I went to the doctor for the first time in years...They did an ekg on me for my heart and he wants me to get a physical. I didnt realize I had been avoiding the Dr for years, becuase I dont like to disrobe. I am only comfortable with nudity with my husband. Now I cant tell if this is because my abuse or just how modest and respectful of my body I have become since being a Chrsitian. I think i can handle the physical if my husband were with me. Even when its just women, it still makes me uncomfortable. Any thoughts?
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Look, if you are uncomfortable disrobing that is okay. You are not weird. You feel what you feel.justcallmejamie said:
I freak at the dentist, the loss of control and having a man looming over me.... I really freak.
If it helps to have your husband ask him to go with you.
There are similar triggers we all have and some that are very different.
You can perhaps try a mantra kinda like, "I am in a safe place. I am okay."
I get claustrophic easily and feel that way at the dentist, I have to say over and over "This too shall pass...."
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Social conditioning, bad experiences, some Christian teaching can all contribute to feeling ashamed of one's body.
I can accept that degree of 'modesty' when a third party is involved, but when a genuine discomfort with our body exists within ourselves that is a very different matter.
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I can accept that degree of 'modesty' when a third party is involved, but when a genuine discomfort with our body exists within ourselves that is a very different matter.
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John has a point.
I assumed as you posted under sexual assault that the Doctor was a trigger or a byproduct of an assault. If that is not what you were trying to say, then I misunderstood. And perhaps it is extreme shyness or another avenue.
If sexual assault is the culprit I know the triggers can really bring back fear.
I assumed as you posted under sexual assault that the Doctor was a trigger or a byproduct of an assault. If that is not what you were trying to say, then I misunderstood. And perhaps it is extreme shyness or another avenue.
If sexual assault is the culprit I know the triggers can really bring back fear.
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yea its the nudity itself that bothers me. Only with my husband am I comfortable. I have a hard time deciding whether its becuase I see my body as a holy temple or becuase i just dont like getting naked for anyone other than my husband...i guess its both. I have a dentist appt to make and I keep putting it off. I hate being out of control too....I also cant stand when others drive me anywhere...i always need to be able to pick up and go....
Hi John!
Hi John!
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If you like taking control then taking your clothes off will be very uncomfortable. That makes you vulnerable, and that you cannot contemplate.
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Is it ok though? Is it wrong? is it somthing i should try to overcome or is it even worth it? Is it reasonable John?
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That is a very problematic question!
There are two approaches. The majority view is that Genesis teaches that God clothed us to hide our shame at being naked. I personally don't accept that view because I consider the exegesis behing that view to be a bit suspect.
The other view goes back to the initail creation of mankind and the words 'naked and not ashamed'. They see salvation as allowing us to pick up on God's original purposes. On that basis we should be looking at what God originally intended for mankind and attempting as much as we can to restore life back from the effects of the fall wherever we can. Thus, body shame was not part of what God intends for us.
What that can mean and how Christians impliment that perspective can vary bewteen Christians, but the different starting points can lead to very different outcomes, far wider of course than just how we view our bodies. I hold to the later view, as that allows me to incorporate the whole of life into a Christian perspective, and gives a great vision for life - working with God to establish an outpost of His Kingdom in whatever I do.
This has probably raised more questions than answers. You can PM me and I can send you additional information on understanding the early Genesis story if you want me to.
Bless you
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There are two approaches. The majority view is that Genesis teaches that God clothed us to hide our shame at being naked. I personally don't accept that view because I consider the exegesis behing that view to be a bit suspect.
The other view goes back to the initail creation of mankind and the words 'naked and not ashamed'. They see salvation as allowing us to pick up on God's original purposes. On that basis we should be looking at what God originally intended for mankind and attempting as much as we can to restore life back from the effects of the fall wherever we can. Thus, body shame was not part of what God intends for us.
What that can mean and how Christians impliment that perspective can vary bewteen Christians, but the different starting points can lead to very different outcomes, far wider of course than just how we view our bodies. I hold to the later view, as that allows me to incorporate the whole of life into a Christian perspective, and gives a great vision for life - working with God to establish an outpost of His Kingdom in whatever I do.
This has probably raised more questions than answers. You can PM me and I can send you additional information on understanding the early Genesis story if you want me to.
Bless you
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Well the problem lies in my inability to determine whether it is body shame...and if it is a body shame thing... does it come from being molested? Or is it a simply common thing not to want to be veiwed naked by any one other person than your spouse? My question is this....If I cant tell where it is coming from...is it even an issue. You know John it is hard for me to distinguish my feelings and their origins from years of just shutting off....I guess this is when we go to the Lord in prayer, It is only he that knows. I am gonna pray John and see what Jesus tells me.
I am going to a womens retreat this weekend and taking a litte time off of work so Ill get back to you next week on what Jesus said. Thanks for your help John.
I am going to a womens retreat this weekend and taking a litte time off of work so Ill get back to you next week on what Jesus said. Thanks for your help John.
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