Hello! 33 year old virgin and ex-athiest/agonistic who's went through the same kind of thing as you have. Feeling terrible and self-conscious due to arbitrary standards set by the world.
And even if you don't follow them or know they are wrong, they don't go away.
First off, don't listen to those guys. They're very hateful towards women and are driven by self rather than becoming men that women can love and trust. God called us to be protectors and providers and to treat women not only with respect, but with grace. As for why so many people have trouble with dating? Well you can blame Satan, the rise of social media, and this generation's tendency towards isolation.
If I was some top-level hacker, I would shut that forum down over and over again purely out of bitter spite. I couldn't take that place anymore, the massive egos those alpha male morons have. I had could write a book on how egotistical they are. Sadly, these are the dudes that get the women. The world is a backwards place. I'm not like them anyway, I don't constantly think about sex the way they do.
You don't define yourself by whether or not you have a woman in your life. You define yourself as being a child of God. Having a mate is just one part of the bigger picture. Not saying there's anything wrong with wanting a woman. I certainly want one, and God called Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply. But the point of sex and procreation isn't for the sake of it, it's to glorify God.
Yeah, sorry man, I don't believe the Adam and Eve thing and I never will. If you understood the science of Earth, you wouldn't either. What if someone is born deformed and/or unattractive? What about them? Do we get all the things in heaven that we failed to in life?
You're right to say the world is pretty much stuck in high school. That's the fact about life: We live in a fallen world outside of God's design. And this isn't because God "failed" or anything like that. It's because we are given freewill. We are given the decision to choose whether or not to accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior. And even beyond that, we're given the choice to follow God's leading for us or to go our own way. And time and time again, when we go our own way, it ends in disaster. But God is also merciful, and reaches out to us no matter how badly we mess things up, no matter what depraved things we did. For as sinners, we can't pay the price of our sin on our own. Only through Christ are we saved. Only through repentance and accepting Jesus can we be saved.
The world was "fallen" from the start. The world was never this amazing place where nothing could go wrong, it was always garbage. If Adam and Eve were real, there was already a murder with just 4 people, not a good start. Why did God create the world anyway? Just for "love"? A lot of us are given lives we never asked for, and now a lot of us have to go to hell because we don't believe in something we'll never see. That's absolutely stupid. We keep going back to this "God wants us to do this and take this path" when he knows beforehand that some people won't, given their upbringing and where they were born.
You ask why God would make certain people to "fail" or not be religious. The fact of the matter is that all of creation, the trees, the animals, the sky, children, ect. are all proof that God exists, so that no one has any excuse to deny God. We're all given a choice, so God is completely justified to send us to Hell if we choose not to turn to Him. Even if a person doesn't know about Jesus, this fact will lead them to desire to seek God, and as disciples, it's our job to spread the good news and lead them away from false religions and pagan lifestyles.
No, that stuff doesn't automatically act as proof of God. At least not all of it, as there is a scientific explanation for all of that, which can be tested and seen at any time. Granted, God creating the world overall is not the worst thing I've heard, but the world is not 6,000 years old. That's impossible. Am I gonna believe something that is logically proven and can be at any time? Or am I gonna believe what some ancient book says just because it's there? I asked this before, did God expect ALL humans to be believers? He should know that we all won't be like that, can't God see the future? Set up to fail.
"so God is completely justified to send us to Hell if we choose not to turn to Him." This is absolute trash. Look at some of the unfair and horrific lives some people have when they have done nothing to anyone. Can you blame them for not being Christians? Oh well, gotta send them to hell anyway! Christian logic. Another thing about Christianity is everything has to be about hell hell hell and hell. There's never any middle ground. Did someone with a heart of gold but was an atheist die? Then show him he's wrong instead of just blindly sending someone to hell forever.
I'll say it again, if God knows the future, he knows who will be followers and who won't. God already knows the ending, so he's creating people that are destined to go to hell if that's the case. Don't blame the explosive after you were the one who created it and lit the fuse.
