The Language of Love

[KeilCoppes]

I was responding to a post and suddenly found myself listing languages, their characteristics, and their effects on a date:

• French: the language of love - your date melts at the romance
• English: the language of puns - you chuckle at nothing at all and your date groans from time to time
• Latin: the language of theology - your date decides you really _should_ be in a monastery
• Greek: the language of philosophy - your date understands exactly what you meant 2000 years ago
• C++: the language of complex software - your date decides that you and your computer were made for each other

Any others? Variants? :^)

 

[Living4Him03]

All I ask is that you put them into use! Rationals: REMEMBER if you are with an Idealist we NEED ROMANCE....yes that icky stuff called romance Thank You.

 

[fishstix]

Something your date understands: You communicate
Something your date doesn't understand: You don't communicate.

Simple

 

[KeilCoppes]

All I ask is that you put them into use! Rationals: REMEMBER if you are with an Idealist we NEED ROMANCE....yes that icky stuff called romance Thank You.

Ah, but what would you say if the previously-believed Rational actually bought the Keirsey book, read it almost from cover to cover this evening and realized that he is an ENTP (to a T) with very strong NF elements? (Romance can warm your heart, particularly when you're talking soul to soul and you can see the joy in someone's eyes and hear it in their voice. I've known that from the time I was a child. Now I just have to get a chance to learn and practice some french... how about english poetry? :^) )


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"If you're a good hearted engineer and can't remember to be spontaneous, build yourself a stochastic model and schedule in all the romantic things you can think of to happen at random times!"

 

[Living4Him03]

Hmmm I'm suspicious! You are still NT, which I believe is still a Rational. Or is that Guardian? if you're NT, you aren't NF..hehe. Anyway, english poetry...check out E.E. Cummings he's American and his stuff is all in English Very romantic, though abstract stuff...I have to warn you that some of it is a bit racy, so skip over those poems and stick to the decent ones...great work. I love your quote btw! That is too funny! Sounds a lot like my boyfriend although he is definitely rational

 

[Living4Him03]

Here's Mine:

Spanish: The language of tacos, your date impresses you with their fluent Spanish by ordering dinner for the two of you..." Un TA-CO y un BURI-TOE POR FAYVOR" ...Or at least in Texas that's how it goes!

 

[KeilCoppes]

Hmmm I'm suspicious! You are still NT, which I believe is still a Rational. Or is that Guardian? if you're NT, you aren't NF..hehe.

It is a Rational type, but one of my great challenges in life is that I straddle the border between NT & NF (remember, few people are 100% in any axis). I am an Inventor type, but not the typical one. I've played piano for ages from the heart, write my _own_ poetry from time to time, arrange my own music (usually during emotional highs or lows), do digital photography as art, have interests in landscape architecture, gourmet cooking, and just about everything else on occasion. I am also one of those who wants a true soulmate in life, have difficulties when those around me aren't happy, and work for peaceful solutions as much as I can, as the others are very challenging and heart-rending. For me, engineering is an echo of the precious and awe-inspiring art that God placed in the creation, but there is a constant wanting to know and understand more, and share that with others.

My Rational NT mission statement for the last ten years in the dating arena...

THE PRINCESS

I had again the dream
That I once dreamed before
A childish thought
Of knights in days of yore,
The noble heart, the maidens true
The young men who
In gardens dark below
Do speak their heart in noble verse
To balconies above.
(Of course there was supposed
To be no one upon the rail
To listen to their love.)
And yet they still pour out their soul
And break their heart
If they should fail
To spark the heart of maiden fair
Who listens sight unseen.
They risk sure punishment to win
The daughter of the King.

-kc 2/28/93​

ps - and where was daVinci? (Not that I'm him) It's tough enough being ENXJ, but dating can be a distinct challenge when the person you're looking for is not only the rarity of a committed Christian, but likely part of less than 5% of the population that tend to think on your wavelength. Truly, she is a rare jewel indeed!

 

[KeilCoppes]

Advertising Spanish: The language of tacos, your date impresses you with her amazing hairless dog's ability to hawk fast food - "Yo quiero Taco Bell"

 

[Living4Him03]

Being mixed types can pose a problem! I got XNXJ on my first attempt at the Keirsey test! Then I had to go to the Temperament sorter and got I for the first letter...then I took an online test and finally got INFJ, which is pretty much me for the most part, although sometimes I do relate to rationals in some ways. A princess is hard to find...so is a prince! The ideal our society has of mates is fascinating to me...not only must we be of "royal" quality but we must look a certain way, dress a certain way, say the right things, etc. I think it's difficult sometimes to be real about someone's potential as a mate...we often go out looking for a prince or princess and we forget that people are humans! There's this idealistic picture of a mate we get set in our minds and when we do find someone with potential, if we are not careful, we will end up dismissing them as a "good guy" or "good girl" without realizing how compatible they really are. I used to think I HAD to marry a tall, muscular, dark haired man with brown or green eyes. I was very set on that. Now that I've dated some, i realize that was pretty idealistic and that I could end up marrying someone blonde you just never know! Anyway I'm just rambling now

 

[KeilCoppes]

I used to think I HAD to marry a tall, muscular, dark haired man with brown or green eyes. I was very set on that. Now that I've dated some, i realize that was pretty idealistic and that I could end up marrying someone blonde you just never know! Anyway I'm just rambling now

Growth is a good thing! I hope the sun is shining on your search! Too bad there are so few X's, N's, and other kinds of alphabet soup!

Good guy for life who really just wanted a best friend of the girl variety who would truly understand (though I only very occasionally have a mischievous twinkle in the eyes!)
-kc

 

[Living4Him03]

 

[KeilCoppes]

Nice smile! So, are you in a church that has women in the ministry?