My boyfriend thinks my past is bad when it comes to sexual partners. Although I am not happy with some of my choices, I know who I am and who I was at that time. He thinks who we are in the past carries over into who we are today. It's frustrating to me because I have never been a [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] but I will admit I made some bad choices a time or two. I know my heart though and I know my intentions and motives and they were always in the right place. Side note: he has made bad choices too, how can someone justify their bad behavior but judge and criticize someone else for it?
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If he has a problem with it; to the point that he is always bringing it up and making you feel guilty or "bad" when you have repented and changed; then you don't need to be with him. If he can't accept you/ forgive you for who you are (past included) then it will always cause problems in your relationship. He can either forgive and move on and be at peace about it or it will always be there for him to bring up and cause problems with. And that is not right or healthy for a relationship.
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vanillakay
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It makes me sad to think you didn't save yourself for your future husband 
just don't understand why so many women and girls can't....wait. But oh well. Anyways... he too is imperfect and he has no room to judge you. If he cannot get past it mybe hes not one for you.
just don't understand why so many women and girls can't....wait. But oh well. Anyways... he too is imperfect and he has no room to judge you. If he cannot get past it mybe hes not one for you.
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It's sad to me how some people will judge others. Even though I've made the choice to wait until marriage, I would marry someone who didn't wait.
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Comments in this thread about the OP's past are no better than her boyfriend's hang ups, my friends.
OP, I believe you posted this in another area as well, amiright? If so, my response is the same!
OP, I believe you posted this in another area as well, amiright? If so, my response is the same!
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I once struggled to get over a girls past. Long story, but it ended up getting to be more than I could handle, so the relationship had to stop. Much emotion was involved, so I wasn't ready to hear the answer that I got. I made a huge mistake and am very sorry for what happened, and I hope she truly forgives me. It was all a great learning experience to prepare me for my future wife.
If he is upset, and you don't see any change in him over time, what I have to say from my experience is you need to let him go for a while. He needs to figure it out on his own just like I did, because if he still brings it up chances are good he is not over it. Such things should not exist in a relationship between two people.
Just my opinion
If he is upset, and you don't see any change in him over time, what I have to say from my experience is you need to let him go for a while. He needs to figure it out on his own just like I did, because if he still brings it up chances are good he is not over it. Such things should not exist in a relationship between two people.
Just my opinion
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thank youI once struggled to get over a girls past. Long story, but it ended up getting to be more than I could handle, so the relationship had to stop. Much emotion was involved, so I wasn't ready to hear the answer that I got. I made a huge mistake and am very sorry for what happened, and I hope she truly forgives me. It was all a great learning experience to prepare me for my future wife.
If he is upset, and you don't see any change in him over time, what I have to say from my experience is you need to let him go for a while. He needs to figure it out on his own just like I did, because if he still brings it up chances are good he is not over it. Such things should not exist in a relationship between two people.
Just my opinion
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i'm sorry this guy refuses to let the past be the past. the bible says that if any person be in Christ, they are no creations. old things have passed away, all things have become new. my encouragement to you is to keep pressing into the Lord and grow in grace. i believe God has someone out there for you who is willing to see things the way He sees them. best wishes!
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