the importance of Virginity?

Blessedj01 · Apr 22, 2012

Wow, the two of you are pretty amazing. I wish I could say the same thing but I'm ok with it in Christ. I hope you both find someone if that's what God wants for you.

Until then, I just have to say that you may not feel it sometimes, but you are blessed.

DarkMonk · Apr 22, 2012

Blessedj01 said:
Wow, the two of you are pretty amazing. I wish I could say the same thing but I'm ok with it in Christ. I hope you both find someone if that's what God wants for you.

Until then, I just have to say that you may not feel it sometimes, but you are blessed.

I'm not sure you can call it Amazing..., there is nothing Amazing about it, and I don't feel Amazing about it...

I'm just a follower of Christ now and forever, even-though at times has been really really really hard...

I guess the only amazing part is how always GOD is there for me to find refuge when temptation comes around.

Blessedj01 · Apr 22, 2012

Trust me, it's pretty amazing and I'm sure God values it very highly as well.

Larry Mondello · Apr 22, 2012

Originally Posted by agapedragon

I'm 31 and still a virgin. I have trouble meeting guys, I don't have many friends. I would like a nice Christian boyfriend. GOd forgives us for our sexual sins, it is purity of the heart that counts. I had a bondage fetish and I looked at porn online and drew dirty pictures in the past. I have stopped it and asked god's forgiveness, God has freed me from my sins.

DarkMonk said:
It's funny for you to say that you have problems meeting guys...
As I have problems meeting girls....I'm 29 and virgin.

Originally Posted by Blessedj01

Wow, the two of you are pretty amazing. I wish I could say the same thing but I'm ok with it in Christ. I hope you both find someone if that's what God wants for you.

Until then, I just have to say that you may not feel it sometimes, but you are blessed.

DarkMonk said:
I'm not sure you can call it Amazing..., there is nothing Amazing about it, and I don't feel Amazing about it...

I'm just a follower of Christ now and forever, even-though at times has been really really really hard...

I guess the only amazing part is how always GOD is there for me to find refuge when temptation comes around.

Blessedj01 said:
Trust me, it's pretty amazing and I'm sure God values it very highly as well.

Agree with Blesssed.

I do get Monk's view.... Virgins likely don't think they're "special" or better than others. It's just how it is.
TBH, many wouldn't prefer to be virgins.
Not that they want to deliberately "sin" or do wrong.... but would like to be in a relationship, like both the virgin posters here expressed.

Like this poster, an older, late 20s Christian virgin woman. She seems anxious to experience sex.
http://www.christianforums.com/t7618959-3/#post60339663

So I don't put virgins on a pedestal.
But.... like you Blessed... I admire and respect them and in no way like how society often puts them down.....
I certainly read posts how older virgin guys (especially) think women "look down" on them if they haven't had sex by their mid- to late 20s...

RoadWarrior · Apr 22, 2012

agapedragon said:
I'm 31 and still a virgin. I have trouble meeting guys

DarkMonk said:
It's funny for you to say that you have problems meeting guys...
As I have problems meeting girls....I'm 29 and virgin.

Many churches, especially larger ones for obvious reasons, offer opportunities for single members to meet in a safe and Christian environment.

In addition, online dating services are also available (but some are better than others). The largest one is here: Christian Dating for Free | 100% Free Service for Christian Singles

More about it: Scammers Beware: Christian Dating for Free Makes a Date with ThreatMetrix to Help Prevent Online Fraud and Scams | ThreatMetrix

My girlfriend and I met through Plenty of Fish, but her experience with the website was more hit and miss than mine since many guys she met were not interested in a long-term relationship. I was one of the few who were. I suspect a reputable Christian dating website would be more helpful.

Chajara · Apr 22, 2012

I met my husband and a few other partners through OkCupid. It's a pretty awesome dating site to be honest.

Larry Mondello · Apr 23, 2012

RoseOfJesus said:
A lot. Scroll back and see Reminisce make fun of virgins on a Christian forum.

Rose, as I PM'd you about this, you're making too much out of this.
It doesn't look good to have two Christian women going after each other like this.
You're prolonging a fight that needs to end.

Blessedj01 · Apr 23, 2012

True, plus if I was a gambling man I would bet money on this thread being moderated next.

Larry Mondello · Apr 23, 2012

Rose,
I truly support you for being a virgin ( I really wish I had remained one), but I support Reminisce as well. Wouldn't think any less of Reminisce for not being a Christian virgin lady.

