The Loss Of A Child

[JMG]

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There are no words that can possibly help you to understand the pain that is within the sorrow of losing a child.


They say it’s a parent’s worst nightmare. I wish it was a nightmare, then I could wake up and the pain and sorrow would be gone. But this sorrow will never leave me, not in this lifetime. This I know, only when I close my eyes for the last time and wake up in the presence of God, will this sorrow turn to joy. As we walk in the garden, off in the distance, I’ll hear a voice, “my daddy is here“.


I go on with life because I have learned to adapt to the things I cannot change, and through the love of Jesus Christ who gives me my daily strength. It’s like losing an arm or a leg, you learn to adapt and go on with life, but a part of you will always be missing.

Only the love of God can fill this void that is so deep within my heart. Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior for He has given me power to overcome my weaknesses through His love.

 

[NoelAsa]

I am so sorry for your loss. I have never lost a child, but did lose my husband almost four years ago. Please seek out some form of counseling. It helped me greatly. I used Hospice and I know that you do not need to have been with Hospice to use their services. In my town I know that they have a separate grief counseling for those that have lost children. The service is free so please call to see what is available in your area. If you are not comfortable with Hospice many churchs now have some type of grief counseling available. You do not necessarily have to belong to the church to participate. You can check around your area to see what is available. I highly recommend counseling. It was wonderful to have other people around me that had gone through the same experience. The comfort and help I received was a God send. Praying for you!

 

[Just4Jesus]

We found out last thursday that we lost our baby at 8 weeks. I know your pain

 

[mandelduke]

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[FONT='Verdana','sans-serif']No pain compares to losing a child, I’m sorry for your loss![/FONT][FONT='Verdana','sans-serif'][/FONT]

 

[St. Paul]

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There are no words that can possibly help you to understand the pain that is within the sorrow of losing a child.


They say it’s a parent’s worst nightmare. I wish it was a nightmare, then I could wake up and the pain and sorrow would be gone. But this sorrow will never leave me, not in this lifetime. This I know, only when I close my eyes for the last time and wake up in the presence of God, will this sorrow turn to joy. As we walk in the garden, off in the distance, I’ll hear a voice, “my daddy is here“.


I go on with life because I have learned to adapt to the things I cannot change, and through the love of Jesus Christ who gives me my daily strength. It’s like losing an arm or a leg, you learn to adapt and go on with life, but a part of you will always be missing.

Only the love of God can fill this void that is so deep within my heart. Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior for He has given me power to overcome my weaknesses through His love.

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. God will take care of you. Keep praying. There is some plan for you!!

 

[razzelflabben]

WE have been doing reasonably well, lost our son a bit over a year ago and I fear we are still living in the remnants of shock as well as grief. The thing is, we followed scripture, took our thoughts captive put them on the things of God, learned to see our son and his joy with being in the presence of God rather than to just live deep in our grief.

But, there have been three people in our lives that try to use our sons death as a weapon. one, a family member, makes comments, in an attempt to control us, out of jealousy, etc. even made a comment about being jealous of us for loosing a child...which made me sick to my stomach...

One is a young man that seeks attention and went so far as to claim that a demon came to kill him because he is so special to God, but that demon made a mistake and killed our son instead...and enough details for that one as well.

A third went so far as to blame my husband and pastor of bringing judgment on us, a judgment that took our son because we believe in the trinity...and enough details there.

Here's the problem, I am so tired of people just trying to hurt us more, the loss of our son is more pain that it seems like a person can endure, only to be hurt time and time again by people like this. So finding God's healing has been vital to survival and for the most part, we cope, but as of late, two things happened. The family member made a hurtful comment on my birthday, which set me off on a battle over taking my thoughts captive again. And two, a friend is starting a grief support group, so we have been going in support of her. But going brings up that day all over again, and the memories of looking for our son rather than the good and fun times we had with him.

This latest battle over our thoughts has been a doozy and I guess I just needed to say, I'm tired of it all, I feel like my heart has been ripped from me and crushed and every day is a struggle to get up, but with 3 kids still at home, there is no time to cry, no time to collapse into our grief. I just want to get back to dealing with life and find a way to make everyone just leave it what it is...does that sound tooooo crazy?

