The Holidays

[Bianca01]

Here it is that time of year again. The Holidays. I'm already feeling so depressed. For anyone who was molested by a family member and struggles around the Holidays... I identify with you. I feel once again like the one messing up everyone else's Holiday plans not wanting to be around the abuser. Even though I've made my mind up not to be involved, I still miss "what should be" and find it hard just to accept "what is".

 

[bubblefish]

I know how the holiday season can be difficult, especially as you said when it is a time to be around family.
Are there other things you can do over this time? I have found that spending time with friends or doing volunteer work over the season can sometimes help. You are still around people but not near your abuser and the people who hurt you.

 

[Nienor]

I don't want to go home and to my home church because my abuser has started going there again I don't think I've ever felt more awful then this summer when I asked my dad (and pastor) to ask someone *not* to come to church. The guilt is the worst part

So I don't know exactly what you're going through, but I think I know how it feels. Hopefully he'll have the decency not to come to church while I'm home this time...

 

[.Sabre.]

You're not alone. The holidays are difficult for me too.

 

[Taylor43]

Your not alone i want to be home alone this year, Holidays are sad for me. I just want to be home with Grandpa, my pets thats all i want