"The one": operational definition

[invisiblebabe]

I was reading and posting on the other threads of this accord, and I am not sure that we all have the same definition of "the one" or what we perceive "the one" to mean.

I will clarify what I believe "the one" to mean, a la contemporary Christian culture.

"the one" is:

*the person, and the only person, that God wants you to marry, ever.
*someone God brings to you. You don't have to go anywhere or do anything, or even say hi to the person, for that matter.
*someone you can know the identity of, before they even enter a relationship with you (ie "God told me (s)he was "the one")
*something only Christians can have God provide for them (ie if two nonChristians marry, they obviously weren't meant to be, 'cause God didn't tell them so)
*someone that you're going to end up with, no matter what you do (ie if God wants me to marry my pesky next door neighbor, I will end up with him, no matter what I say about it)


Maybe now it will be easier to understand why I don't believe in this concept, as defined above.

Blessings,
Kayli
21/F/INTJ

 

[f U z ! o N]

i tend to agree. most christians say nope, there's only one. well you know what, i better just sit here in the house and wait for her because im obviously wasting my time. LOL thats how i see it. another thing i realized was that someone told me that God uses people to get us to the next level. ok, thats cool and all but if there not the one then why let me fall in love? see my point.

 

[Singin4Him]

See I think you are getting to hung up on the words "the one". Can it not be just like EVERYTHING ELSE in your life? We have agreed that yes God has a plan for our lives just as Jeremiah 29:11 says, if this is true than it is true in every aspect. HOWEVER, this does not mean that we have no choice in the matter, it doesn't mean if we sit around and do nothing God will drop that person in our lap.

Think about it this way; when we are walking with God and have a strong relationship with him we are walking in his will, but if we get off that path and do not keep God first in our lives then we may make choices that could harm us and get off the path the Lord would like us to walk down.

We have to remember though that God knows all and he is so much bigger than we could ever imagine. This is something IMPOSSIBLE to wrap our human brains around though so why are threads being created on the same subject just to try and figure it out? We are putting him in a box if we say the God would created the whole universe could not bring two people together in life.

Do not get so hung up on words, I would like to see someone using scripture to back up your theory that even though Jeremiah 29:11 is true and God created marriage he doesn't care who we marry as long as their Christian.

 

[f U z ! o N]

sure he may bring someone together but we DON'T have to marry that person even if they are the one. and we are making threads because we want to discuss this. a friendly discussion. why can't we question God? why can't we try to learn peoples opinons. Im not putting God in a box, im asking questions. and basically it comes down to it like this? do we have free will or not?

 

[KristianJ]

[BIBLE]Jeremiah 29:11[/BIBLE]

Just so I know what it says without having to get up and grab a Bible...

 

[invisiblebabe]

See I think you are getting to hung up on the words "the one".

The thread was about "the one." It was not about God's plan for our lives or predestination or free will. It was asking one question, pure and simple, and that question was "Do you believe in the notion of 'the one,' and why or why not?" Because of the nature of the responses, I got to thinking that people had different definitions of "the one." Hence, the use for this thread.

Can it not be just like EVERYTHING ELSE in your life? We have agreed that yes God has a plan for our lives just as Jeremiah 29:11 says, if this is true than it is true in every aspect. HOWEVER, this does not mean that we have no choice in the matter, it doesn't mean if we sit around and do nothing God will drop that person in our lap.

You are reiterating what I myself said in other posts. I don't see how you got the idea that I disagree with you on this point.

Think about it this way; when we are walking with God and have a strong relationship with him we are walking in his will, but if we get off that path and do not keep God first in our lives then we may make choices that could harm us and get off the path the Lord would like us to walk down.

Yes, that's obvious.

We have to remember though that God knows all and he is so much bigger than we could ever imagine. This is something IMPOSSIBLE to wrap our human brains around though so why are threads being created on the same subject just to try and figure it out? We are putting him in a box if we say the God would created the whole universe could not bring two people together in life.

Do not get so hung up on words, I would like to see someone using scripture to back up your theory that even though Jeremiah 29:11 is true and God created marriage he doesn't care who we marry as long as their Christian.

I never said God didn't care who we married, either. Where did I post that?

I just said there was not one and only one person, and He always tells us who this one person is through visions, dreams, signs, or whatever else.


To all posters:
Please keep this a thread for definitions only. Thank you. ^^

 

[Spurling]

What is free will? Is it the freedom to choose whatever we want, or is it the freedom to choose what God wants? Galatians 5:1 says, "It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery." Looking at it from that perspective, I don't see how one could deny "the one." God is in control, as He always has been.

I am also of the belief that God steers us regardless of whether we are obedient to Him. Proverbs 16:9 says, "In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps."

In these sorts of discussions it is too easy to say what we "think," forgetting to refer to the Bible. What does the Bible say? The Bible says very little about free will, and lots about God's sovereignty. God is in control. God's purposes will stand. Etc.

Even then, it's only the tip of the iceberg. Anyone who thinks they have God figured out has a big surprise waiting for them on resurrection day. No, I don't pretend to be an expert on God, but I am familiar with the Bible. Next to the Holy Spirit, the Bible is our guide.

Mike

 

[f U z ! o N]

wow blue impusle what a post. WOW i gave you reps for this post. basically she is right, if we have no free will then we are robots serving God. if God wanted too he can control us and therefore no sin. but he doesn't. sorry guys but we do have choices! if we didn't have choices we would'nt answer to God on Judgement Day. we'd all be perfect. just as God gives us choices i think God lets us choose who to be with.

 

[invisiblebabe]

I think The One is the one you marry, but this isn't the only person you *could* have married though, it is simply the one you married. But, I believe once you marry then you are never to be married to anyone else (if you divorce you cannot marry again with the exception of divorce for adultery reasons) so you should choose carefully who you marry.

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I believe this definition is accurate and Biblically supported.

Unfortunately though, it isn't generally the definition of "the one" that gets embedded in starry eyed teens' heads.