The dreaded word - Vasectomy!

[Tini]

I've been thinking about ging for the snip. But like any red blooded male - I cringe at the thought (the unknown).

I've put this on the parenting rather than Men's Forum - as I thought it was more a male parenting issue.

Please could you all give me your views; insights; experiences etc. aound this as I'm not sure if it's the way to go or not.

Thanks

 

[HeatherJay]

Tini, fear not My husband got snipped about 2 years ago...when our youngest daughter was about 6 months old. The precedure itself took about 30 minutes in the doctors office. They gave him two little shots on either side to numb him. He said he felt a little discomfort but nothing that really hurt. He got two tiny little stitches on either side where they made the incisions (less than half an inch or so). He walked out of the office all by himself. He had it done on a Friday to give himself the weekend to recuperate (sp?) for work on Monday. He laid on the couch and got pampered most of the weekend. The doctor gave him pain medication...but, he didn't have to take a single pill. He was a little tender for a week or so but it wasn't bad at all. He went back to work on Monday like it was no big deal. The worst part of the whole thing was waiting 6 weeks to get some lovin'...not because of pain or anything like that...only because they can't guarantee that you won't still get pregnant until they do some tests to make sure...you know.

Anyway, you were probably looking for advice from men, but I thought I'd give you my husband's experience with it. It was the way to go for us for several reasons. It was much simpler than me having my tubes tied. It was better than having to worry about birth control since we felt 2 kids was enough for us. If we ever change our mind and want more kids, the success rate with reversal is greater. Also, it's only fair since I was the one suffering through hours upon hours of excruciating labor

Hope this helps

Love, Heather

 

[Tini]

Thanks HeatherJay
Exactly the type of input I was looking for.

 

[Kelly]

The jury's still out on this one....I don't mind wearing a jimmy.

 

[stubbornkelly]

They can also do it without the incisions. Talk to your urologist (because not all doctors do it that way), but the "no scalpel" method has been around for over 20 years.

As long as you use some other sort of birth control, you shouldn't have to go without sex for the six weeks (ack, Heather!) or so it takes for them to be sure your sperm are completely out.

 

[potopaj]

I was worried when I first did it. Kept reading all the things that could go wrong and imagined it happening to me.

My Doctor was really cool about my anxiety over it. He said everyone he does knows it's the right thing to do, but doesn't want to. He even wrote a subscription for some pain meds tylenol 3, and to keep a cold beer there to keep swelling down. He said the combo would knock me out for a few days, and that's what I would want. he was right.

I'm not gonna lie, the first 3 days felt like i'd been kicked by a football player. the tylenol 3 and beer helped alot. It was good after that though. after 2 weeks or so no real pain was there, and It's nice to feel free-er to not have to worry about carrying around anything, or having my wife on birth control, which screwed up her hormones.

The long term benifits much outway the little while of pain I had. I'd recomend it in a heartbeat.

Just make sure you and your wife are on the same page.

Jason

 

[Wild_Thrasher]

The drugs were good.

Almost too good. I made the mistake of thinking everything was fine about 8 hours after my surgery. My 2 year old came running up to me and I bent over and started to pick him up. Once I regained consciousness from the pain, I needed to explain why daddy had curled up into the fetal position.


In all seriousness, it wasn't anywhere near as painful as I thougt it would be, and it only took me out of comission for a weekend. I just planned it around Super Bowl weekend.

 

[openeyes]

I have to agree I had it done some 10 years ago..... no big deal. Sat around in the recliner for a while with an icepack on my lap, and yes it feels like you been kicked. That was the worst part....
I got alot of sympathy and served, to a point when she figured out I was playing it up.
Bottom line it's no big deal and I think it shows quite a commitment to your wife...... after all she is the one that went through the pain of childbirth.
God Bless

 

[Tini]

Thanks guys (& gals) - but now I need to build up the courage and make an appointment whne I've got a weekend spare.

 

[Kaylynn]

I've been thinking about ging for the snip. But like any red blooded male - I cringe at the thought (the unknown).

I've put this on the parenting rather than Men's Forum - as I thought it was more a male parenting issue.

Please could you all give me your views; insights; experiences etc. aound this as I'm not sure if it's the way to go or not.

Thanks

Make sure you get a well-experienced doctor with plenty of sucess rates.

I'm a vasectomy baby...that just goes to show...if God isn't done giving you children...you're going to have them anyway!