The Older You Get

[rushingwind62]

Well in the past week I lost my last great aunt, my wife lost her last uncle, and I have another uncle dying. Seems like the older you get the more death you see. I have come to realize death is a part of life, no matter how much we wish we didn't have to deal with it. God's word says it is appointed to man to die once. I have lost all my grandparents, my dad, uncles, aunts, and cousins. Not to mention a few friends. And I am only 44. It may seem cold, but I hardly grieve anymore. It is like what is the use. Instead I try to cherish all the memories and the time spent with those I love. I try to live life to the fullest everyday, because one day death will come for me. Can't change it, have to accept it, no choice in the matter. And it is the same with those I have lost. Do I still cry, do I still miss them?? Yes, but death no longer has a sting, it is merely the completion of life.

I don't know if this will help anyone or not, or if anyone will even understand what I feel. I am not even sure what I feel, just ranting a little and put my thoughts on paper. For those of you that can still grieve and are in the grieving process, my prayers are with you. And I pray you work through that grieving process and do not become stuck in it. I know what that is like and maybe that is why I am like I am.

I lost my dad three years last March. He had been ill for many years and we knew he was dying a slow death. Watching him die a little everyday was so grievous. I can't describe to you how painful it is to watch helplessly as someone slowly ebbs away. But I can tell you, that helpless feeling will break you. Because it is a roller coaster ride of non stop emotions. I got stuck in that grieving process for over three years. The wierd thing is my grieving process came before my dad ever passed away. When he did die, it brought closure to my grieving.

I know death and losing a loved one is hard to deal with. Esspecially when you are young. But the older you get, the more death you are going to see.

 

[Ruth~]

I'm sorry you had so many losses. I can relate to the grieving being so bad when you watch someone die bit by bit. My mother died of cancer going on 3 years ago and I watched helplessly, too. It was horrible. I understand where you are coming from now. God bless you.

 

[Debi1967]

The losses we go through seem to prepare us I think for the inevitable in life, so that we may come to terms with it.

My dearest husband I know that this time has been gruelling for you. I also know that the loss of your own uncle yesterday, especially on your birthday, brought home that feeling of inevitability all the more. The feeling of not only seeing someone lose their lives but our own mortality as well.

Try to remember that although the body may die we do not, it is merely the flesh that does. My Uncle and yours as well as our fathers and all the previous family members that have gone before us are resting eternal with the Lord. Remember also how Aunt Marie said that the time that Uncle Michael needed and had was so that he would be able to be closer to the Lord again and realize just what I have said to you. Uncle Michael did realize this in the end and although he fought with all his might and his last breath, he was also assured that the Lord would take care of him openly and lovingly in his arms.

God's Mercy is great. Remember the assurances given to us as well. I know for me that, up there in heaven sits my grandfather, and my father, and my two uncles; all of them kicking up a fuss in heaven and being as ornery as can be. I also believe that they have met my father-in-law and my uncle-in-law up there too and that they are getting along famously because, well they too are ornery old coots

So please have no fears, rely on the Lord and remember that through everything you have me your devoted wife.

Lovingly
Debi

 

[rushingwind62]

The losses we go through seem to prepare us I think for the inevitable in life, so that we may come to terms with it.

My dearest husband I know that this time has been gruelling for you. I also know that the loss of your own uncle yesterday, especially on your birthday, brought home that feeling of inevitability all the more. The feeling of not only seeing someone lose their lives but our own mortality as well.

Try to remember that although the body may die we do not, it is merely the flesh that does. My Uncle and yours as well as our fathers and all the previous family members that have gone before us are resting eternal with the Lord. Remember also how Aunt Marie said that the time that Uncle Michael needed and had was so that he would be able to be closer to the Lord again and realize just what I have said to you. Uncle Michael did realize this in the end and although he fought with all his might and his last breath, he was also assured that the Lord would take care of him openly and lovingly in his arms.

God's Mercy is great. Remember the assurances given to us as well. I know for me that, up there in heaven sits my grandfather, and my father, and my two uncles; all of them kicking up a fuss in heaven and being as ornery as can be. I also believe that they have met my father-in-law and my uncle-in-law up there too and that they are getting along famously because, well they too are ornery old coots

So please have no fears, rely on the Lord and remember that through everything you have me your devoted wife.

Lovingly
Debi

Thank You my lovely wife.