 

[BlEsSeD aBbY]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

 

[sarahelizabeth]

i am so sorry
i lost a sister 5 years aog!! i know how it is to have my mom and how she is when she lost her 8 year old daughter
you will be in my prayers

 

[razzelflabben]

wrong thread, sorry

 

[3rdHeaven]

I lost my son at age 14 over 20 years ago. Drowning accident. I can tell you it is not some thing you totally get over. It took me years before I could even look to God or even say my son's name. Years more before I could speak about it. Years more before I returned to God.

What can I say that you have not heard all ready?

Nothing is worse! I would have preferred God take me a wretched man instead of my son who was such a good boy!

Yet many years later God blessed me with twins. And I love them so dearly. I remember asking God why he didn't take me instead, but if he did, I wouldn't have had our twins.

It's really a crazy mixed up world we live in. I pray you keep your sanity thru this.

 

[2880Purple]

I lost my 28 yr old son on Aug 31, 2011, motorcycle accident, declared brain dead on Sept 1, 2011.
You are correct about the pain and the loss. And you are also correct about how Jesus helps us to go through this. Without Him, I doubt I would be able to get out of bed and function and go to work everyday. It is hard on us (my husband/his father, his younger brother (26 yrs old), he was our best friend.
We miss him tremendously, we take one day a time, some days are better than others, but Jesus always gives us the strength to go on. And we know we will all be together again, in heaven.
A parent should not have to go through the loss of a child, but we do, and all I know is that all we can do is trust God and He will get us through.
God bless and prayers to you and your family.

 

[erikajc]

I wrote this song after losing my little sister a year ago. We do not grieve alone. I hope it brings you comfort.
Man of sorrows, weep with me
Both acquainted now with grief
Your tears mingle with my own
For every anguish you have known
Every anguish you have known

Father God You suffered loss
Your beloved Son You watched
Lift His eyes in agony
Now, Father won’t you weep with me
Father won’t you weep with me

My cries do not go unanswered
My tears do not go uncounted
My pain You have felt the same
You have felt the same
You have felt the same

Comforter please send Your peace
Stop the bleeding, start to heal
For only One who’s been cut as deep
Could begin to weep with me
Could begin to weep with me

 

[Samson0423]

I feel your pain brother, We to lost a daughter, Although every situation is diff, I can relant to your pain. Everyone keeps telling me "You have to find a new normal"

I look them in the face and say " TRY IT FOR YOURSELF"

I myself am looking forward to seeing my Sophia again, I miss her so much, She was my little angel, Our Child of light.

May God Bless you.

D

 

[Alton]

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There are no words that can possibly help you to understand the pain that is within the sorrow of losing a child.


They say it’s a parent’s worst nightmare. I wish it was a nightmare, then I could wake up and the pain and sorrow would be gone. But this sorrow will never leave me, not in this lifetime. This I know, only when I close my eyes for the last time and wake up in the presence of God, will this sorrow turn to joy. As we walk in the garden, off in the distance, I’ll hear a voice, “my daddy is here“.


I go on with life because I have learned to adapt to the things I cannot change, and through the love of Jesus Christ who gives me my daily strength. It’s like losing an arm or a leg, you learn to adapt and go on with life, but a part of you will always be missing.

Only the love of God can fill this void that is so deep within my heart. Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior for He has given me power to overcome my weaknesses through His love.

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[blessedbythreechildren]

I don't believe that anyone can know exactly what you are going through, even if they have had to say "see you in a little while" to their child. My precious, beautiful, 2 year old daughter went to heaven almost a year ago. I know the unimaginable pain and suffering that I feel. We all have different hopes and dreams, things that make life so hard without our child, and so many things we wanted to share with them. All I can say is I have to take each day just getting through each second the best way that I can...and that is knowing that through My Lord Jesus Christ, it is not forever. I will be with her again and I long for that day with every ounce of my being. I don't know your situation, but my heart goes out to you. It is something that is so horrific it doesn't seem like it could be real. As for me, my heart will never be healed this side of heaven. I will never have the joy I once had when I held her. And, I will never be able to accept it because my heart and mind won't allow me. But, we have to hold onto Jesus, and know that our suffering will one day turn to joy and nothing will ever take it away again. God bless you!