The List

[Rigatoni]

Not really a list of requirements, but this is what I'm currently looking for:

• Sealed with the Holy Spirit, has an active relationship with God, and seeks to do His will above all and to be the best spouse she can be (according to God's word).
• Someone really unique and interesting, with a very energetic / playful personality and good sense of humor (I'm introverted by default, so I think that would help balance out my personality - I'm basically looking for my opposite, lol).
• Is also very creative and artistic, and who enjoys being out in nature.
  
• Humble, caring, compassionate and family-oriented.
• Intelligent, supportive, honest and trustworthy.
  
• Shares common interests, and there's mutual attraction / a deep connection.
• Is open to becoming close friends initially, before pursuing something more serious.
  
• Cute.
• Very romantic and aggressive in terms of showing affection / passionate.
• If she's also into casual gaming that would also be a plus; it would be awesome to enjoy games together sometimes, especially ones that I've developed.
• Is waiting for the right person, and is reserving her heart for him and him only (Song of Solomon 4:12).
• Will love me unconditionally (as will I her), and who will accept me for who I am, not what I am.

I have an open mind though in terms of who I'm seeking, and am letting the Lord guide me / lead me to the person He has in mind.

 

[ReesePiece23]

As I sat here pondering as many idiotic, tedious and primary-school level answers as I could, I was suddenly struck with a legitimate list of my own.

Authenticity - on both sides. Embrace each others bad moods, shortcomings and odd mannerisms. Never any judgement, just unconditional acceptance.

Lone travelling. I just think that it's in everyone's best interests to remain somewhat independent. Not distant, but not joined at the hip either.

I'd agree, and I'd shoot for around a 55 to 60% like for like ratio. I enjoy a nice rivalry with certain things (whisky v gin for instance, or why beer is superior to wine.)

Inside jokes are a necessity. Shared humour is like a unique language, and one that only ever draw you closer, particularly in times of crisis.

Lawful marriage is about as valuable as the paper its printed on. Spiritual marriage is what I'd be looking to develop.

 

[Sketcher]

Do you want a woman who is submissive to people in general?

Maybe. Ephesians 5/Philippians 2 submissive is what I'm looking for. What I'm wanting that to look like practically speaking is that she trusts me and honors our agreements and doesn't go looking for fights or have a desire to dominate.

 

[blackribbon]

Maybe. Ephesians 5/Philippians 2 submissive is what I'm looking for. What I'm wanting that to look like practically speaking is that she trusts me and honors our agreements and doesn't go looking for fights or have a desire to dominate.

If she is submissive to everyone then their is no honor in her submitting to you. It is just her personality and not trust. And if she submits to people who do not agree, nobody will be happy. ( example: her momma wants her to do something that is the opposite of what you want....she can't submit to both)

 

[Sketcher]

If she is submissive to everyone then their is no honor in her submitting to you. It is just her personality and not trust. And if she submits to people who do not agree, nobody will be happy. ( example: her momma wants her to do something that is the opposite of what you want....she can't submit to both)

Well, she doesn't have to submit to everyone else. Just be a good and giving person in general and submit to me.

 

[Travelers.Soul]

I think a list is a good thing and something that should be evaluated (with prayer) on a somewhat regular basis. I do have a list or rather I did and it is in need of being updated so I'll just put some basics on here.

1. Single (not separated, it's complicated, or you are one of many)
2. Loves the Lord and has a solid relationship with him. I don't mean perfect but if he never prays, reads scripture, goes to church or has any fruit then that's an issue.
3. Truthful, trustworthy, and dependable. He keeps his word and doesn't make promises he has no intention of ever keeping.
4. Can control his temper.
5. Willing to communicate or to work on communication.
6. Affectionate

I used to look for things like "agree theologically" but that went out the window when I realized that a lot of the guys that I knew and agreed with theologically were not a good fit personality- wise. I could be friends with them but we didn't mesh well when we dated. They were either in one extreme camp (even innocent pleasures were borderline sinful) or in the other (smoking, drinking, cussing like a sailor when out with friends, roving eye, wanted sex outside of marriage, etc). I still think it would be great if I could find a guy who agreed theologically with me but now I am content with "we agree on the important things".

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

1. Single (not separated, it's complicated, or you are one of many)
2. Loves the Lord and has a solid relationship with him. I don't mean perfect but if he never prays, reads scripture, goes to church or has any fruit then that's an issue.
3. Truthful, trustworthy, and dependable. He keeps his word and doesn't make promises he has no intention of ever keeping.
4. Can control his temper.
5. Willing to communicate or to work on communication.
6. Affectionate

Sounds like me.

 

[AnnaDeborah]

I still think it would be great if I could find a guy who agreed theologically with me but now I am content with "we agree on the important things".

I think that's the key. I have friends who have a 'list' of 100s of 'requirements' and some of them are SO trivial. But I think it is a good idea if you are planning/hoping to marry, to decide before you meet someone what things are so important to you that you won't compromise. Because seriously smitten people are not well known for their ability to think straight, and I know so many who have decided that serious issues 'don't matter' when they are in the mushy romantic stage, only to decide 3 or 4 years into the marriage that actually, those things were important after all.

 

[MehGuy]

Sounds like me.

And me!!!!

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

And me!!!!

Me more!

 

[LadyOfMystery]

I agree I would enjoy them having some of the same interests as me, but not all of them.

Also something important to me is finding someone who is interested in doing things with me, even if it's sometimes something they don't enjoy fully. Not like something that they find miserable or it goes against something they are for but just.. a movie, a tv show, maybe going to a food place they don't usually like. I've never had someone like that before, and I feel like they're out there but I just haven't found that person.

I feel like I give a lot, I do a lot of things they're interested in that I'm particularly not, I go out of my comfort zone for them, or I watch a movie or tv show just to give a shot just to show I care for them and am willing to do something I normally wouldn't do, only they don't do it back.

I think as I've grown older that has become more important to me, is finding someone who finds... well me important. Someone who would go out of their comfort zone for me, or their interest zone if that's a thing.

Also the other things would be personality, character, I want someone who has a good sense of humor, someone who thinks outside the box even.

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

must be a woman(should go without saying, but these days...)
must be a follower of Christ
must have theological agreement on important matters
must want marriage and children
must be physically attractive(yeah I said it, release the hounds)

outside of these, I need to get to know the person.

 

[Travelers.Soul]

Nothing wrong with wanting someone that you find attractive.