' The One ' Is it biblical ?

[lynxfx]

Hi guys,

Just wondering if anyone can help me out with something. Is the idea of finding that ultimate one partner biblical ? Will you meet that one person and know from the first moment God has chosen them for you ? Are there any answears in the bible to this ? Obviously everyone will have different experiences when meeting their spouses but what can I rely on biblically ?

Many thanks

 

[Briseis]

You can pray that God knows what is best, that is what you can rely on biblically. That if there is someone out there for you that you will find them. I personally dont believe that there is only one person. There are all kinds of ppl and there are probably more than one who you could go with, and also that love is a choice, and you can decide who it will be. But God can help you find someone good.

 

[JacobHall86]

There is no scriptural evidence to support it.

 

[Shyguyelite]

Only One is a lie straight from the pitt of Hell.

Or so i've heard.

In any case I believe it. Out of 300,000,000, by mere chance you ought to at least be able to click with someone.

Let God steer you, and you don't have to wade through a big mess! Horray!

However we choose in the end.

 

[underthesouthercross]

yeh man in the bible it states that god has a plan for you and your partner before you were born, l can't remember exactly where but l remember someone tell me and l looked it up...

 

[UBERROGO]

Have your parents arrange it or go work for your uncle for 14 years. Thats about the most Biblical I can get with this topic.

 

[bella_song]

I do think that it has Biblical basis. God is bigger than our circumstances and He has a plan for each one of our lives. That being said, there is a difference between perfect will and permissive will. Perfect will is where God gives you a distinct instruction, or calling if you will. Permissive will, is where there are a range of good options and it is pretty open ended.

I don't think there is only one person for each person because what would that say about someone who's husband dies and they remarry. Who was the "one." Did the first die because he wasn't actually the"one?" NO! God is so much bigger than our circumstances. I do believe that God will lead you to a certain person if you let Him. I have felt very called to go this route and to wait on God for instruction. I know some people who God has pretty much directly told them who their husband or wife will be. I also know people who began dating somebody, not because they felt called to, but because they felt it was in God's permissive will and it looked good to do. God works in both ways.

Biblical examples:
God giving "the one"

1) Isaac and Rebekah. The servant is sent to find a wife for Isaac and prays that God will send a certain sign to show that it is the right girl God has chosen.

2) Esther - She was chosen by God as the girl who would marry the king so that the Hebrews could be saved

3) Adam and Eve - It was so obvious, I just had to throw that in there... never mind that they were the only two people on earth...

People choosing by God's permissive will:

1) Seth and his wife - we don't know much about the situation except that we are told that he took a wife and had babies that had babies that had babies all the way down to Noah. Although a point to notice is that in the first part of Genesis chapter 5, it talks about God being displeased with the choice of wives chosen by his people, therefore our choice of a spouse should always come under the consultation of God.

2) Jacob and Rachel - Jacob saw her, fell in love, and worked for her (and her sister AKWARD!)

3) Moses and his wife - He went to live with her family and took her as a wife when he fled from Egypt after killing the Egyptian.

Although we are never told one way or another (although proverbs gives some good advice on choosing a wife in permissive will) we are shown examples of those through whom God worked and called righteous.

 

[Sleaker]

There is no scriptural evidence to support it.

[bible]Jeremiah 29:11[/bible]


While God has a plan for our life I wholeheartedly believe that means 'the one' as you state. As far as no scriptural evidence, I think you can go either way with it. And I definetely believe that while it's your choice who you marry, there is definetely a good choice, a bad choice, and probably even a best choice. I think it primarily has to do with submitting to God's will and not your own.

Bella_song, I love the references you give, they are great!

 

[A2597]

based on my recent relizations on this...

God basically tells us to not be unequally yoked, so that means marry a fellow beliver.

After that, I think he leaves it up to us.

 

[Shyguyelite]

Have your parents arrange it or go work for your uncle for 14 years. Thats about the most Biblical I can get with this topic.

HAHAHHA!!!!

 

[JacobHall86]

[bible]Jeremiah 29:11[/bible]


While God has a plan for our life I wholeheartedly believe that means 'the one' as you state. As far as no scriptural evidence, I think you can go either way with it. And I definetely believe that while it's your choice who you marry, there is definetely a good choice, a bad choice, and probably even a best choice. I think it primarily has to do with submitting to God's will and not your own.

