The difficulty in loving your n eighbor

[Beanieboy]

Most of us will help out a friend when in need. You have to if you want any friends at all, because you help them move, and they will return the favor.

Howeverl, I believe that like Jesus, one should live as a servant for mankind. By this, I mean to gladly help anyone - strangerrs, etc., and to humble yourself before then. Hindus believe that all those in your path were proably once a relative, and that you should revere them as gods.

My problem is with those who are in a place of priviledgel,wealth, and/or power. I teach English as a Second Language. It is a private school, and costs a lot, but you learn really fast. Most of the time, I love my class. The students are funny, interesting, and just cool people. Then there are those that clearly came from wealth. They treat you as a servant, do no work and don't understand when there is a reprocussion, like failing. They don't acknowledge anything you do for them, but expect it, coming for a place of entitlement.

It wears down my soul. They often try to use their iPods during class, come late, and usually speak their own language, not wantiing to be there. Pychically, it drains. And yet, I have to be a servant to both rude and courteous people, and I should be thankful to them, because they are my teacher.

Does anyone ever experience this? What do you do with the anger and feeling of being put down? What do you do to stay motivated? What do you do with, say, an office mate that just seems relentless when interactinng with you, or implies their greater value as a soul because of ranking, or weath?

I'm not sure where to go for motivation when I feel drained of that energy.

Or is it ok to tell them off, and just lay into them?

 

[colgraff]

Does anyone ever experience this? What do you do with the anger and feeling of being put down? What do you do to stay motivated? What do you do with, say, an office mate that just seems relentless when interactinng with you, or implies their greater value as a soul because of ranking, or weath?

I'm not sure where to go for motivation when I feel drained of that energy.

Or is it ok to tell them off, and just lay into them?

I see this all the time in the business world. Higher levels of (usually) management treat underlings as slaves. I also see it in restaurants. People dressed well treating the wait staff like crap and expecting great service.

Both instances get my ire up quickly.

Most of the time I will say something to the waiter(ess) and encourage them (and usually tip them more).

Saying something to the perpetrator rarely improves the situation (though made me feel better). So I try to help the victim.

/personal rant
As far as I'm concerned nobody on this planet has a right to treat others like what you describe.

My motto is "There is honor in ALL work, done well". So I do not value the work of a doctor over that of a ditch digger. Both are needed.

Before the accusations of Communist happen: No I don't believe they should get paid the same. I just have respect for each.
/end rant

 

[Holy Roller]

Here's when we learn the true nature of the divinity of Yeshua Christ, because as you deal with the snobs while trying to maintain the Christian outlook, you will fail every time. I cite the following scripture as evidence:

Yeshua Christ: “But to you who are willing to listen, I say, love your enemies! Do good to those who hate you. Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, offer the other cheek also. If someone demands your coat, offer your shirt also. Give to anyone who asks; and when things are taken away from you, don’t try to get them back. Do to others as you would like them to do to you."

You will find it impossible to live up to this charge that is demanded of us. And because of that, it must have been Divinity that said it, since no human is capable of it.

 

[Holy Roller]

This is what Yeshua says will happen with us if we were actually capable of doing as he commands:

“Love your enemies! Do good to them. Lend to them without expecting to be repaid. Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be children of the Most High G-d, for He is kind to those who are unthankful and wicked. You must be compassionate, just as your Father is compassionate.

 

[stan1980]

Most of us will help out a friend when in need. You have to if you want any friends at all, because you help them move, and they will return the favor.

Howeverl, I believe that like Jesus, one should live as a servant for mankind. By this, I mean to gladly help anyone - strangerrs, etc., and to humble yourself before then. Hindus believe that all those in your path were proably once a relative, and that you should revere them as gods.

My problem is with those who are in a place of priviledgel,wealth, and/or power. I teach English as a Second Language. It is a private school, and costs a lot, but you learn really fast. Most of the time, I love my class. The students are funny, interesting, and just cool people. Then there are those that clearly came from wealth. They treat you as a servant, do no work and don't understand when there is a reprocussion, like failing. They don't acknowledge anything you do for them, but expect it, coming for a place of entitlement.

It wears down my soul. They often try to use their iPods during class, come late, and usually speak their own language, not wantiing to be there. Pychically, it drains. And yet, I have to be a servant to both rude and courteous people, and I should be thankful to them, because they are my teacher.

