The Five Love Languages

[brea]

I just mentioned this in another thread so I figured I'd post about it. There's a series of books by Gary Chapman called "The Five Love Languages" (one for spouses, one for kids, etc.). 'Love languages' are ways that we best receive love.

The five are:
Quality Time
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Words of Affirmation
Physical Touch

So, if you 'love language' is quality time, you feel most loved when your partner spends time with you, etc.

I think it's not only important to understand these things for romantic relationships, but also for friendships, parenting, etc. We tend to give love in the way that we best receive it, instead of in the way that the other person best receives it. So if you're a parent and know that your child's love language is "physical touch", it will be more meaningful to them to give them a hug then to compliment/encourage them verbally.



Anyway, here's a quiz that can help you find yours:
http://www.youthnetsouthampton.org.uk/breakout/lovelanguages.php


My results were:


The Five Love Languages
Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results

Physical Touch: 12
Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 5
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 0





What are yours?

 

[GoodNewsJim]

Your primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Words of Affirmation.

Complete set of results

Physical Touch: 11
Words of Affirmation: 9
Quality Time: 7
Acts of Service: 3
Receiving Gifts: 0

 

[PureSolace]

The Five Love Languages
Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results

Quality Time: 10
Physical Touch: 8
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0

What do I win?

 

[Niels]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch (although I got the same score for "Words of Affirmation")


Complete set of results
Quality Time: 10
Physical Touch: 7
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

 

[radhead]

Physical Touch and Quality Time.

Complete set of results

Physical Touch: 10
Quality Time:
10
Receiving Gifts:
5
Acts of Service:
4
Words of Affirmation:
1

 

[latteda]

Great video, PureSolace. Haha.

My highest one is physical touch and lowest is receiving gifts.

 

[Balugon]

I didnt like that questionaire much. I thought it was way too obvious which side a person was choosing, and some of the wording made it hard to imagine that thing being in practice. I also skipped some questions because the two sides were both worth the same. As can tell, three of my areas are almost equal, which i believe lines up with how i feel, because i think a lot of different kinds of things are important in love expression.


Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Acts of Service.


Complete set of results

Quality Time: 11 Acts of Service: 5 Words of Affirmation: 5 Physical Touch: 4 Receiving Gifts: 2

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results

Quality Time: 11Physical Touch: 8Acts of Service: 6Words of Affirmation: 5Receiving Gifts: 0

 

[TwistTim]

though I fail to see how this quiz doesn't lead one to chose certain results to not be selfish (Not that I tampered with mine....) nevertheless... and I don't like the compairing statements method... I'd prefer a scale (1 to 5 - strongly disagree to strongly agree) or another more randomized method..... nevertheless I took it......

therefore, here are my results.......

our primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Words of Affirmation.

Complete set of results

Quality Time: 10
Words of Affirmation: 8
Acts of Service: 6
Physical Touch: 3
Receiving Gifts: 3
I am a well rounded lover.... and Ladies, I remind you, I am single.....

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

Mine are Words of Affirmation and Quality Time.

 

[GuacaMolly]

Hmm, interesting concept, but I think that the test taken when single and married might give different results. Right now, it's fair to say that I feel like I couldn't get enough physical touch.

I think after a while words of affirmation would be just as important.

 

[deliciousBass]

I'm a big fan of this book. I recommend everybody to read it.


Your primary love language is probably
Words of Affirmation
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.


Complete set of results

Words of Affirmation: 10
Physical Touch: 9
Quality Time: 8
Receiving Gifts: 3
Acts of Service: 0

 

[Im_A]

The Five Love Languages
Your primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results

Quality Time: 11Physical Touch: 8Acts of Service: 6Words of Affirmation: 3Receiving Gifts: 2


i agree with this. and the results showing that quality time and physical touch is pretty darn close resembles me pretty accurately

i was shocked tho by the results on one matter. i thought i was answering more physical touch, but since the results came out pretty accurately, i'm not complaining any.

 

[latteda]

I have often said that I believe there is a 6th love language called "Teasing."

That would be my number one. Haha. If someone doesn't tease me, I assume they don't like me.

 

[Wren]

The Five Love Languages
Your primary love language is probably
Acts of Service
with a secondary love language being (tied with Quality Time)
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results

Acts of Service: 10
Physical Touch: 6
Quality Time: 6
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 3

 

[Carrye]

It's reassuring to see the guys with a primary language of Quality Time. I am very much a quality time person, but I always assumed that was more of a "girl thing."

 

[jcj3803]

Touch, time, words, in that order. Probably why my pseudo-LDR didn't work, especially since she was pretty non-verbal.

 

[RefinedByFire]

Some of those questions are kinda girlie. Some were a toss up but here's my results anyway:

Physical Touch: 9
Quality Time: 8
Acts of Service: 7
Words of Affirmation: 5
Receiving Gifts: 1

 

[Im_A]

It's reassuring to see the guys with a primary language of Quality Time. I am very much a quality time person, but I always assumed that was more of a "girl thing."

for me, quality time and the physical touch are the two best things about relationships. two things that are equally worth waiting/being patient for. as toney the tiger said, "THEY ARE GRRRRRREAT!"

 

[PureSolace]

Great video, PureSolace. Haha.

My highest one is physical touch and lowest is receiving gifts.

Yea, well apparently not everyone on CF thought it was great... it was flagged and "Holy Roller Mod Bombed" quickly...

Another win for the brownshirts!