Rose, most aren't going to like your "virgins are better than others" attitude. Virgins aren't necessarily "better" than non-virgins, nor vice-versa.

Even "Christian" women (and men) are human and make mistakes and have sex before marriage and also end up with many regrets.
Even "dedicated" Christians fall to the trap of sin, sexual or not.

Plus, many women (and men), like the one I married and some I dated, though they weren't virgins, had only 1-2 partners, like a former fiance she had sex with before getting engaged (in my wife's case).
Or, a woman thought the guy loved her so gave it up to later learn he was a jerk.

I view a virgin woman/man in his/her late 20s as a "bonus" and a good thing.

This post might shape things a little better for a virgin like you:
http://www.christianforums.com/t7613155-3/#post59383253

Originally Posted by gospotgo

[ condensed ]
I would also offer this, if I may: I think you must be pretty young. You are clearly devoted to your faith and this is awesome.

You have every right to your wish-list concerning a potential mate, but I personally wonder if God isn't giving you time to assimilate a few truths.

Like, Godly women aren't always wrapped up in a neat, tidy package. Actually, no one is, but there are awesome women of faith who just might drink a beer sometimes.
Prepare to wince, but some of them might smoke, cuss, or, ohmygosh, have kids outside of marriage. These things do not make them less Godly.
It means that their sanctification is still rocking, just like everyone else. God deals with our messes individually and at His pace.

I've learned that where you see compassion, forgiveness, kindness, approachability, and an overall lack of judging other people, you've got yourself a Godly person.

It's great if both people are virgins but can still be great if the guy you marry isn't.
He may not have been promiscuous and knows he erred and sinned (like me).
But he'll see and experience your Christian love.... and be glad you waited for him....
He'll also be glad you didn't condemn him when he honestly told you he wasn't a virgin...

This isn't a slap at you, Rose, and I truly admire and respect women and men like you who hold-off...

Repeating for emphasis.

Larry Mondello · Apr 23, 2012

groups postings said:
Rose,
I truly support you for being a virgin ( I really wish I had remained one),

.....

I view a virgin woman/man in his/her late 20s as a "bonus" and a good thing.

Not necessary nor "required," but a good thing.

When I was in my early 20s in college and a new Christian, I wanted to date and marry a
"...godly, Christian virgin woman...."
Of course, I gave-up that "requirement" (it was more of a preference) as I got older and now realize a woman can be the first two without being the third.

So I wanted a woman like you.
But married a non-virgin.

If we peeled back the onion (going with the onion motiff) a little, we'd surely find some faults in your life, right? Things you'd not want to tell others about, correct?
So please, Rose, stop the fighting here.

Larry Mondello · Apr 23, 2012

Rose,
This brings up something I saw on another forum.

Originally Posted by newwave

To those who waited for the right person, you gave your partner a terrific gift. For those who are still waiting, I truly respect that you have enough self respect not to just lose it. I lost mine at 16 to a guy I thought loved me, only to have him ditch me a month later for someone else. If I could take it back I wish I could and give it to someone who cared.

Originally Posted by friendsoulmate

So newwave, do you fantasize about being a virgin man's first sexual experience? If so, then why? The reason I ask, is because your fascination with male virgins has come up several times in many of your posts.
When you were young, you wanted to fornicate, so you did.

Now that you are older, you wish you could undo the fornication, be a new virgin, and then lose your virginity after you are married. This is just a fantasy. It won't happen.

I am the 40-year-old virgin, Christian man. I am also introverted in public, most of the time, which makes it difficult to make friends.
I would never want to lose my virginity to someone like you, because you are not like me. I want my soulmate to be similar to me, so we can both lose our virginity together, within marriage.

That 40 y.o. virgin man's throwing rocks at that woman didn't make him look good and shows some pride in his attitude. All Christians are saved by grace and approach their sins with sadness... so him bragging about him being a virgin @40 isn't such a good thing.

That guy said he wouldn't want to lose his virginity to someone like that non-virgin.
Methinks it would be kind of divine judgment

if he did fall in love and want to marry a woman like her.

Blessedj01 · Apr 23, 2012

Jade Margery said:
Hmm, I did go back and read through it. Yes, I see now how that completely justifies making cruel and rude comments about her anatomy ten pages later. You've certainly shown yourself to be the bigger person. Allow me to do a little dance for your triumph.

In other news, I think Blessed1 gets the prize for best use of an onionhead emoticon. Sometimes I wonder where those things even came from...

Sweet! I like winning stuff. ;P

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