) about, give me some advice on how to deal with this 'trash friends' and how to gain a really true friend...

 

[Rafael]

People use each other all the time without loving and giving any thought to their own selfishness, and it is very tragic and painful to people like yourself. I have experienced this too, and am a musician. They can be very competitive people and will go to every degree of treachery to be better and have more attention than their fellow man.
I guess I can only advise you to find a Church where Christians are supposed to be friendly and care about others more than just themselves. This is reflected in the Bible with a verse in the letter to the Church of Phillipian believers:

Philippians 2:3 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.

You might find a whole new world of friends, brothers and sisters in the body of Jesus - His Church, and they would be responsible as loving friends to care for you. Perhaps your gift would even be put to good use glorifying the Maker of all things, and choruses of praise and thanksgiving could be nurtured with it.
Sometimes the best way to have a friend is to be one, but hanging with selfish crowds of unbelievers or ungodly people can end up with loneliness and feelings of being used. After they get what they want from you, they are finished and leave. I hope you can find some true friends that are godly people of substance and truth. A true friend we have in Jesus, for He gave His life for us an still waits for us to pay attention to Him.

 

[sawdust]

It is a terrible thing when people use us for our talents without any thought to us as people. Whenever things as you describe happen in my life, I always sit down with Jesus and tell Him all about it. He always listens patiently and even if the situation doesn't change, just knowing that He is with me and cares about me makes a big difference to my life. He is always my best friend, no matter what. I know that you don't follow Jesus but if you want to sit down and tell Him how you feel, I know He won't mind. In fact He would be very glad to listen to you. You can talk to Him just like you told us on this forum. You don't need fancy words or anything just be honest. He even understands our groans and sighs.
So if you want to speak to Him just go ahead. You can ask for His help on anything.
take care

 

[MinDach]

I agree with both post, true friends are hard to find, but the ones you are talking about are not your friends. God gave you your talent, keep it and use it for God.