The Grief Support Board

[StarryEyedPea]

Hi ya.
Was just wondering if this Grief Support board was aimed at and only for people grieving the death of someone, or can other types of grieving be included?

The reason I am asking, is because I struggle with grief, long story, maybe for another time, but through my grief or non grief for a loved one who died, alot of other issues were opened up including the grief for other people who havnt actually died, but are still not in my life...

make sense? Hope so, would be good to get some replies and would really like to post on this board and try and support and get some support, however i dont want to rub anyone the wrong way, because like i said, i am struggling with the fact someone died, but also the fact other people are not here, who maybe should be, maybe not! I dont know!

Anyway
Thanks
Starry Eyed Pea ...

 

[StarryEyedPea]

any reason for no replies?

 

[Strong in Him]

Hi StarryEyedPea,

I don't often come on here, but I would have thought that it's for all kinds of grief, not just that following the death of another person. After I became ill, I had to give up my nurses' training, my income and my plans for the future, and a counsellor said to me that that was a lot of losses. Any kind of loss causes grief, sometimes very intense grief. I have read about parents with handicapped children grieving the loss of a healthy child. They were not mourning a physical death, but rather the death of their hopes for their son or daughter. Ie, they might be unable to live a fulfilling life, get a job, get married and so on. These kinds of losses are, I think, just as valid as the loss of someone through death. Sometimes it seems they are harder to overcome because we may still have to live with them on a day to day basis.

I hope that makes sense? These are just my thoughts, and I'm not an expert.

God bless

 

[shakingthedustoffmyfeet]

Dear Starry Eyed Pea:

Are you saying that you miss and grieve for people you loved but who do not make themselves available to you? If so, this is another form of loss, and loss involves grief. For example, some people are estranged from their siblings because of painful issues. I think that hurts even worse than death sometimes because of the rejection factor. When someone we loves dies, it is human nature to seek restortation of relationships that have "died." We want to reach out and to hold onto those we love while we still can. Unfortunately, the person on the other end often does not see things this way. I have often asked myself why people drop out of relationships. There is no easy answer. I think sometimes that guilt is involved. We cannot change the hearts of others, but we can ask God to restore our own hearts. We can pray for the individuals we no longer hear from.
If this is a romantic relationship that causes you to grieve, I encourage you to give the situation to God. It does not matter if you have to do this every day; keep giving the situation to God until your heart no longer grieves. God bless and keep you. I am sorry for your loss.

 

[StarryEyedPea]

withgreatmercy,,,
thankyou for the post, and i will respond to it when i can find the words and the right way to !

god bless
sep x