Bella_song, I love the references you give, they are great!

Are you the Prophet Jeremiah? Because if you are not that verse does not apply to you. So there is still no scriptural evidence for it.

 

[Sleaker]

Are you the Prophet Jeremiah? Because if you are not that verse does not apply to you. So there is still no scriptural evidence for it.

Ahh so because God only states that to Jeremiah then it is only for Jeremiah, you don't believe that scripture can also be prophetic to the person reading it?

How about:
Predestination? - Sounds like a plan
[bible]Romans 8:28-31[/bible]

[bible]Psalm 139:14-17[/bible]

[bible]Ephesians 2:8-10[/bible]

[bible]Acts 26:14-16[/bible]

[bible]Ephesians 1:7-11[/bible]

The implication throughout all of scripture is that we are God's workmanship created with a plan that we should walk in it to the glory of God, this is shown throughout old and new testament and in the lives of the God's people seen through and through. I am forced to conclude that every choice I make is either in conjuction with God's eternal plan for my life, or it is in rebellion. Even if he knows what I am going to do already, he still fashioned a plan for me that was 100% good. Through this I am forced to conclude that marraige is most definetely included in this, and not just to anyone, but to a specific individual for specific reasons (or not at all for people who God calls to be celebate).

 

[JulySheMustFly]

I'd say there is probably more than one person that would work. What about people who marry and their spouse passes? Plenty of them remarry inline with God's will. That would make 2 "Ones" for that person. hmmm. . . .

 

[Sleaker]

Not necessarily, there is also timing involved. One may be right at a certain time period in your life eh? God knows what relationships you need, the final goal is to draw closer to God. It's a fact that we can't have more than a few really close friends. So why is it that we choose to be close to the ones we are close to? Does God have anything to do with it? Is it because we express mutual desire to draw closer to God. Is that much different than a spouse? I know I don't have the same friends I used to have because of timing, the Lord had me move on. I know marrying is a lifelong thing, but I'm still a bit skeptical at how it is different from any other relationship God would lead to me, as far as God being involved in it.

 

[Tuffguy]

If there was just one....we'd never find him or her. Its all in the math.

 

[Sleaker]

mmm I'm not sure about that. Never is a long time, and you've got God on your side, He created math and probability :o

 

[lynxfx]

This is such a confusing subject for me as I have just broken up with my girlfriend of 8 1/2 months and the major clash we have at the moment is the whole subject of 'the one. She says she loves me but does not feel I am the one. her main reasons for believing this is becuase of the experience of her mother... She went out with 7 guys, all wanting to marry her then found her current husband and knew almost instantly that this was the man for her. I believe God has spoken to me about my relationship that I must be patient with her and we will go on to have the right relationship but it is hard when I can't really see her changing her view on this anytime soon.'

 

[Lead]

Hi guys,

Just wondering if anyone can help me out with something. Is the idea of finding that ultimate one partner biblical ? Will you meet that one person and know from the first moment God has chosen them for you ? Are there any answears in the bible to this ? Obviously everyone will have different experiences when meeting their spouses but what can I rely on biblically ?

Many thanks

Adam and Eve. God brought Eve to Adam.

Perhaps Abraham and Sarah.

Isaac and Rebecca God had her picked out of a croud.

Jacob and Rachel. Maybe

That profit in the old testament that married Gomer I think. God told him to marry her.

Joseph and Mary. God told Joseph to marry Mary.

 

[Tuffguy]

mmm I'm not sure about that. Never is a long time, and you've got God on your side, He created math and probability :o

Exactly my point. He's backing my arguement.

 

[Lead]

One more thing I want to add is that I do not think that you will necessarily know from the first moment. God communicates his will to us through a number of different ways. One that is especially important in the selection of a partner is what your parents think, or your authority.

I know this may not be a popular idea. But, I have a prof who is a family law lawyer. He says that almost all of his clients who come to him for a divorce had one or both of their parents object. Or they had a bad feeling about it.

However, I think that God does sometimes cause alarm bells to go off and tell you that a particular person is "the one."