Does anyone ever experience this? What do you do with the anger and feeling of being put down? What do you do to stay motivated? What do you do with, say, an office mate that just seems relentless when interactinng with you, or implies their greater value as a soul because of ranking, or weath?

I'm not sure where to go for motivation when I feel drained of that energy.

Or is it ok to tell them off, and just lay into them?

I've never been that bothered about punctuality, I guess in this case if they turn up late it's their loss. If they're being disruptive though, I think you really need to lay down the law. Be firm, ban ipods and mobile phones, and if they're continually not paying attention and disrupting the class, ask them if they want to be there, if they still continue warn them that you'll ask them to leave if this carries on.

It is hard to find a balance I would imagine, when you're a teacher, as you don't want to be too soft or too hard. My best teachers were the ones you could have a laugh with, but they remained firm so you couldn't take liberties. Also, randomly picking on individuals to answer questions in front of the class works well to keep them alert. It worked on me anyway!

 

[OphidiaPhile]

I am never punctual and really do not care if I am in any way and do not care if others are either.

 

[Polycarp_fan]

Most of us will help out a friend when in need. You have to if you want any friends at all, because you help them move, and they will return the favor.

Howeverl, I believe that like Jesus, one should live as a servant for mankind. By this, I mean to gladly help anyone - strangerrs, etc., and to humble yourself before then. Hindus believe that all those in your path were proably once a relative, and that you should revere them as gods.

My problem is with those who are in a place of priviledgel,wealth, and/or power. I teach English as a Second Language. It is a private school, and costs a lot, but you learn really fast. Most of the time, I love my class. The students are funny, interesting, and just cool people. Then there are those that clearly came from wealth. They treat you as a servant, do no work and don't understand when there is a reprocussion, like failing. They don't acknowledge anything you do for them, but expect it, coming for a place of entitlement.

It wears down my soul. They often try to use their iPods during class, come late, and usually speak their own language, not wantiing to be there. Pychically, it drains. And yet, I have to be a servant to both rude and courteous people, and I should be thankful to them, because they are my teacher.

Does anyone ever experience this? What do you do with the anger and feeling of being put down? What do you do to stay motivated? What do you do with, say, an office mate that just seems relentless when interactinng with you, or implies their greater value as a soul because of ranking, or weath?

I'm not sure where to go for motivation when I feel drained of that energy.

Or is it ok to tell them off, and just lay into them?

Interesting B-B, the behavior of the kids in your class sounds exactly like the behavior of the some of the more less economically fortunate children I have worked with over the last twenty-plus years. My wife is a teacher now in public school, coming from years working in private schools. The kids that are unruly, rude, obnoxious and that demand a treatement of privilege, are far and wide from the most poor economic situations.

They treat you as a servant, do no work and don't understand when there is a reprocussion, like failing. They don't acknowledge anything you do for them, but expect it, coming for a place of entitlement.

It wears down my soul.

You may want to do some research into the attitudes of youth in public schools in the inner-city and anywhere else these days. I find the life lived following worldy desires and behaviors shows the repercussion of a life lived demanding privilege/ I also do not see this kind of behavior being displayed too often in children from traditional nuclear homes.

The ones refusing to give up their cell phones, their iPod's and MP3 players, the ones that are rude, crude, curse, are violent and agressive almost to a child, come from the poorer side of the economic structure. I believe that is well-documented. Even celebrated in Hollywood creativity.

Take for example those that adhere to the inner-city "culture", and, the "troubled youth" segment of the education realm. The incredibly high percentage of the children acting out and engaging in inappropriate behavior are almost exclusively youth NOT from a wealthy family.

The young people that are respectful, successful, educated, polite and involved in helping others, in many, many cases, who, are in the majority, that come from homes with two parents, and are finacially secure.

There should be some statistics in your OP, of "what kind" of youth are selfish and feel privileged to those that are sweet and well behaved.

Guess what you'll find?

What percentage of young people from private and Christian schools act in the rude way you describe compared to young people coming out of our public school systems?

Not only do the kids from the Christian private schools act like Jesus in reaching out and helping others, while they are in school, they are not rude to society with a selfish attitude and behaviors of entitlement as well while at school, they go on to lives of caring for others, not being a burden on society based on selfish motives, and to care for the neighbors as a matter of conviction.

Beanieboy, how about presenting your posts with what Buddha and Buddhists would do?