As for your statements on sexuality, God only created sex for a man and woman in the covenant of marriage. Anything outside of that is a perversion of God's natural design. So technically, a "homosexual person" doesn't exist. That's a lie created by society that's so obsessed with giving themselves an identity. It's also used to justify committing heinous acts and to cover up how things like porn and predatory behavior have harmed our children. The fact is, those who commit such acts are people who've been hurt in some way and need healing. Homosexual acts do not define them. God does.
I don't care what God's stance is on this, someone's orientation does not make the whole person. Doesn't God know this stuff beforehand? If someone is gay or bi, who cares? Who does it hurt? How does it affect you? There are more disgusting straight people out there than gay ones. There are plenty of gay people that live completely normal and healthy lives, why does it have to be a big deal? Aren't we supposed to not judge and love thy neighbor? I will not judge based on orientation.
A lot of people say that being gay is the product of Satan. How? Is Satan waving his magic wand and turning random people gay just for fun? I'd like an answer to that. Instead of turning people into his minions outright, he just... makes them gay? Doesn't make sense.
Finally, no one is good. Not even one. You don't go to Heaven based on whether or not you're good. We're all sinners. We've all fallen short in some way. Jesus is the only one who lived a sinless life, and through His sacrifice, the debts we've accumulated over our lives through our sin are paid. Including ones you've made after you're saved.
No one's good, huh? Whose fault is that? Even indirectly, God is still the overarching reason for everything; good and bad. We didn't create ourselves, we didn't ask for life, God did. He created everyone for unknown reasons because... he was bored I guess? A lot of you Christians have this do or die black-or-white views on life, and life is NOT black and white. It's easy to judge others when everything is going fine for you, or if someone thinks different than you.
The reason why God did that, the reason why He had anything at all to do with us, is because He loves us. And He absolutely loves you. It pains Him to see you go through hardship and pain. It pains Him that you don't believe. All He wants from you is to come back home to Him. When you do, your life will be changed. I won't say it'll be easier though. We still live in a fallen world with a tendency to sin ourselves. But the gift of eternity that He gives to His children far outweighs the trails we go through in this life.
Ooohhhh, it pains him... well he sure does a damn good job of not helping a lot of people out. Let me go back to the homosexual thing. There are gay people that have been mocked, ridiculed, ostracized and put down in more ways that I probably can't mention here. There's talking about them, and then there's
being them. These are people that go through so much confusion, they beg to be normal, they just want to change, but can't. Oh yeah, now they gotta go to hell too just for that. Boy, your God sure does sound loving!
If God doesn't like homosexuality that much, then
why doesn't he just remove it?! Does God's magic not work on sexual orientation? Why do homosexual people have to pray 20 times a day to maybe have it removed? Yeah, let's condemn someone just for that. If there's a slice of cheese on a sandwich that you don't like, you can just remove the slice and continue eating, you don't condemn the whole sandwich and set it on fire for all eternity. Or maybe you just eat it with the cheese anyway because it's not all that bad either way. See that? If us humans can look past someone's orientation/beliefs and see more to the person, then I'd like to think God can too.
I pray that one day soon you'll understand. I went into Christianity with selfish motives in mind, and over time realized just how selfish a human being I was. And even before that, I always hated myself and the things I've done. I still struggle with that, but I know now that God doesn't define me by my past or my flaws. By accepting His gift, He's made me His son. And that's all you really need.
I am already aware of myself, I know my flaws and I know I'm far from perfect, but my sense of logic and morality is still better than a lot of religious people out there. I don't hold up signs that say "God hates ___s" because that's absolutely ignorant. I have been pushed farther away from Christianity because of these replies. Mind you, I already believe in the existence and trials of Jesus, and I do actually love the guy, but I don't believe in God at the moment. And even if I did, I would still not be religious because of the non-logic and hypocrisy that people inject in the religion.
Did you hear of the Kingdom of heaven? did you hear about free will that God gave us? do you pretend to know better than God that you can judge him?
Yes. Yes. And sadly yes, if things don't add up. I don't believe things because "I should just believe, no excuse." If I see 1+1=400, I point that out, and that's what's going on here. The truth is, no one truly knows what God does with some believers or non-believers. Doesn't matter what that dusty outdated book says. God would be the only one who knows anyway.